But this was NOT always the case. I’d like to pretend that this has always been the course of my life. It’s embarrassing sometimes to open up about your past and your failures. But I’m hoping that if I do, maybe someone out there will feel some encouragement, depending upon where you are in life.
During college I mostly worked for Elsie. Remember how I said I was a wedding photographer? Well, so was she. She had a small business doing wedding photography and portraits, and I mainly worked as her second shooter. Sometimes I did weddings on my own if we booked two on the same day. After that ended, I worked for a little while at a pizza place, and then I worked for Elsie again. She then had a thriving Etsy shop, selling prints and original artwork. I managed her customer service as well as packed and shipped orders. I did this throughout college.
During college I also started performing in plays and taking acting classes (outside of my college classes). I had a few friends who were really involved in local theater, and I enjoyed it too. I really loved doing anything comedic. I made plans with a friend of mine to move after I finished college to pursue acting in Los Angeles. I knew less than five people in LA. But I loved acting.
So we did it. We moved into a TINY studio apartment in Hollywood. I took improv classes at Groundlings. I took commercial acting classes. I worked as an extra (a lot). I got my SAG card. After a while I got a commercial agent. I went to a few auditions (not many). I worked odd jobs. I was very, very poor.
After about three years I was nearly out of money. I was tired of my life in LA. And I was nowhere near becoming an actress of any kind. I wasn’t sure what my next move should be. I was very seriously considering taking out loans and going to law school. I even took my LSAT and started the application process. But I dunno. It didn’t feel right. 
Out of money and ideas, I finally gave in to her requests and moved home. Elsie was moving her business into a much larger building and expanding into selling vintage. I went from living on my own in Los Angeles and pursuing a career in acting, to living with my parents and helping my sister open her new shop location. Can you even imagine a more cliche situation? I won’t lie—I threw myself some pretty big pity parties those first few months. I cried a lot. I felt really defeated. I felt like I would forever be labeled a failure. 
Life is absolutely full of opportunities. Don’t let them pass you by simply because they aren’t the opportunities you thought you wanted. We don’t always know what direction our life will go. I think it can be wise to try anything that comes your way, especially when you are young and trying to “figure it all out” (Spoiler: You won’t. Life is never that simple). Don’t set your heart on achieving one thing, only one specific way, in order to feel happy and accomplished. An amazing opportunity disguised as a mundane option may come your way tomorrow; don’t miss it.
2. Be honest about your strengths and expand on them.
I was good at working with my sister. We have always made a good team, because our strengths and weaknesses compliment each other. This was hard for me to see when I was younger, because I always felt like her achievements outweighed and looked better than mine. Instead of running away from a good situation, I should have fought to make it a great situation. Sometimes you have to be honest about what you’re good at. (A great place to start if you’re not sure is asking those closest to you.) If you enjoy something but it’s not a strength of yours, it might make a better hobby than career choice. That ended up being the case for me anyway.
3. Dreams don’t have to die, but they do sometimes have to change. Embrace it.
Even before I moved home from LA I felt afraid to do so, even though a part of me really wanted to. I felt that if I turned my back on my dream (to be an actress) then I was a failure. Being a “failure” is just a label that you give yourself. Don’t box yourself in like I did! It’s ok to change your dreams. It’s ok to pursue something else for a while if your current efforts don’t seem to be working. Embrace where your life seems to be headed, and forget the labels. Moving in with my parents after being a failed actress was the most cliche and embarrassing choice I’ve ever made. But it was also the BEST choice I’ve ever made.
4. Success is a process, not an event or state of being.
Being successful in whatever you are pursing in life is never going to magically happen one day and then it’s done. It’s an ongoing thing. You don’t always feel it. It doesn’t look the same in everyone’s life. And another really weird thing about it is you don’t always know it as it’s happening. Like I said, choosing to be a failed actress is what led me to my current dream job. This was a successful move, but it sure didn’t feel like it at the time. I felt anything but successful that year of my life. Don’t be discouraged if you’re not feeling successful this year. Keep going. Work hard. Play to your strengths. Take opportunities as they come. Be brave.
Thanks for letting me share this (somewhat embarrassing) piece of my life with you. xo. Emma
Credits// Author: Emma Chapman, Photography: Sarah Rhodes
1,236 Comments
Brilliant. Inspiring. thankful for this. 🙂
Thank you for this post. I really really needed to read this today. So glad to know I’m not the only one battling feelings like this – I just haven’t quite turned it around like you have yet!
What an amazing post. I really admire your honesty and, as the second sibling, understand where you’re coming from too. Congratulations on your amazing career (and I love your new haircut!) x
Really great post Emma! Encouraging and VERY inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
Emma,
I have been a big fan of this blog for what feels like forever. I admire you and your sister so much and often envy all of your creative genius. This post is by far my favorite. I am 24 and often feel lost or like I am failing… you are so inspirational! This has truly motivated me to not give up on my dreams! (even if I have a lot of them 😉 ) Thanks for being brave enough to share your story with all of us!
Xo,
Annalisa
This post was so encouraging to me. Thank you for your real-ness.
Thank you for this, Emma! So VERY encouraging!
Thank you, Emma!!! <3
xo Julia
Hi Emma,
I have been reading your blog for a long time but have never commented on anything before. I am very very moved by this article ( myself an actress in NYC ) and I just wanted to say that this is a little piece of wisedom I will cherish for a long time. Thank you. H
Holy crap, this was just what I needed today. Thanks for sharing, Emma!
Great post! helpful, sincere and natural. This is what helps your blog and your business work. Congratulations!
Things like this make me believe in you and your work even more. Small snippets into someone’s struck always help me paint a better picture of who they are and why I am a proud follower of everything ‘a beautiful mess’ is and represents.
Thank you so much for sharing, Emma. This is one of my favourite posts thus far (and I’ve been reading for years). It epitomizes the beauty and truth than can only be discovered once we embrace the messiness of life and identity!
Thank you for this Emma! Too often we assume that “success” is fixing everything that’s “wrong” with us. This is a beautiful reminder that we can find not just success, but happiness and fulfillment when we embrace our strengths instead. Best wishes to you all, always!
i just love you, emma! i think you’re an amazing woman and you inspire me to cook! i’ve learned i’m a pretty talented chef!
I was just having a pity party when this popped up on Facebook. Thanks for sharing, Emma! 🙂 I love that A Beautiful Mess is so relatable even after it’s grown so much. Love you guys, love this blog!
Love this – you and Elsie are a constant source of inspiration to me. Thank you for sharing your stories with us- and definitely don’t be embarrassed. You should be very proud <3
This hits close to home for me… I have recently finished my self pity parties and am working on going back to finish my bachelor’s degree and launching my graphic design shop, and this was very inspiring to me! I think you and Elsie are very lucky to have each other as sisters, best friends, AND business partners! I would love to be able to work so well with my sister OR best friend, but we all have very different careers! Thank you for sharing your inspiring story!
Tori
This is something that I have been struggling with for quite some time. Feeling like an absolute failure with failed dreams. I have so much talent and know where to put it that I see. So many ideas and not a clue where to start to make them a reality. This post was such an encouragement not to look over anything and not give up. The both of you I have been following for quite some time now. You are awesome and don’t ever forget it.
Thank you for this. 🙂 <3
I really needed this. My life hasn’t always been what I’d hoped to do, and my amazing plans have been foiled by Real Life more than a few times, but I’m working on it and finding my groove and hearing other people that I look up to say ‘hey, it takes time’ and showing that you don’t need to have the perfect life straight out of college is really a good message.
Thank you for sharing this! (And you totally deserve to brag. ;D)
Oh Emma this is a beautiful post and thank you for being so transparent. I’m 21 and graduating college in May and I have been evaluating job offers that have not been my dream job but you’re right success is not a state of being but a continuous thing. I’m learning that now. Thank you so much for this post.
Emma, this was just what I needed to read! I got laid off and had to move back in with my parents last year, and it’s hard to not feel like a failure all the time. But I’m working toward making my dreams happen, and though I know they may change, it’s good to know that everything will work out. Just like it did for you! 🙂
Thank you for sharing your story! I am still trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, so it is very encouraging to read about the paths other people follow.
Thanks for this Emma! I needed this encouragement today. I know exactly where you’ve been! This happened to me too, moved to LA for music and then moved back in with my parents:) Now living in London, but I really needed to read this, feeling discouraged. Best of luck!
thank you so much for posting this, i really needed to hear it. 🙂
Thank you for sharing this. I believe that things wil change for me too. I have a job but I don’t like it, it’s not who I am but I need money. Two months ago I started blog with my sister and it feels so right, like I found myself. I don’t have enough time to do everything I imagined because I work full time, but I’m working hard on it. Your story inspired me to continue working on my blog even more harder and hope one day I get to write a post just like yours today! Thank you!
WEAR EAT LOVE
http://weareatlove.com
This was perfectly timed to get me out of my own pity party in wet, cold Chicago far from family. Thanks for your wisdom, Emma. I guess I’ll get out of these sweatpants now.
Elsie and Emma,
I have read your blog everyday for years, since I first work with Elsie “in a different life,” and I’ve never once left a comment, that is, until today. This post is beautifully written and very inspiring to me and I’m sure countless others. Thank you for putting yourself out there, even when it’s a bit intimidating. Life definitely throws us opportunities that we don’t always see that way in the beginning. I think your advice is great. Thanks so much for sharing! -Stephanie in Wisconsin 🙂
Dear Emma,
I am currently on an exchange, away from home for the first time in a foreign country. I am 21 and constantly worry too much about what I am doing with my life and if I am “doing the right thing” and making the “right” choices.
I can see a lot of myself in your description and my thoughts are very similar!
You will always be one of my greatest inspirations, and this post was just what I needed to read. Thank you for sharing your story. It brings me great joy and hope to see that you are doing what you love and “living your dream”… even if it is not what you originally planned or maybe hoped for.
I will continue to look back on this for inspiration!
Thank you so much.
Larissa
This isn’t embarrassing at all…it’s an amazing and bold account of everything you’ve been through, and I know that I greatly appreciate you putting it all out there for us to read. I have my days where I dream and don’t feel like I’ll ever get anywhere, but I think the biggest challenge is, as you mentioned, being honest with my own strengths and not being afraid to ask others for help. I hope to one day be as content with my day-to-day as you are now.
Emma, I’ve been a fan of ABM for so long and never, ever read something so personal come from you. Even when you wrote about your wedding day. I’ve always felt like you’re more of a reserved kind of person, so I think it’s really wonderful of you to write such a honest post – especially since ABM and your recipes are such a hit. Thank you for sharing this little piece of your mind. May you always be as happy as you are right now.
absolutely inspiring! thank you so much for sharing you success story! I always feel like a failure or like I’m settling and just seeing how successful you’ve become gives me hope!
Thank you so much for writing this. What a lovely, honest account of your life! I have a similar story that basically spanned age 21 to 27, and I think a lot of people do. Mine wasn’t acting but it was about learning to deal with some dreams not working out and other surprising, new ones developing. It’s important to share these stories because people going through that process can so frequently feel like they’re the only ones who don’t have it together. So again, I thank you!
Thanks for being real! So much truth about success being a process, and never a one-stop destination. It took me a LONG time to learn that, and sometimes, I need a reminder!
My most beloved snippet of inspiration:
“To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” -Aristotle
Cat
Thank you for this personal post. I am currently trying to piece my life together. Graduating from Uni and working in unfulfilling jobs it is hard not feeling like you have failed. I am slowly discovering my strengths and weaknesses whilst also learning it’s ok to have weaknesses.
You have given me hope to keep my chin up and keep on trying to reach my goals.
Thanks again Emma.
Just what I needed, right when I needed it. Thank you, Emma.
Thank you so much. This was exactly what I needed today and even though I don’t feel any less lost, I’m a little more hopeful. Also I literally just received that dress (or one that looks exactly like it!) in the mail yesterday and wore it all afternoon and night!! 🙂
Your advice is so incredibly spot-on and insightful, Emma! Thank you for being so honest and putting your experience out there. I’m going through some shifts and big turning points in my career right now, and hearing about your journey really makes me view certain aspects with new clarity. This was a very refreshing way to start my day. 🙂
thanks Emma xoxo
I’m a college student at the University of Washington in Seattle and began reading Elsie’s blog a while ago (my mom had followed her when she was really into scrapbooking). I loved being able to follow you both open your store and became inspired by your retro looks. Thank you for sharing your story Emma, my roommates and I are also struggling with choosing a direction for our lives to go in and this post reemphasizes what I’ve already begun to accept. Life doesn’t work out as planned and the ideal situation may not end up being the perfect one. Losing hope does happen but re-configuring your life goals will happen many times before you end up where you’re supposed to and those re-configurations are what help us overcome life’s obstacles and reach success. Thank you Elsie & Emma! You are truly an inspiration.
so happy I stumbled upon your blog this morning. thanks for sharing a piece of your life with the world. =)
Thanks for sharing. Both of you have inspired me to pursue what I truly love. I’m so happy for you and congratulate you. Well done!!
Wow! This is such a great post! I too got my degree in Photography and found I hated Commercial Work once I got out of school and was trying to make a living on my own. I held a number of odd jobs along the way and made the move to Austin from Columbus. It was a BIG decision but worked out for the best. With the support and love of my best friend/husband I was able to start my own business (still in the first year). Your blog posts are very inspirational and I really enjoyed this post especially. It’s nice to know/ find out more about you Emma.
xoxo
Taylor
http://www.nothingbutapigeon.com/
I have been feeling “stuck” in my current profession simply because I didn’t want to waste my degree even though I’m unhappy at my current job. I factor in my age, the amount or time and money I spent at college for 6 years doing something I knew wasn’t my passion anymore. The cost of going back to school… This is the best entry I’ve read on the ABM blog this far, and I am a years-long reader. You’re very inspiring, Emma. I take these words to heart. Thank you.
Thank you for this post–I needed this! I’m in the process of leaving one dream on hold to pursue another, and the challenges are wearying at times. It’s nice to see someone else find chance, happiness and success after changing paths.
You shared this at JUST the right time for me. Thank you so much! Im going through this “failure” stage right now and stuck on how to achieve my dream. This is such an inspiration.
Beautifully written and such great experiences to share. I love your outlook on life, and it’s fantastic that you’re sharing your experiences with us because I feel so many of us can relate. Thanks, gal! 🙂
Thank you for posting this. It’s just what I needed to hear right now! Well done on your success, you are an inspiration. And long may it continue!
When y’all were children did you have that book ‘Big sister & Little sister’? It was one of our favorites. The big sister is always taking care of the little sister, then one day she gets tired & runs into a field to cry. The little sister searches and searches for her, finds her, hugs her and then cares for her. I Loved this book as a child, also being the younger sister who seemed to often live in the shadow.
I really appreciate you putting yourself out there for all of us to read about. Such an encouragement! Being a little sister can be tough stuff AND the best thing ever.
thank you!
I’ve been reading this blog for four years… and have thoroughly loved every post since (as well as earlier, I’ve read the archives too!). However, this one comes at a time when I’ve been feeling defeated and uninspired with work and life… Without a doubt, my favorite post to date.
Thank you Emma, Elsie, & ABM team for bringing some happiness and inspiration to my day on the reg. <3
Emma, thank you so much for sharing this part of your life with us. Sometimes I assume some people are just successful and have never had a hard moment in their life. I have been struggling recently and this post is very inspiring. I’m happy for you and your success!
Nicole / http://www.theanchoredsoulblog.com
Thank you so much for sharing this with us, Emma! You guys are so inspiring and incredibly talented – it’s good to see that it takes a little/lot of patience plus finding the right opportunity before things can fall into place as they have for you. Love your blog, book, app, etc. Congrats on all your success!
I love these personal posts! Thank you so much!
I’ve always wondered how you felt about becoming a part of A Beautiful Mess since it used to be just Elsie’s. I wondered if you ever felt like it was really yours too. You know? I’m glad that you take such pride in your work and have come to terms (or found your perfect place) still being Elsie’s little sister but equally a partner and co-owner and co-author and amazing individual! The pressure and expectations we put on ourselves is so great and it’s a huge milestone to understand your strengths and weaknesses and embrace them both! Thank you for sharing this. I’m so happy you’re happy.
there are so many people i know that feel like this right now. including myself. i’ve been a longtime reader, and although i’ve never met you, i’m proud of what the two of you have accomplished.
thank you, for this insight. Seriously, my life as a student is ending and some times it’s hard not to lose hope about living your dreams.
Great post, Emma! I recently moved across the country (Canada) with my boyfriend who got his dream job here but It’s been really hard on me living in a new city with no job and no friends. You’ve just inspired me to put myself out there more and see what opportunities are out there. Thank you!
Thank you so much for writing this, Emma! I know a lot of young women — myself included — need this kind of encouragement right now. It may be tough out there, but we’re even tougher on ourselves.
This is, by far, the most “real” post I’ve read in a long time.
Thank you for being so open and honest about something many people have experienced!
Congratulations on a MILLION dollar year! More importantly, congratulations on inspiring all your readers, myself included, that we can really do what makes us happy.
thank you so much for sharing this emma, it was truly heart warming x
Thank you for sharing, Emma!
Thanks for the reminder that dreams change and putting something down doesn’t mean failure or that you can’t pick it back up again!
Truly inspiring! Thanks for sharing:)
Wow! Emma, you are an inspiration.
I’ve been following your blog for awhile now—and this is (hand’s down) one of my FAVORITE posts. Thanks so much for your honesty…it is helpful!
It’s so much more useful to read about failures than successes, and this is absolutely my favorite post on ABM. Thank you for your honesty. Regardless what dreams your readers are pursuing, I’m sure they can relate to this post. Since I enjoy scrapbooking/crafting more than cooking, I have tended to follow Elsie’s posts more closely, but this post was a great reminder why the two of you make such a great team!
Thank you. (thank you, thank you, thank you.)
This is so inspiring and exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you so much.
Oh my gosh, Emma, THANK YOU for this post! I am currently working in LA at a sort of dead-end entertainment job, because I moved out here to be “in the business.” Two years in, I am discovering new talents and passions that have almost nothing to do with the entertainment business. I came out here to write (screenplays), which I still do in my spare time, but I am also finding that I love crafting/doing things with my hands. My etsy business is slowly gaining momentum and I am full of ideas on how to expand it. At first I was afraid, because that is not what I INTENDED to come out here for, but the more I embrace it, the happier I am. I know that if I follow my gut, I will get to a happy place like you are in right now. Thanks again 🙂
Thank you for sharing such an inspiring story. As part of a sister blogging team I can relate on so many levels. I haven’t quite found my happy place, but your story inspires me to keep on working hard, follow opportunities when they arise and create them when they don’t. I will definitely be bookmarking this and coming back to it when I feel like I have failed.
Thank you for writing this blog post. It gave me to courage to write mine this morning.
Thanks for sharing! A lot of us are trying to find our way, too. Congratulations on your successes 🙂
Thank you so much Emma for sharing this! It really inspired me 🙂 <3
Thanks for sharing this insightful piece. I am currently in the post-grad, trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my life phase and really appreciated your words. I’m so happy for you and Elsie’s success!
I really needed to read this right now. I am just now, at 37, deciding to go after one of my dreams, which is to move to NYC. I am scared and keep trying to talk myself out of it, but I can’t shake the idea either. You are very inspiring and I’m really proud of you for not only going after your goals, but realizing when goals need to change. And I’m very happy that you shared your experience with us!
Thank you for taking a moment to be vulnerable and share your inspiring story with us. Even though I may never make a million dollars doing what I love, because of this post, I know I’ll feel like a million dollars. There are parts of my life that I keep fighting to make work…. I think it’s about time to “go with the flow.” This is by far my favorite post I have ever read… on any blog.
I thinks this hits home to many of your readers! It is tough, especially for the creative people out there, to figure it all out or realizing that you don’t have to! Thank you for sharing, this was just the advice I need. You are all so inspiring and seem still very down to earth. Always looking forward to getting home and clicking my ABM bookmark!
This is why y’all are so successful, you both are beautiful inside and out. Thank you so much for sharing this.
Fantastic piece! This is my favorite post so far and very inspiring. Thank you!
Emma thank you for being so honest! I’m at the oh sh*t stage “what am I doing?” — I needed this today 🙂
Thank you so much for writing this. Your blog is so beautiful and I love it but sometimes it can feed into that feeling of blog-life envy that I think a lot of people have from looking at things online–the idea that there are people whose whole lives are a never ending series of parties and crafts and cooking and cute husbands and no one is ever sad or full of doubt. Hearing you say that there have been real moments of perceived failure in your life is a good reminder for all of us that failure is as much a part of what life really is as fun and beauty. I appreciate your honesty and looking through the comments it sounds like other people do too.
Emma, I absolutely LOVED this. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable. I feel like I really got to “know” you for the first time just now. I adore your advice, especially the part about how calling yourself a failure is a label you give yourself, and don’t be afraid to change your dreams. Brilliant! Sending you massive hugs and support from KC. Hope we get to cross paths some day…
Thank for for this Emma! As a recent college grad, this is exactly the kind of encouragement I need! 🙂 I have to keep reminding myself that there are new opportunities everywhere & that it’s crazy to expect or want everything to be all settled when I’m 22!
My favorite post from you ladies, ever. Love what you do.
Million dollars! You and your team are incredible. And such wonderful words of advice 🙂
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post Emma – thank you for being so brave and inspiring us all to dream big!
Hi Emma, I’ve been reading A beautiful mess since 2009 and never commented before, but I was so moved and inspired by this post I had to say thank you. Thanks for sharing, thanks for being brave.
Thank you.
this why we all love reeding your (yours + elsies!) blog. it is just so inspiring! thank soooo much!
This actually made me cry. I’ve definitely been having some pity party moments these days. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
Great read! Thank you for sharing!
This has come at a very good point for me – Thank you.
Emma it was so kind of you to open up and share this. It really helped me, and I know it will help so many others.
I had no idea you are an actor (SAG card, heyy!), but when I saw you onstage at the Texas Style Council keynote last August, I honestly marveled at how composed, charming and well-spoken you were. And of course so pretty. I could totally see you ending up on camera again in the future. Any chance you might shoot more videos for ABM?
Thank you for this post…I needed this reminder. I have been stuck in failure mode for a bit.
This has been the most encouraging post I’ve read on A Beautiful Mess. Thanks for being transparent and sharing.
-Courtney
It’s so brave from you that you dare to share the downs of life and not only the up’s. I do soo agree with ypu that sometimes the worst times are essencial to make the best ones possible. Oh and congratulations with the million, that’s just amazing. I find it so inspirering that you guys blog for living and achiece such awesome things like the Pp and te cannon collaboration. You inspire a lot of people and you are just as importent to the blog as elsie is, i don’t think many people think you’re just here to show us some food. I wish you the best Emma.
Love, Gemma
this is amazing, emma. so encouraging. i’m a little bit older than you and elsie, and i have to tell my younger friends and students this ALL THE TIME. its so easy to feel pressure to “be famous” in today’s world… and that’s the ONLY thing people think will bring them “success”. they don’t realize that TRUE “success” – is just living a happy life where you’re at peace with yourself. i’m so happy you wrote this blog. congratulations on everything 😀 <3
I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing.
oh man, i really needed this at this point in my life (just out of college, moved w/ my boyfriend to a new place, not totally loving the location or the job i’m in) … thank you, emma, this was completely inspiring. i know more is waiting for me down the road, i’m just not ready for it yet 🙂
Hi Emma, thanks for sharing! You definitely shouldn’t think this as an embarrasing story… it’s much more than that. I needed to be reminded of the messages you shared here, especially #4. I so agree that everyone has a different view of success and to me I need to remember that getting there is a journey to be embraced. We should feel success with each milestone and learning along the way! Again, thanks for sharing your wisdom and encouragement.
As the younger sibling of an amazingly talented and driven sister I can completely relate to this. Thank you for sharing! This is exactly what I needed to hear.
not embarrassing at all! I love that you shared this.
I’ve been trying to grow my mini online store and blog and it’s tough but I’m still hanging in there.
Thank you,
Belen
http://www.androbel.com
Emma this is SO encouraging! Lately I’ve been feeling lost and frustrated, and it’s nice to hear that someone as successful as yourself has struggled too. Gives hope to a girl like me 🙂
-Amber
This post couldn’t have came at a better time. I’m currently living in LA, moved here from the Bay Area about 1.5 years ago and heading back home in 8 days. I have a great job here at an ad agency but have decided to move back because I simply am not happy. My job is the only thing I am remotely interested in but when I leave work I can’t say I love my environment. Moving back and staying with family is what is eating me alive. I’m so independent here and I don’t ever want to lose that. This is what I needed to read to keep my creative juices flowing. This made my day. I will go with the flow of my life instead of scaring myself out of the possibilities. Thank you!
Very, very true. Having hit 40 this year I realized that most of my setbacks were necessary to reach where I am today. Success is not a straight line, you will fail, and failure is not a bad thing! Successful people aren’t successful because they never fail, they are successful because they learn from their failures, modify and keep moving forward.
This made me cry. It hit me so hard emotionally because I am currently picking myself up from a tremendous “failure,” and now I’m in that limbo stage you described. It’s frustrating because, like you, I have my degree, and, like you, I have talents I can offer. But I just can’t seem to get my footing.
It’s hard to believe I’m not a failure. It’s hard to believe I can ever feel successful.
Thank you for this !
It’s very encouraging !
Xo. From France
Marion
A beautiful story! Thank you for sharing it with us.
this actually made me tear up a bit. I’ve been working on my business for nearly three years and it’s been both rewarding and hard at the same time. I believe in what I do (I design, sew and sell custom hand bags) and I’ve been getting great feedback on my items, but when there’s not enough money to buy food at the end of the month (or in the middle often times, to be honest), it can be very discouraging. Yet I know that I love what I do, simply for the joy of creating “the exact” bag someone has always wanted. I just hope I’ll learn more about marketing my skills, that is something I definitely need to work on.
So beautiful, so wise and so perfect. Thank you.
Thank you for posting this, Emma! It was beautifully written, inspiring & so relevant for me right now. Congrats on your million dollar year and all of the success you’ve had – you and Elsie rock!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m 22 and almost a year out of college and not where I thought I would be at all! I’m working in the field I intended to, but for terrible pay and I have a part-time retail job to make ends meet. Its so good to hear that other people (especially one of my very favorite bloggers) have been there before!
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this journey! I am on my own journey and I know how easy it is to get discouraged. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and insights. It really touched something deep inside, and I am encouraged by you. From one little sister to another, you are awesome!
I love this post, uhg I love it so much because here I am, almost graduating college and no clue where to go with my life, there’s just so much to do and see in this world! Thank you for sharing this!
really inspiring, Thx.
Wow. I am so impressed and inspired by your story. Beautiful.
I really needed to stumble upon this post today, Thanks 🙂
What an amazing blog. You and your sister are both wonderful role models.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I know I saw a couple other people say they really needed this right now and I did too. Thank you.
Amazing words. Thank you for sharing!
I so needed to hear this today. Thank you Emma!!!
On a lighter note, you should send a script with your life story to the producers of the Big Bang Theory….it is about time that “Penny” gave up acting and LA, just like you did, and go back to cultivating a dream that does not depend on chance!
Emma, I love when you open up your story, the posts about your relationships, your health, your history.
This very idea, “Life is absolutely full of opportunities. Don’t let them pass you by simply because they aren’t the opportunities you thought you wanted. We don’t always know what direction our life will go.” is exactly what I’ve learned in the last year. Quitting a good job to do something “more exciting” which turned out to be also more unstable, more unsatisfying, more discouraging.
And then, while I was looking for something else, anything, and something came along that I wasn’t sure if it was worth it long term. And it turns out, that it’s totally different than what I thought I wanted, but I love it and it’s stable and fun and has a future. BOOM.
I love people opening up about their experiences because it gives others more room to look around, try things, find what works and not just what sounds good.
Cheers!
This is such a profound post! I am going through something very similar with my life (the down times) and am looking for a new adventure in life, a new route, and a new horizon. It is so encouraging to see this and that you’ve made so many accomplishments. I am favoriting this post to look at again in the future <3 THANK YOU!
I almost started crying when I read this post, because it’s describing a situation quite similar to my own. At the moment I’m not even sure if I have any dreams left, since I’ve pushed them away for so long as a result of being a little sister with a lack of confidence. Comparing myself to my older sister, and now to my little sister as well, keeps me from focusing on what really matters, i.e my hopes and dreams. Sometimes I feel like I’m never going to get a grip on life and be able to actually enjoy it.
It was a relief reading about your journey and realising that whatever I’m looking for is out there somewhere, and that everything will be ok some day. Thank you!
I definitely needed to hear this! I was just having a discussion regarding my dreams and my career choice (not necessarily the same thing at the moment). I’m going to school and working — both full-time — because I have to, but I’m trying my best to take advantage of opportunities that come along the way so that I can one day combine my dreams with my career. I’ve accepted a position as a photography assistant not because I want to become a professional photographer or open my own photography business, but because I think it will help hone my technique and skill in photography so that I can make my blog better (which is really a dream of mine!). It’s been so frustrating as I practically drag my feet through school, not because I hate it, but because I don’t know if it’s something I’m really passionate about. Knowing that other people have struggled with this and have definitely come out at the end in a better place is such a great thing to hear. Hopefully one day I can reach my REAL dream and work for ABM (yep, I’m that annoying gal that won’t stop bugging you guys! haha!)
xoxo
Taylor
http://www.welcomehometaylor.com
such an inspiring post elsie. so many of us struggle with similar issues {myself included} and it is so wonderful to hear from someone who went down quite a few paths before finding the right one. thanks for being so honest!
What an inspiring story! Thanks for sharing!
xox
Carmen
Emma, I always knew you a big part of the success for Elsie (although Elsie can for sure handle her own, I’d like to think you were a highlight). I had no idea of your back story. It’s truly inspiring. I know sharing your personal past is a gift, thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much, Emma. This is something I really need to hear right now, and you nearly brought me to tears. You and Elsie are doing a wonderful thing with your blog, and I wish you the best!
Wow. This is all I needed to hear. I’m a 20 year old living in California. I left high school wanting to pursue theatre, so I enrolled in a local junior college. I loved theatre, but hated every other school subject. So, I took two classes (theatre and psychology) meanwhile having my first job working for a pink mobile food truck, “the cupcake lady”. She had a dream and went with it, now she’s buying her second truck and bringing in 800k a year. All because of a skill for baking and a dream of a big pink truck! Somehow in the midst of all of this, my former theatre teacher, who had a side photography business, asked me to be her assistant photographer. I had never held a DSLR until that point. By the end of the night I was getting up close to the couple and taking their first dance photos. By the end of that year I had purchased a baby DSLR (canon t3i) and started my own (very small) side business. I was still taking theatre classes and loved it. I was in a few shows and never felt so comfortable on stage. As my passion for acting grew, so did my small business. I’m to the point were I am able to turn down jobs because I would be overbooked. I’m asked to shoot beach weddings in Monterey. I capture love and important moments. This is my new dream job. I’ve taken this small hobby and thrived. A HUGE part of me misses theatre. Ugh. But this is where my heart is now. I dream about photographing my clients like I used to dream about being on stage. Very bitter sweet, but very happy. Thank you, Emma, for making me feel like I’m not a failure for not pursuing my original dream. Thank you both for being such an inspiration to me. And congratulations on your success.
This is so inspiring. It is part of why I follow this blog, because I can identify with it. I feel like my comments are being read and my opinion is respected. Thank you Emma for sharing this. It makes me feel a lot better about my life and the confused mess it can sometimes be.
Ok, I’ve read this blog off and on for a few years but have never commented! I just want to thank you so much for this post. It is very encouraging & the advice you’ve given is so kind and helpful!
In the past year, I’ve gone from living in a bustling town and working my way up in a job that wasn’t exactly my dream job but certainly was taking me closer to making that a reality to having a unplanned baby (As in, I wasn’t planning ANY. Not now, not later!) and moving to a one-horse town to stay home with him. And it’s hard not to have pity parties or get discouraged.
Thanks for the reminder that just because it isn’t the future you imagined it would be it doesn’t mean that it isn’t rewarding or leading you towards something even better. Also, love your haircut. You’re such a babe!
Aaaw thank you Emma. This is a very very thoughtful post and it gave me a cheer up even though I do not think I’m a failure. I just had a bad day 🙂 this made me think very positive though.
Thank you!
This is a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing.
Inspiring article, Emma. Great for a budding writer/blogger to read.
Keep up the good work,
Alice
Lovely post. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for writing this post. I am in that spot on like where I can do anything and have no idea what to do with that! It was beautiful and inspiring to read your story! Keep on doing what you love 🙂
Thank you so much for this post! It really helped me a lot especially to not give up and keep going. Thanks so much!! 😀
probably one of the most honest blog posts i’ve read in a long time
Thank you for sharing this. It’s hard sometimes to look back and reflect on failures, but that is what got you to where you are today! Congrats on a million dollar year 🙂
Needed to hear this today. It means so much to hear about your experience and it’s helping me in particular, today!
Thank you for sharing your story!
You will.
You may already be on the right track, it just doesn’t feel that way yet. That’s how it was for me for a long time.
-Emma
This is my favorite post I’ve read on ABM. Thanks for sharing, Emma. 🙂
Thanks. 😉 And thanks about the hair, it’s still pretty new so I’m getting used to it.
-Emma
Emma, I’ve always found your voice to be a bit more relatable than Elsie’s, though she’s lovely as well. This was well-timed for me as I negotiate what I really want to do with myself and how to go about it all.
Emma, I’m a local reader that’s been following you girls for several years, I rarely comment don’t really fit your demo, but as a small ecommerce business owner, it’s been fascinating to watch the growth, changes, and challenges unfold with this site. So proud of your team’s success.
Thank you for posting this, Emma! I have been struggling with trying to do something I always thought I was meant to do (career path wise), but it doesn’t seem to be coming easy. I’ve also been doing some failure labeling too because it’s just not seeming to pan out like I thought it would. I’ve just recently had it kind of click in my head that maybe doing something else I didn’t foresee might not be so bad if I just let things flow. This year is about trying to listen to my gut and go with the flow towards whatever feels right. Your post confirms my thought process. And I’m glad that you ended up back home co-authoring ABM, it’s inspired me so much. 🙂
Thank you so much for your honesty! It’s much appreciated to those of us who are attempting to find our way in life. It’s nice to have a reminder that things will get better and many people have to go through trial and error until they find their calling.
Thank you xx
I have never related to anything more than I have to this post. I spent the better part of last year feeling like world’s biggest loser after graduating art school and moving across the country only to get a “lowly” position at an art supply store and only having one free lance design position. Little did I know, these were actually “success moves.” Thank you so much for sharing Emma. You shouldn’t be embarrassed of your past. On paper, it sounds like your “failure” in LA was actually a big adventure. Here’s to seeing failure in a new light. xoxo Cait
I was 24 the year I moved back from LA. At the time it felt like such a hard year, but looking back now I view it as the beginning of everything awesome. Wishing you the same for your 24th year!
-Emma
Honestly this is the most honest and inspiring post I’ve read to date on your blog. I definitely have been feeling a lot of this lately (recently finished school, can’t find a job, broke, thinking of moving back with my parents…) so this is the best peice of advice I could see right now. It’s tough and I don’t want to give up on my dreams, so knowing that it gets better is certainly helpful. Thank you for everything you (and your sister) do!
This was a beautiful post, and it was so relatable and inspiring. I definitely feel like a failure sometimes in comparison to where my friends/family are in life, but I try to not let myself think that way for too long. Not everyone’s journeys look the same, and that’s what makes it all so interesting.
I also feel like a little bit of a failure sometimes because some people don’t understand my choice to not continue art school and instead continue art on my own, without spending thousands of dollars. I’m doing it my way, on my own terms, and for me (99% of the time) it feels totally right. One of my favorite quotes I found recently was “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.” ♡
I think you are brave just for living in NYC. Such an inspiring city, but so big! I always feel a little lost when we have the luck to visit. Best of luck in your career!
-Emma
Thank you Emma… This post means a lot
Thanks for sharing this. I’m in a huge ‘figuring things out’ stage in my life. Sometimes I feel like Ester Greenwood at the foot of her fig tree (from The Bell Jar). Reading your story was really inspiring.
xoHaley
You said it better than me. Next time I getting you to end a post!
-Emma
This is one of my favorite posts by far. I love this blog for all the amazing creative ideas but this definitely serves as a reminder of the fact you are normal young women. I feel stuck and l am still searching for my dream job and this really inspired me. Thank you so much for sharing! <3
Pity parties I knew too well. Glad I could be a small encouragement to you today, even if it’s just over the internet. 🙂
-Emma
Hi! I love the photos, projects and good energy I always find on your blog. Thank you for sharing your personal story with us. Best regards from Barcelona,
Marta
So, so awesome.
Thanks for this! I discovered ABM blog back when I was going through the exact same thing. This place, this blog, gave me so much creativity and hope that I could make something of myself, like you ladies were. I too, had many a pity parties, some that lasted too long. But now a couple years later I am on my way, working for myself and being creative in everything I do. Thanx.
Love this post! I am at that point my life, graduated, trying to work, i can do anything and have no idea what to do with it! This was something I needed to read. So beautiful & Inspiring to read! Thank you for keeping up with this amazing blog and sharing your story!
Keep doing what you love!
I needed this today. Thank you so much!!
Yes, I think having a strong best friend in your life makes all the difference. I’m SO lucky to have Elsie push me to be where I am today. I wouldn’t be here without her. I think friends/family are so, so important in life. We have to surround ourselves with people who are rooting for us.
-Emma
Such an inspiring post Emma! I think we all go through this and feel like we are alone feeling this way. I’ve felt like a failure after many of my business ideas failed – my last failure was what brought me to my (finally) successful business. I feel like a success not only because I can make a living from what I do now – but mainly because I have developed a skill that I am passionate about.
Thanks for sharing your story!
Both Elsie and yourself are huge inspirations for me. I am a young artist from Chicago and constantly find myself struggling to market my art. I started a blog in hopes that it can one day be as successful as A Beautiful Mess is for you and Elsie. I find myself oftentimes going through your old blog posts (on Food Coma) and old blog posts on A Beautiful Mess and I feel like I know you both so well. I once discovered that I used the same crafting scissors as Elsie and made it a huge production to all my friends and family. They may have been a little confused, but what they don’t understand is that I strive to one day be as successful as you and Elsie. You are celebrities that got where you are from mere talent and perseverance.
This blogpost couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Thank you for helping me cry one less time today.
dear Emma,
in 2012 I moved from a little town in Germany to Bangkok. The reason was my boyfriend’s phd. Before that, I worked as an book-editor. Things did not financially turn out well for us in the big mango, so last year we had to go back to Germany. And I moved back to my parents place – with no job and no money and my boyfriend living hours away from me.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. It was very inspirational and emotionally moving. You are so right: we are no failures. Every decision is right and every experience has to be made. Those are the kind of storys that we will tell our children and grandchildren. It is good to take risks and it is good to “fail” every now and then. One will appreciate and enjoy his success even more.
Since january I am back on track and share a nice little appartment with my loved one, a jobinterview in front of me. 🙂
keep up the good work, love your blog!
What a beautiful post! Thanks so much for sharing and congratulations on all your success!
Oh goodness was my life SO far from perfect after college. I don’t think I really hit my groove 3-4 years after. Timing is different for everyone. There’s really no reason to compare. I did a lot of that and it never made me feel like pushing forward. We have to just focus on our own life, everyone’s story is going to be different.
-Emma
That’s a beautiful story, thanks for sharing 🙂
Btw, where did you get this beautiful grey dress from?
I’ve been following the blog for a while now, and this is absolutely the best post I’ve seen on it (so far).
loved this. I just finally shuttered my photography business and could not be happier about the decision…. even though it took me years to make it.
Yes, success (in my opinion) is more a direction you head/work toward. Just work toward your dream job and learn everything you can along the way! Don’t worry if you feel like you aren’t “there” yet, it will come. It’s the getting there that’s hard but so worth all the hard work.
I believe in you! Best of luck as you start a new chapter in life.
-Emma
Wow this is so motivating and inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing such a raw and real piece of your life! It really does help those of us who are still (forever) figuring things out.
Emma, this post is absolutely great! THANK YOU!
I am in that very year of my life! I left a great city that I loved only for a job that gave me more money in a city I had barely heard of. I absolutely hate the city, and long for the times when I was living in my other city (in New Zealand). This year I made the very hard decision that I will quit my job in June when my contract ends and move back there (with probably less job opportunities) in order to pursue my happiness, even though this job gives me financial stability. That is also the reason I started my blog, to document that very journey I am going through this year!
It’s always good to hear from someone who achieved success with perseverance and hard work 😉
Veronica @ http://happylifeofacitygirl.blogspot.com/
Oh Emma, great post! I sure do love you and your sister! And selfishly, I am so glad that you are here instead of in LA!
One of my favorite reads. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂
I don’t normally post comments, but reading this brought tears to my eyes…and a smile to my face. I felt so connected to this post, especially right now when I’m feeling very lost. You, Elsie, and this whole blog have been an inspiration to me for a few years now, and this post just cements that feeling.
Thank you so much for sharing this piece of yourself. I wish I could give you a hug!
It will. Just keep going. That year at my parent’s was hard and embarrassing (although, awesome too since my parents totally rock!) but it was such a important year for me. The beginning of it all. 🙂
-Emma
Thanks for this, lovely Emma! It was exactly what I needed to hear today. I’m a big believer in life being a journey and embracing all the twists and turns along the way, but while I’m back living with my parents and being knocked back from jobs it really helps to read these encouraging words!! I have 2 older, successful sisters too so I know how it feels to be the younger sister! You two are incredible and I love learning more about your story through these kinds of posts. Thank you for inspiring and encouraging me today! xx
I’m seeing a lot of the comments are from people who are in the same situation and I can tell you as a teenager who an see her life heading in that direction this is really encouraging. I don’t know what I want to do and I feel like I have too many options. It’s good to have a glimpse ahead, especially from someone with creative tendencies. Most people in my life view the things I love to do only a hobbies and its going to be hard for me to fail at and still continue to pursue the things I love with those people around. My blog is one of those things and I am proud of it and how much ive learned regardless of its success! Thank you for sharing. I wish more people were as honest about their rocky starts.
Love you and many blessings!
This post has to be one of my favorite blog posts ever! Honest and inspiring XO
I’m sure this post was hard for you to write, but I just wanted you to know, it brought tears to my eyes. This is me. I live at home with my parents and I am so happy here. They are my best friends, and I am happy. But then I start thinking that I am a failure because I still live at home, regardless of the fact that I’m happy here, pursuing my art and expanding my blog. Thanks for being inspiring.
Ha. Sweatpants, you’re making me smile today Sophie.
-Emma
Really great post. I will soon be entering a new phase in my life and your thoughts on failure and recognizing opportunities really hit home. Thank-you!
This is amazing. I’d been feeling really low after a whole lot of bad luck but I decided that this was my opportunity to turn my life around and I’m working hard on achieving my dream.
Thank you for your honesty. Such a beautiful blog post.
http://www.littlepaperswans.com/
great post!! thank you so much 🙂
I don’t think you need to think of your years leading up to you being a millionaire as embarrassing. Everyone starts at the bottom, why would you be different?
xo Jennifer
http://seekingstyleblog.wordpress.com
This an AMAZING post & so inspiring! I am so glad you shared! Thank you! <3
Thank you for being so real. You are truly inspiring. I can’t express to you how much this post has helped me today and I congratulate you on all of your success! I’ve followed A Beautiful Mess for several years and it is so refreshing to know that everyone goes through similar situations. At some point in time, everyone seems to feel as though they have failed — I know I have. In many cases, another door opens to a dream you’ve never truly realized could actually work out. Thank you so much for your honesty.
I so totally relate to this… after moving across the country to get a degree in product design, I felt a calling to be a teacher. After 2.5 years teaching, I decided the classroom was absolutely and positively NOT for me. I spent a year unemployed and job searching, finally landing a job in higher education that I never would have imagined for myself. It’s not where I want to be forever, but it has been perfect for right now… although I’m starting to get the itch for what’s next. But, honestly I wouldn’t trade any of these experiences… a little bit from each of them is what makes me who I am. If I could just pinpoint a position where I could use what I like best and am best at from each of them…
I am so so grateful for this post today – I have spent a few years trying to figure out my business. I have moved from an Etsy shop to graphic design and now to owning a brand agency. Each time I changed direction a part of me felt like a failure, but I see now that it was a learning curve and I should be proud that I have carried on carving my own path.
Thanks again for this post Emma!
And with that, I’m misty eyed…
Thank you for sharing. I know I REALLY needed to read this, and I know there are others!
Your blog is inspiring!
Hi Emma,
Thanks for sharing. I wrote a post only a few days ago about feeling a little lost and wishing to re-establish my path. I think it’s really moving that you touched on a topic that many of us “don’t like to talk about.” It’s easy when we’re surrounded by social media, blogs, beautiful photography, etc. to feel as though our own personal suffering or struggles are unique, and like our words aren’t worth sharing. It’s really nice to see how far you’ve come.
Kristina
Thanks for sharing this. I love that you allowed yourself to be vulnerable to encourage others who might be struggling to realize their dreams.
The first few sentences of Your Story (college because of your parents and landing on photography since you didn’t know what you wanted to major in) is exactly like mine o.o I also moved to LA and then back home after crashing and burning and NOT achieving any of the goals that I had hoped to pursue while there. I’m back home now and just trying. Trying trying trying.
Thank you for sharing your background. It’s comforting to read about someone else with very similar circumstances and see that they’re living their dream job. Gives me hope!
Thank you. Honestly, I am a bit more reserved. I find it hard to “put it all out there,” you know? It’s a scary thing. One thing that pushes me to try more though is all our readers. We have the very best readers in all the world and I hoped that my story could maybe help one (or some) of them so I decided to press publish on a difficult thing for me to talk about. Thank you for your kind words. 🙂
-Emma
I love this. Thank you for sharing. I feel somewhat like you did, having a hard time figuring out where I’m heading. I have a dream, but it keeps getting pushed back by obstacles, which is really, really tough. I’m currently getting my Master’s and so desperately want to pursue my Ph.D right afterwards…but money is a major problem. So I may have to take some time in between and use this TESL certificate I’m about to earn and go abroad to make money for awhile. Which is hard for me to accept because I wanted to be at a university, working towards my Ph.D. But you gotta take what you can. Being abroad could be amazing. We’ll see.
Anyway, sorry for babbling my not-so-interesting story. I don’t usually comment (always read this blog of course!) but this really hit home so I wanted to thank you for sharing. I definitely understand the whole feeling of being overshadowed by siblings, too 🙂
Hello,
I am a college Freshman right now and I really connected with your story! I have no idea what I want to do! Thank you for your honesty, and I will keep all your advice in mind as I move through these next few years.
Mine’s from F21. I just got it too! So comfy. 🙂
-Emma
i actually cried. what the hell!
after what i can only describe as one devastating year, something as simple as listening (reading) to someone else opening up about their story is not only awe inspiring, but so humanising.
thank you for this, Emma. you’ve put a truly warming smile on my face. and of course, congratulations to both you and Elsie. 🙂
This is probably one of the best posts I’ve ever read on this blog – and that’s really saying something. Thank you for your words, they’ve touched me and made a difference in my life.
this way amazing. the kind of inspiring tell all that turns into sort of a pep talk to keep moving towards what we want to do in life. thank you for writing this.
Go you! Best of luck in your new business!
-Emma
this is exactly what i needed to read right now. thank you so much for sharing 🙂
xo, cheyenne
Oh Emma, this is just what I needed to hear today. After 15 years of being a stay at home mom, I start work this weekend – working part-time at a roller-skating rink. I have a bachelor’s in journalism and a master’s in library science, therefore I’m not “supposed” to have a part-time job at a place where kids come to play, at least, not in my head I’m not “supposed” to. But, our family’s finances have hit a spot where I really need to be bringing in some kind of paycheck just to get by. I know this isn’t a permanent solution – my husband of 20 years and I are working on that still – but I have been very defeated by feeling embarrassed by my new job. Thank you for letting me see it as a fun opportunity instead. I love your blog, your recipes, and you allowing us glimpses into your life.
thank you for sharing emma, i hear you loud and clear and for that i am very appreciative 🙂
This is so awesome, thank you so much for sharing this and giving us the courage to be what we are meant to be, awesome!!
Thanks so much for posting this. I am a 20-something in a real state of flux in the career area it is inspiring to see that you CAN do what you love for a living. This post couldn’t have come at a better time.
I agree! I sometimes feel frustrated about being the little sister, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world either. It’s just one of those things.
-Emma
So many things on ABM are “picture perfect” (which is what I love about it), but it’s always nice to be reminded that you’re regular people with regular real life challenges, too 🙂 It’s especially inspirational in this never-ending gloom of Winter. haha. Thanks, Emma! Keep up the great work! xx
Hi Emma,
Thank you for sharing this inspirational story with us. I have been feeling completely lost lately. I am from Spain but moved to LA to work and study. I loved it there but I couldn’t get a new visa so I had to move back with my parents. After a year of being unemployed and feeling like I should be in the US, I decided to try again and move to NYC. I did a couple of internships as a fashion designer but once again, I didn’t have good luck with my visa. However, when living in NYC I met my boyfriend (who is from Canada) and after coming back to my parents house in Spain again and spending all my savings in NY, I decided to move to Canada with him. Now I have a good job, and a wonderful boyfriend. I hate where I live right now (Montreal) and I still have a strong desire of moving to LA again, but I feel like I already tried 2 times and it didn’t work out. I used to be so confident and have a lot of determination, but after those 2 experiences I feel like I shouldn’t even try anymore. Your post made me realize that is never too late or too difficult to try again, even if it is scary or you have tried before.
Thanks again, and keep up the good work.
Emma
Thanks for the sincerity and honesty! It’s a big deal opening up like that. You’re story may have been difficult at times but you’ve become a pretty awesome person!! 🙂
such a great post 🙂 i’m such a huge fan of your blog and this is SO nice to read.
Thanks for sharing your story, Emma!
This comes to me at the perfect time! We just had a meeting this morning at the bakery I work at about the business almost closing, and basically everyone is deciding whether to stick with the business, or look for other options.
Although I hate the feeling of an insecure income, and hate job hunting, this change comes at a good time for me as lately I’ve been feeling the need for a career change. Although I love being a cake decorator, I don’t want to work in bakeries for the rest of my life. When I dream about my life-long career, it’s in film & tv production.
So, right now I’m re-writing my résumé, tailoring it to a job in media production. I’ll have to start from the bottom of an industry again, but I know it’s a step in the right direction. 🙂
Even though I’ve never been a lifestyle blogger like you guys, your blogs, projects, and stories have always inspired me to stick with doing the creative work that I love to be able to turn it into a profitable business some day.
Now, more than ever, I am working hard at making my writing, videos, etc. that I do online into something credible and someday profitable.
Okay, that’s like my whole life story in a comment. Ha ha. This post just gave me a big gulp of inspiration that I needed right now, so thanks. 😀
Just wanted to let you know how much I appreciated this post.
Dream chasing, and dream changing are not always an easy thing. Playing it safe, and making ‘wise’ decisions are often what I fall back on.
Thanks for reminding us that failures are often our greatest moments; if we are willing to admit it and dream.
That’s incredibly kind. I sure didn’t feel composed up on that stage that day. Public speaking is very different from acting, I think. I don’t know if either will be a big part of my future but I was happy to meet everyone last summer at TxSC.
And yes, we’d love to do more videos. We hope to absolutely flood our youtube channel this year. 🙂
-Emma
As a college senior being terrified of wherever my life and career may take me, this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much for your transparency and honesty, it’s so refreshing and appreciated!
This is so great. Thank you for your honesty. Posts like this are so much more meaningful and I love to hear the behind the scenes of your work. Thanks for sharing and i look forward to hearing more!!
Brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing your heart.
I could not agree with you more!
I already knew you and your sister are very special. Now I am so much more sure. I really feel happy and very honored to let me know you
You will Tina. Keep going. It will work out for you! I am so glad I stopped labeling myself a failure, it gave me the space I need to grow and ultimately find happiness. This will happen for you too. You are NOT a failure.
-Emma
This is exactly what I needed to read! Thank you Emma for letting us see that it all hasn’t exactly been an easy road to get to where you are now. I’m in the position you were in (living back at home with parents, crying and having a pity party that I “failed”) and this has really made me realize that it’s not the end of the world and the best is yet to come!
Hi Emma! Thank you so much for this, I was really upset and crying 20 minutes ago because I have so many doubts about the future… ”What if, what if, what if?”
Thank you again, you just made me realize what I need to do.
Lots of love
Thank you for this post. It was very inspiring. I have experienced something similar. I went to university to study Architecture because I didn’t know what else to do. But it wasn’t for me. I felt like a failure when I dropped out and took the first job that accepted me, even though it was dental nursing and low paid. Over time my priorities changed. I realized I didn’t need to be earning loads to be happy and successful. That was up to me and how I felt within myself.
Reading this post from you Emma, someone who I admire and look up to as a regular reader of ABM, was reassuring. It’s not just me that has felt like this. Other people out there, people who I see as far more successful than myself, have felt this way too.
Thank you 🙂 x
this is the kind of post i miss you guys doing!
i love it!
i love the honesty of it all!!!
woohoo!
here’s to the good times now and the more to come!!!!
emma, i’ve been a fan since food coma. is that what it was called? anyway, aren’t you glad you pursued your dreams because then you would have always wondered, right? i mean they say, whoever they is, that we often regret the things we didn’t do or try, you know, those risks we were afraid to make. just want to say, i adore this post. your comedic timing through writing is awesome. i dig your new hairstyle too. continue creating, cooking, and dreaming on! we’ll continue reading. 🙂
Oh Emma, you were right in thinking that laying it all out there might help someone today, because it sure helped me. Sometimes it feels like everyone else is passing me by while I’m struggling to get some footing in this crazy world. I have no idea what to do with my life, other than continue my full-time job as an admin ass’t at a law firm. Your post has inspired me to maybe put more emphasis on my writing and art.
You are talented, beautiful, smart and funny—thank you for letting us peek inside your world!
emma, thanks so much for posting this! i changed my major in college at least 5 different times. i settled on accounting because it had numbers (i love numbers) and was a practical skill to obtain in the workforce nowadays. and now that i’m working full-time as an auditor, i am constantly questioning what it is that i’m actually good at and what it is that i would enjoy doing for a living. your post inspires me. thanks for sharing from your heart and your experiences with all of us 🙂
I’m so happy you shared your story. Having followed ABM for a while, I knew bits and pieces of your background, but reading everything in your own words has touched my heart. Success and failure are so hard to measure, but somehow the label “failure” is so easy to apply to ourselves when things don’t work out the way we plan. Just like so many people, I have my own dream that I’m not sure is working out. It helps to know that success comes in all shapes and sizes, despite expectations. Congratulations on all you have accomplished!
Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life… I work a full-time corporate position and I think I’ve finally found a good balance between my “structured” day life and my “creative” life through blogging and social media and every day I try to work towards what makes me happy. So, thank you for this post… your journey is so inspiring and encouraging. xoxo
thank you for that, emma 🙂
This is such an inspiration post, Emma. I have recently been forced into abandoning my first choice of career and I’m floating, thinking about my next move.
I’ve been reading for a long time and as much as I love all of your posts, my favourites are always the ones in which you open up about your lives. As business women and creative inspirations, it’s amazing to hear about how this manifests in your everyday lives.
Emma, thanks for the earnest & heartfelt post. There’s a lot of wisdom in those four lessons. xo.
This was really inspiring to read. I have felt like a failure many a times but you are right, you don’t need to give up on your dreams, sometimes you just need to change them. Thanks for this.
Aleisha
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This is such an honest and beautiful post. It can be tough to make lemonade when life gives you oranges. Sometimes, you’ve just got to go with the orange juice! Thanks so much for the encouragement!!
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An amazing post!! You are such an inspiration and sharing your journey with us all is encouraging to those of us much further down our dream ladder. I can relate as a failed dancer myself, but I know dreams can change and I am grateful to you for reminding me of that. Congratulations on all your success, we know both you and Elsie work so hard and we appreciate everything you share.
thanks for sharing your experience… even if you think is embarassing, the true is that you are just spreading light to the world 🙂
Ah, the timing of this is uncanny. Thank you for being will to share (even the parts you consider embarrassing). It is so inspiring to read the back story of how someone successful came to where they are. It’s rarely (ever?) because they just woke up knowing exactly what to do and then did that thing and this is a wonderful reminder of what success and the path to finding your passion look like in the real world.
Oh man, I really appreciate this post! I’m still in that lengthy process of figuring things out. It’s hard to be happy when it feels like you’re doing things differently then the people around you. This is a nice reminder though that eventually I’ll find my way. Thankyou!
P.S. I’m so envious of the relationship you have with your sister, one day I hope to have something similar with mine
Thank you so much for sharing Emma. I have followed both Elsie’s and your personal blogs for a few years now and have always felt you were a kindred spirit. I love cooking and baking, animals, crafts, and I also majored in Philosophy solely because I enjoyed studying it after cycling through several other major choices (photography, political science, psychology and even linguistics for bit). I wish my sister was more like Elsie because I couldn’t dream of anything more perfect than working with her, but she is an intensive care unit nurse so I don’t see that happening anytime soon. I hope to find the way to my dream soon, as I am only losing time being dissatisfied with my life. I am currently stuck in an office dreaming dreams of another life, one where I could bake, cook, knit and craft to my heart’s content all day long. Thank you for always inspiring me!
Yes, life can take such big turns. Sounds like yours did, indeed. I bet you’re an amazing mother. And, like all mothers, you are so much more too! You are awesome, thank you for commenting.
-Emma
wonderful!
I needed this. I’m 25 in a disappointing “job” in the fashion industry. I paper push, I have no creative hand in anything and that is the side of things I most desperately wish to be in. I’ve recently been promoted but only to a job with more responsibility and paper work for the same pay.
Your story gives me great hope. Thank you for sharing your history with us, most successful people don’t often talk about their early struggles and disappointments. I found this blog only a couple of weeks ago and love it! This post made me even more of a dedicated reader than I already had become.
Somehow, we all struggel with the same issues in some point of our lives … thank you so much for sharing this.
it gives me some faith …
I wish you all the best!
Um abraço de Portugal :*
I’m not sure if you fully realize how incredibly inspiring this is.
It is so comforting to hear something so honest–especially from someone so successful. It’s so easy to forget that people you admire are actually people who struggle just like you do. You just assume they’ve always had their shit together. But hearing about your struggles makes the failures sting a little less and it really proves that you can do anything if you just keep going and adjust where you need to.
Thank you.
Wow!! So inspiring! Thanks for sharing this little peice of you!
Thank you. This was so elegantly written and definitely something I needed to read. I am in my fifth year of graduate school (in a program that averages 6 years in length) and I cannot express how difficult it has been and is continuing to be. Not only have I been one of only three women in our division of 50+ for the last few years, the rigor of the program is physically, emotionally and mentally demanding. But here I am, still in it. Still finding joy in small successes and still heading toward a goal. One that will perhaps shed more light on what my dream is and who I will become. Although I’m unsure of where I’m headed next, the encouragement that comes from your words is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful message.
What a fabulous story! Thanks for sharing with us!
Pat, you’re my favorite!
-Emma
oh, i just LOVE this!! thank you for sharing your story!! i can relate to it so much. after college i was stuck…and i felt like such a loser b/c all my friends were off living their lives…not living at home and starting jobs. while i was at home with my parents, feeling pretty depressed because i couldn’t find a job with what i graduated for…journalism. i ended up going to back to school for teaching and things began to keep unfolding and changing for me. stopping teaching…trying to find the connection to what exactly my heart was speaking from within. at this time i thought i was crazy, b/c yet again, i was continuing to change my path, when all my friends were still in their first jobs from right out of college. i remember the look in their eyes when i told them my changes and the words they said…you’re changing AGAIN??? but, my heart knew i wasn’t happy where i currently was and i refused to let unhappiness be my guide and stay in it. now, looking back, and finally finding my way, going through all of that isn’t failing…it’s growing and blossoming and very much needed!! i’m so glad i listened within, like you did, because it brought me closer to and extremely connected to who i am…which now, i’m proud to voice it with confidence without caring what anyone thinks!! :):) it def. takes time to get to this place though. it’s all about listening to our intuitive selves…amazing stuff!! 🙂 you’re an inspiration!!
Thanks for this….it’s really helped me alot. x
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Thanks so much for sharing! I’m about to be graduating from college without a lot of plans so this was definitely an encouraging read 🙂
Thanks for this post, Emma. I completely agree with your point about making something a hobby instead of a career! I was 23 when I had to move back in with my parents, and I’m really struggling with it, four years later. (I have no local friends & I’ve been working for the family business, but it’s not working out; I need to figure out what I want to do and “change my dream” so I can move on.) This post was exactly what I needed today. Seriously, thank you.
Thank you Emma!! I love your post, I’m follow you since 3 or maybe more years! When Elsie was alone and I was happy that you worked with her because since your are here, blog it was even better! Both of you are amazing and my life and yours is very far, a different life, country…but I don’t Know why I love your blog and it is you the reason that I had last year the “courage” make my own blog! I start live like I wanted I star be honest with myself and I start to follow my dreams!! Elsie and you make a lot for this happens! You are very brave tell this to the million of people that reading you! Thanks very much Emma I think is your better post! xo
Sorry my English is horrible!
Love this post, just reassuring me to never give up on your dream, great post. mywhiteT.com
Thanks for sharing this story! I think it kind of goes to show that a lot of people go through failures before finding success. I think many 20-somethings these days can relate to similar failures (myself included). Great advice, too. 🙂
Also, did you build that desk!? I love the look.
Thank you for writing such an honest, thoughtful and inspiring post.
This is just what I needed to read today! My best friend and I are in the process of finding our dream! Perfect day for this post #inspired
It’s only in our fantasies that anyone’s bio is a straight line from here to there. I suppose there are a few people who just KNEW what they’d end up doing and where they’d end up living. But I don’t think that many.
Life is long and we can’t anticipate every twist and turn. Nor can we control either our talents or the luck that comes our way.
I figure that if I get to the end and can look back and see that I was a good friend and spouse and mom and made some art along the way, I’m WAY ahead of the game.
this was so inspiring, emma, i even got a little choked up reading it. so happy for you in your amazing success. it sounds like it’s been a long journey, and you’ve earned it 🙂
xo jac
I haven’t been following your blog for that long (don’t know how I missed it for so long, clearly I live under a rock!). This is actually my first time commenting. I just wanted to thank you for this. So inspiring to read at a time when I feel really lost in life myself and like I’ve accomplished nothing in my 28 years of life. I hope I will be able to look back on this difficult time one day and see it as a step towards where I was meant to be.
Thanks so much for sharing your story Emma ~ I can’t really put into words how this has made me think about some upcoming challenges, but it is something I will take strength from over the following months. Congratulations and well done for all your hard work and tough choices x
Emma, I cannot thank you enough for posting this. I read abeautifulmess daily. I absolutely love it and it is a dream of mine to one day meet the two awesome sauce ladies that run it. I have recently been feeling like I’m stuck and I have no where to turn. Your story inspires me to try harder, that dreams are possible at any age and with any circumstance. I have to be honest that I felt so much envy when you purchased a home for your business. How I would love to do that. I am at a turning point in my life and am nervous to make the change for fear of failure. Reading this gives me hope and makes me ask myself why not. Thank you again, you rock!
I always read your lovely blog, but never comment. This post inspired me so much that I had to 🙂 I’m in a place in my life where I am trying to figure out what to ‘do with my life’, what my talents are and what would make me truly happy (I’m obviously in my mid-twenties…). I haven’t figured out how to do so yet, but your honest and vulnerable story has motivated me to not give up.
Thank you, Emma!
I had to move back home away from my dream town to Texas with my parents after a failure on my own (not really a failure but I didn’t really thrive either). But a few months later, I landed my dream job as well. I UNDERSTAND, she-bro.
thank you… so much.
Loved reading this! You two have worked SO HARD and have been so dedicated to making your company grow. It definitely shows! xoxox
Thanks for sharing, Emma. I really needed this. 🙂
This might be one of my favourite pieces on your beautiful blog. THANK YOU so much for being vulnerable and sharing this. I feel like many people see the successes of people online, or their parents, and feel cheated that they are not there. If you could see me, I practically screamed AMEN when you said “success is a process”. Success is hard work and many people in our generation don’t want to put in that hard work. I’m so glad and so proud that you are putting in hard work and are being rewarded for it. Many many many blessing on you <3
Not embarrassing at all – absolutely wonderful to read and empathise and be inspired by. Thank-you for typing out your thoughts!
Perfect timing, these words. Definitely needed them. Congrats on your first super big year!!
Super Inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
Emma!! Thank you so much for this. It’s so encouraging and beautifully real. Wishing all you guys many more million dollar years and even more success!
I have a friend who says… well, I can have a pity party, or I can have a party! Way to party!
Hello,
This is such a wonderful post….it’s so encouraging to know that you didn’t just waltz into such a great job. I’m 24, also just moved back in with my parents, and not so much feeling a failure, but feeling like my dreams have just blown up! I’ve spent the past few years teaching abroad, which contrary to many beliefs, is really difficult. I am already trained to teach in England and wanted to return and pursue this career, as it is my dream to be a primary school teacher. However, I’ve now found out that I can’t teach in the UK without police certificates from both countries, for which I have no chance of getting. So the job I have always wanted and been working towards can no longer be! And then I came home and read this and it’s really helped me to stay positive and think that maybe instead this is an opportunity.
Thank you for your inspiration.
this is one of the most captivating posts I’ve read on this blog, thanks so much for the deep honesty and tips! I agree that life needs to be taken in an fluid way, it makes it a hell of a lot easier to find “success”. congratulations on reaching your [current] dream!!
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This is such an awesome and inspiring post! Thank you for sharing!
Thanks s much Emma!
Emma, you are an inspiration. I really needed to hear this and to relate to someone my age who took where they are in life and made something happen. Life is about the risks you take, and not letting opportunities slip through your fingers. I admire you and your sister for many reasons and cherish reading your words! Thanks lady 🙂
This made me start crying because I feel stuck and like all my dreams are dead.
You guys are such an inspiration…my life went from boring to inspiring from the first day I ready your blog! Thanks xoxo
Loved this! Thanks for sharing, Emma, and for being willing to be vulnerable. 🙂
emma, thank you for sharing this! often times, i look at others and feel like i’ll never have that kind of success, but i’m learning my journey in life won’t look like someone else’s journey. it’s about doing what i love, whether anyone sees my work or not.
I’ve been following for a while and posts like this is why! I think i needed to read this to keep me going. I’m taking a gap year from uni after this term to reevaluate and recharge and your advice makes me think it’s the right thing to do. Here’s to the future, ‘One million, two million, three million, four
In just five years, forty million more’!
Wonderful! Thank you for sharing! You are awesome Emma!
Thank you for sharing this, Emma. I’m sure I’ll be repeating a few comments that people have made on here. But this is something that I continually need to hear. I’m going on 25, an artist recently married but living in Vancouver, Canada which is a big and overwhelming city (at least, to me! I come from a small town in the prairies!). It’s incredibly hard to find a job here and I’ve been unemployed for almost 4 months… so it can be hard to feel inspired sometimes. But posts like this make it easier! So keep writing them every once in a while because there are those of us who need to hear it!
Thanx Emma for sharing this. Gives me hope 🙂
I love this so so so much. Thank you Emma, for being such a huge inspiration!!
I’m in a career transition right now and I loved the line “An amazing opportunity disguised as a mundane option may come your way tomorrow; don’t miss it.”; that is a great reminder! Thanks for sharing your heart, Emma.
I admired the honesty of your touching message and YOU even more! Thank you! I wish it will work as the perfect push for all of us who feel a little lost
within our life choices!
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Amazing story! And so inspiring! Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing this. I think labeling yourself as a failure is a very female thing to do. I’ve done it myself. I did a job training between the ages of 16 and 18, went back to school afterwards, then started studying twice just to stop after one semester and go back to the company I thought I’d left behind me when I was 18. I felt like a complete loser. My (extended) family labeled me as a failure, even my sister did so, I think – she loves me but was very disappointed by my behaviour.
I’m so thankful for my parents, they were always there for me, they watched me thrive. The week after next, I’ll start studying again. It feels so good because now I’m doing it for me. Not because society expects me to. Your story will inspire many women to embrace their “fealties”.
Nowadays I’m living by “Your past is just a story. Once you realize this, it has no power over you.” 🙂
xo Andrea
Emma, as 44 year old entrepreneur and businesswoman this is exceptional to read. Your honesty, kindness and clear look at your journey is an inspiration for those younger and even those of us older. Keep sharing and it is fun to watch your dreams come alive! – Jacqueline
I’ve always been a silent reader of your blog, but I was so moved by this post I had no choice but to comment :)It takes a lot of humility to be proud of our siblings and friends and happy for them while having a hard time figuring out what to do with our own life. Having to accept that our dreams and goals may change along the way is a struggle we all have to deal with and your text has such a refreshing and honest way to describe it. Long live A beautiful Mess!
goosebumps.
thanks for being so honest, emma!!!
thats life. and i´m so happy with you, that you live your dream now.
so so great.
you worked for it and you can be proud of that.
so proud!
thanks for your words.
liebgruss
eni
Hello..
I’m new to your blog and I just want to say thank you! A post full of truth and beauty. Life. Loss. Transparency. Hope. Faith and aspirations! As I find myself, at 53, in a new season of pursuing a different dream, I keep telling myself, “It’s not too late.” Your story was very encouraging. Congratulations on your success and happiness! <3
Blessings to you,
Tamara
I really, really love this post. Thank you for your candor, as it is inspiring to all that read your truthful and honest words. I wish you and your sis even more success in the future!
This is beautiful. Thank you for taking a chance and sharing a vulnerable moment of your life with us. My life is in the middle of what seems (and feels) like a massive, unexpected shift, so this hits very close to home right now.
So honest and true! Thank you for sharing your journey.
Thank you so very much for opening up and being so honest.
Thank you for your story. I’ve been in “failure” mode since getting laid off in December. I’ll be reading your post often as I see what comes next.
Wow! I think I really needed to hear this. You have some great advice in there that I will try to keep in mind. Thanks for sharing your story!
Thank you for sharing, Emma. I’m still trying to figure out my dream. I agree that sometimes dreams have to change.
This post came at a very needed time for me so thanks 🙂
Thank you, Emma. I started following A Beautiful Mess before you joined Elsie, and it’s been amazing to watch it evolve. As a reader, the growth and change felt organic and right, and reading this post shows how connected your readers feel to you. I think your success has been built on your abilities to be genuine, which is a talent both you and your sister (and your whole team) seems to have. Thanks for sharing this behind-the-scenes and for the encouragement. It can be hard to see past the beauty of this blog to the grit and the hard work, but this was a great reminder of how much it takes to get where you are.
I really needed to read this today, thank you for sharing your journey, your vulnerability. Seems like you and Elsie have it all together, and it’s nice to know it was a long and colorful road to get there. It makes me feel less hopeless.
Thank you for this honest post. I really needed it today. 🙂
I think somehow I needed to read this. I haven’t looked at your blog in awhile and today I thought “I miss a beauitful mess” and there was this post. I’ve been feeling like a failure most of my life, but I really always want to keep going and improve and make something of my life. I look up to you and your sister so much, I only hope I can one day live as happy as you are right now. Thank you for inspiring me, eventhough I’m on the other side of the world and only know you guys through your blog. xox
Thank you so much for this post, this morning I was feeling very lost as to what I am doing with my life and which direction I want it to go in. This post has showed me that it is ok to not have it all together and to keep pushing forward, its ok to be lost sometimes, i just need to find my way through it.
Emma, there is nothing embarassing in your story. It’s just life, and i can totally relate to the feeling of being a failure.
I quit college after 3 years thinking i had a good degree that would allow me to do what i wanted (work in a high school to be a student counselor). I spent 7 years of my life taking the test to achieve that and never succeeded. Eventually my worked stoped, i was unemployed found a super duper boring job in an administration and then answered to a life opportunity.
A friend of mine told me about her boss looking for someone to work with mentally disabled people. I accepted that opportunity even though i was scared and it was far from what i had planned. 4 years later here i am working my dream job (still in the same business), i got a promotion and i really feel successful ! I’m so thankful to have taken that opportunity 4 years back !!!
Thank you for telling your story. I totally agree with you, there is always hope.
Great timing of this post. A huge opportunity for me has just presented and I was debating how to proceed.
Thanks for sharing your amazing journey
Wow. Thank you very much!
I feel like you did, everyday I wake up. I’m already 42, and although I have ideas of who/what I’d like to be “when I grow up”, I feel like it’s already too late for me. I’ve been coasting by for years and years, and although it’s very familiar, it sure is stagnant. I want to feel challenged, and I can’t even imagine what it would feel like to love what I’m doing.
Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable, I have been in this place of limbo lately and reading this was encouraging to keep pressing forward because you never know what well be just ahead
Embarrassed? Banish that thought. Your post has had a positive effect on several – those who’ve commented already. But remember there are many more who are also marveling at your story, understanding that their life isn’t just a mess either. Those many more, for whatever reasons, won’t comment. Know that you’ve had a positive effect on them as well.
Thank-you for being so brave and sharing your story. It was actually a really big blessing to me, as I am currently trying to decide what to major in (acting is actually an option for me). Your story isn’t embarrassing, it’s triumphant! Thanks again for sharing your triumph. 🙂
This is so inspiring! I’m far from being “a success” but I’d like to think I’m not doing too bad. I definitely go through moments of doubts but I’m trying to remain positive and keep an open mind. I loved reading your story and what you learned along the way. Thank you for sharing!
Emma, thank you SO much for this. Today has been awful – for various reasons my job is starting to fall apart and I’m looking for other work. I have always wanted to work for myself and this was the year I was going to do it, so I was angry that my great employed job was now unstable and therefore I wouldn’t have the time to dedicate to building a freelance career.
So this post came at just the right time. Thank you for being so heartfelt. I am going to embrace a new job as an opportunity to learn more about myself, gain skills that will help me as a freelancer.
I’ll go on working on my blog, learning all I can and hopefully this time next year I won’t feel such an abject failure. I cannot thank you enough for speaking to my heart today. xx
What an amazing post. So beautiful to hear the story and many helpful and true facts. You’re amazing! xx
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Your story is really inspiring and reaches out to lots of people, including me.
I am so happy for you, for all you’ve achieved and all that you are yet to accomplish 🙂
Have an amazing day!
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Hi Emma, this is a truly fantastic post. I am just about to graduate University & will be moving back home into my Parents and even though I know it is the best decision it does feel disheartening!
Thank you for sharing your story. x
I read many popular blogs on various topics. But your blog inspires me and my sister on a lot. Most bloggers are copying each other in the pursuit of fashion, and you create a new and interesting. And the main thing in your blog you give good advice and share your thoughts. Become popular for 1 day is impossible. You make great job and get success. Thank you for your wise opinion, goods advice and cool ideas.
Sincerely, Xenia and Anastasia
This post is so inspiring! It gives me hope and shows me that there are people like you and Elsie who have accomplished and are pursuing your dreams even though you didn’t know what to do in the beginning! So so inspiring for me being in a similar situation of not knowing what to pursue! Thank you so much!!
Thank you so much for sharing! I cannot lie there are some striking similarities from your story to my own. After living in LA for three years, I just moved back in with my parents. It is so amazing to hear how you found success in something you are passionate about!
LOVE this!! Thank you so much for your honesty and bravery! Inspiring!
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I needed to read this today. With just starting a new business and taking a giant leap to pursue my own dream, I’m super encouraged to hear your story. Thank you so much for sharing, Emma! All the best to you!
I, like so many others I’m sure, feel like these are the perfect words I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much for being willing to share your story to encourage others, Emma!
I love this post. I’m really hoping to take my passions for running, fitness, fashion, and blogging, and becoming successful with it. I’ve always known that I could do it, but it’s really cool to hear stories like yours – you grew your thing with your sister, and now look at you! Hoping that I can be telling a story like this one day!
Thank you so much for this post- When I read what you said about “a failure” being just a label you give yourself- something clicked on in my head, and I felt better than I’ve felt in weeks! At least once a week I label myself a failure, because for the past 5 years, I’ve been floating around from college, to owning small creative businesses, to being in jobs that I hate, and now I’m back to freelancing. Nothing’s really “happened” for me yet- and I’m nearing the end of my 20’s. I can really relate to your story, and I love the fact that life can take us places we never even imagined were possible. It’s really important to remember that especially at the times we’re feeling un-inspired. Thanks for writing this post and inspiring us all once again! Oh- and congratulations on your million dollar year, I’m jelly 🙂
I absolutely love the honesty of this post, Emma. This particular line really resonated with me:
“I studied philosophy simply because I loved it, and I had no idea what else to study.”
When I explain to people why I studied History of Art, this is the only explanation that I can manage. Despite knowing I’d wouldn’t use my degree, I just loved learning about it.
It’s so reassuring to know my dream and success are both out there somewhere, and that I’ll come to them in time (with hard work, of course). Thank you for the advice and for opening your heart to all us readers. We really appreciate it.
Hey Emma, I love this post. I love your blog. All the success you’ve had with ABM is well deserved. Thanks for being honest. And thanks for continuing to be so inspirational. You guys rule!
I just want to simply say Thank You for this post. It is perfect in every way and exactly what I needed to hear.
This is seriously the most real and important thing I have ever read on the internet. It is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. I have just had to move back home with my Dad after living on my own for 3 years (besides college), and yes I feel like a failure all of the time, but I’m on a path to pursue what I am good at and what I know will make me happy, I already feel more connected to it. It was a big risk for me to give up the idea of Law School but going through a failed relationship and taking time to think about what matters to me has put me in the position to be brave and do what I want as a career, I have learned that truly its not about the money or what people will think its about what makes you happy. Point being thank you for this, it gives me the hope I need to stop the “pity parties” and keep going forward. You ladies could not be anymore inspiring 🙂
so encouraging and inspiring. thanks for being real about your life and where it has taken you. such freedom in the perspective you have.
I just love your honesty Emma, thank you so much for sharing and being an inspiration!
I’ve been searching everywhere for these words Emma! Thank you for sharing to us your life. I am now in that “i don’t know what to do with myself” stage and I am very honestly scared to take a risk on really doing (and by doing, I mean knowing) what I really love because I am the breadwinner of the family. Drama aside, I know I will shine someday too. Not for everyone to see, but for me to know I have a fire within.
xo kayce
Emma,
Thanks for sharing. I am definitely still in the messiness of figuring out whats next, but it’s so encouraging to hear about lights at the end of the tunnel. You go girl- be proud of where you’ve been and where you’re going!
i am bookmarking this post as it is a really great help for where i am. your journey is such a great example of working it out and doing the best for you, thank you !
Lauren x
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What an inspiring and sincere post, thank you so much for sharing this! <3
I love it when you write these personal posts, Emma! It’s great to get little glimpses of your story. Thanks for the encouragement. xx
Thank you for writing this, Emma. I really needed it. Been battling an existential crisis, but a lot of it plays out in career – the work I do every day, the way I spend the majority of my time. I know many people experience this, but it can feel so lonely. So hearing that you went through it, too, and came out victorious, and that it is ALWAYS a process – this is all encouraging, indeed.
This was really inspiring and exactly what I needed to read tonight – you have no idea how good your timing is. Thank you 🙂
Such an encouraging read! Really beneficial for girls like me who have recently decided to take a leap of faith and follow dreams.
THANK YOU for this post! Our stories are very similar – I too moved to Los Angeles, things didn’t go exactly as planned, and I moved back home with my parents. I took a few odd jobs and was VERY miserable. But, one of those odd jobs led to meeting my fiance, and I am now working at a good job. It’s not what I envision for myself long-term, but I agree that success isn’t always straightforward!
Thank you for your honesty – this post helps me realize that I am not alone!
This post came at a perfect time for me! I am in my early 20s, working multiple part time jobs, but not really feeling fulfilled, and not sure what I want to do. I am definitely in that state where I don’t know what is next, but I’m trying to be open to anything and everything and see where it leads! Thanks for being an inspiration. 🙂
What a great post, thanks for sharing your story. It’s nice to know other people struggle with discovering their dreams, too. Failure, although necessary to improvement, is a really hard thing to deal with, thanks for being brave enough to share your experience, it is very inspiring. 🙂
Thank you for this.
This is my favourite post ever on this blog. Sometimes it feels as if everything comes easy and goes perfect for you girls and its nice to know you have your struggles too. I have been a bit saddened by this blog starting to feel a bit commercial and unreal but now I’m back into it. You’re a sweetie. More stuff from the heart please! Xx
Thank you so much for this. I struggle every day with feeling like I’m mediocre at tons of things but not actually GOOD at any one thing … maybe I need to reevaluate 🙂 I definitely needed to read this today. Thank you for sharing it with all of us!
Hi Emma,
Thank you so much for sharing this. For the record, I’ve been following you from the very beginning of your food blog and I always loved that you had established your own voice outside of your sister. I still have some of those recipes from Food Coma saved in my bookmarks, not only because they were good recipes – but because I loved your tone and sense of humor. So, no, you’re certainly not “second shooter”! I just moved to L.A. to pursue comedy, which I did as a full-time paying career in Boston and was “living the dream” there. Since I had accomplished all my goals in Boston, I wanted to do it on a grander scale. But now that I’m in L.A. – I find myself caring less about succeeding in comedy. My sights aren’t set on what they used to be set on. Yes, I still want to study with The Groundlings and yes, I still want to do improv shows here and there and write funny sketches and do stupid bits with my friends. But I don’t want to be on “SNL” so much… and yes, I’d love to write for funny sitcoms and know that I would LOVE what I do. But when you said, “Dreams don’t have to die, but they do sometimes have to change. Embrace it.” It was like a dagger in my throat. (I’m dramatic.) Yes, yes, yes! I don’t have to do what I SAID I came out here to do just because I said it, I can do whatever I want! I can try to freelance for magazines, I can grow as a photographer/writer/actress/motivational speaker/ etc. I mean, damn, I can write a series of Young Adult novels about sexy bugs if I want! The path can change and that doesn’t mean I’ve failed. So, thanks for sharing because it’s inspiring to hear from someone who’s been on the other side of shifting priorities and focusing on being happy and living your dreams! You’re great.
I can’t even begin to describe how much of an inspiration both you and Elsie are to me. I’m a current college student and I’m constantly stressed out about getting internships, getting good grades, and making connections–all in the aim of getting 9-to-5 job that would leave me emotionally and creatively drained. When I found A Beautiful Mess last year, I realized that it is possible to create your own dream. For the first time I actually feel like I can do whatever I want with my life and I can do what I love. It’s so empowering. Thanks so much for being an inspiration and sharing your story. 🙂
Thanks for share your beautiful story. I had been reading your blog for a long time and enjoy every post because always there is something that inspires me. I just received your book and it’s amazing, I’m waiting for the next one!!
Kisses from Barcelona!
It’s so comforting to hear that even those that seem to have it totally together, once struggled just like everyone else. Thank you for sharing!
Maybe my favorite post thus far on A Beautiful Mess. Thanks for sharing, Emma. My path is different from yours but similar in the sense that I always felt like I was in the shadow of my older sister (I wasn’t–we each had our own successes!). Now that we are both adults, we’re always looking for creative ways to collaborate. And much like you two, our strengths and weaknesses usually really compliment each other’s. Anyway, great post!
Inspiring, for sure! thank you for this, its just what I needed reminded of at this point in my life.
Emma- thank you for this amazing authentic post! So needed it out of all days! I will indeed carry with me so many of things you mentioned!
In the last few years I feel like I have been living in the shadow of some pretty raw circumstances (my mothers and Stepfathers cancer and deaths way too young and my own recent divorce). I just feel so stuck, but still with this huge sense of urgency to live life to the fullest and pursue what I am passionate about.
Thank you for spreading some hope by sharing! And know that your irreplaceable to a Beautiful Mess!
so thankful for this article, emma. just got turned down by my dream-company a few hours ago and been thinking about my strengths and “the right way to success” since then. perfect timing! (and far better then all the motivational quotes i just wrote down in my notebook!) all the best from cold austria and thanks for your amazing work in “übersee”, magdalena (also 24 – seems to be a tough year in all our lives!)
Thanks you for this piece of wisdom. I love that you are so positive and use your blog to empower ladies! ♥
Your perseverance and the many challenges you overcame definitely earned you bragging rights! Great story Emma, thanks for sharing.
Xoxo Mazi
I really, really love this post, Emma! Sometimes I feel like a failure for changing course and stepping out on the corporate world to and spend time w/my son and start my own business. I love when you say that success is a process. I often have to remind myself that my dream looks different than what others value as success.
This is LITERALLY just what I needed to read. I am a college student, studying something that I have no idea if Ill even get a job in when I graduate. I am sincerely struggling with it although people tell me that they could never major in French. It kills me that Im not studying something Im obsessed with, yet I still have to power through. Thank you a million times over for posting this. I really needed this right now!
This was so inspiring, especially the “Success is a process, not an event or state of being”. That really struck a chord with me, thank you for this Emma. So happy that your guys’ business is doing so well!
I would just like to give you big hugs for writing and sharing this post. I cannot even fathom all the lives you touch and will affect with your honesty.
In other news, I also wanted to say that being an avid reader of A Beautiful Mess for a couple years, I always got the impression you and Elsie were equals, co-bloggers, and neither held the reins. (And have the most amazing sister relationship.)
I think you and Elsie should find a writer in your life to make a sitcom about two sisters who works together in the capacity the two of you do. Not reality tv, but a loosely-based-on-the-two-of-you sitcom. It’d totally be a New Girl meets FRIENDS meets Gilmore Girls for the thirty-something audience. 🙂
This is probably one of my favorite posts that I’ve seen on ABM. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and reminding us that success doesn’t always come easy, or even very naturally. It takes a lot of hard to work and risk taking to get to your place in life. It’s obvious that you are doing what you are meant to be – congratulations 🙂
such a lovely post Emma! these are the posts i appreciate most in the blog world. its easy to make your life look pretty much perfect through well-edited posts, but sharing the scary and uncertain parts of life with your readers, it’s special 🙂
You can’t imagine how much this post means to me at the moment. I’m right in the middle of a very difficult period and can’t help but feel like a failure while working slowly on putting my life back together. Thank you for your openess. 🙂
Beautiful Emma!. When I was 24 I wantend tot follow my father in his foodsteps and worked in the company for 5 years eventually I left when a new chairman came when my father retired. We didn’t get. Along. I left and had no clue what to do since that was my lifes purpose. I felt such a faillure. I became a photographer. Two more times I was at the point of going back to the family business and something came beween it. Then the company went bankrupt after being in the family for over 100 years. For 8 years it had impacted my career and then it was gone. Along the way new dreams came and in May my third book is being published, a cookbook, veggiekidz how to cook great vegitarian food for kids. So yes sometimes you have to change dreams and good things can come in place… Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’ve been in a pretty scary crisis point in my life since I’ll be graduating from university next year and still have no idea what I want to do. This post has calmed me down a bit and definitely made me think!
You are an inspiration – never change your positive outlook on life!
– Natalie
http://www.couttiepie.blogspot.com [A Fashion and Lifestyle Blog]
Hi Emma, thank you for sharing your story… It is very encouraging and inspiring to me… I’ve been feeling like that for the past couple of months but I recently got 3 of my best friends to start a small creative business with. It never was my dream but I know that it is a good alternative. Thanks again
Thank you for this Text. Thank you for your honesty and your encouraging words. I really need this today. Thank you 🙂
Such a great post!!
@tina I love your sitcom idea :-)!
I actually really needed to read something like this. I have been feeling like a failure after deciding to leave the art school I had been attending. Even though I know it in the back of my head, your post helped me see that life changes from the way you think it will end up and that it’s ok. Thank you!
I know others have said this, but this is something I needed to hear. Thanks.
It’s been a little difficult locking down a summer job in my field. Failure is not something I’m used to, and right now it’s starting to feel like “they” are kicking me while I’m down. I know that my big opportunity will come eventually, and like you said, maybe my dreams need to shift a little in order to be more in-line with my own talents and skills.
It’s nice to know that you’re not the only one who feels a little defeated at times, but there’s no point in wallowing, right?
What a fantastic post. So intimate and personal. And what a message. Thank you for sharing. I’ll read you in a different way now… ❤ From France.
Reading this post has been very inspiring to me!
I am stuck in a job than don’t like and I’m very, very tired. But I’m afraid to quit, because nowadays it’s very difficult to find any job where I live, in Spain. I had always dreamt about being a great fashion editor. However, I work in a fashion shop.
I started writting my own blog one month ago because if i can’t write for a magazine, I’m going to create my own online fashion magazine! Just to calm the anxiety…
I’m very happy for you and your sister. Your work and all that you have created is amazing!
Thank you for this post (and sorry for my english writting)!
Emma, this is perfect. I am in the middle of changing careers and becoming an Event Planner. While it is scary to know I am about to venture out and try and make something from nothing, I couldn’t be more excited. I know how you feel about being the “second shooter” because I am starting my business with my mom. But in the end, I know I wouldn’t want to have this challenge or experience with anyone else.
You have no idea how timely reading this is! oh funny little cosmic universe, how it presents you with exactly what you need to hear/read if you listen/click the link. <3
This was very inspiring for me. I am often discouraged before I even try things. This makes me feel better about trying and the possibility of failing. Because often times your failures lead you to greater things!
Thanks for this reminder!
This is truly inspiring. I hope to one day find my success as you have. I know that with whatever adventure my journey takes me on, that I will be grateful for all the treasures that have come my way already.
Love reading this Emma!
I emailed you waaaay back in 2010 (I think right after you’d moved back to Missouri) as I was a big fan of you and the rest of the Red Velvet Girls and had myself just moved to LA to pursue the music business. Being immediately overwhelmed and homesick, I emailed you inquiring about advice for living here and baking, of course! You totally replied too!! You made me feel less alone in this big crazy city. So thank you again for that!
Thank you so much for this. I went to college and I’ve had several different jobs but I’ve never really felt like anything was right. It has always felt off somehow. I’m really going to take a good look at what I’m good at and see if I can reorganize somehow. Congratulations on your success and thank you for inspiring me to find my own.
Emma! Wow you’re so cute. Thank you so much for writing this post. It is really encouraging. I’m nineteen, figuring out my first year of college. Life can be confusing sometimes and I have all these plans and dreams but sometimes don’t know exactly how to get to them, or how things are going to work out. It’s cool to hear from the other side 🙂
I live for inspirational stories like this and am constantly inspired by young 20 something and 30 something women making things happen! You, Elsie and a handful of other successful female business owners keep me motivated and determined not to give up on my own dreams. I doubt myself quite a bit, but it makes me feel a bit better to know that, that is a very human thing to do. I just have to figure out how to stop doing it. And your life in college reads something like mine, only I majored in Sociology. Keep it up, I love this blog and the people behind it!
What a wonderful post! It’s so interesting to read some of the stories “behind” you blog (and not at all embarrasing) – my favourite post so far…
Thank you for sharing your wonderful story, Emma! I can relate to a lot of it, and especially the part about how sometimes mundane things end up leading to great things. You never know until you try!
Hi Emma. I know your sister but didn’t know the story of the two of you. So cool! I live with my sister, and we complement each other in that same way. We’ve been criticized for being too dependent on each other, but it’s just a public perception, not a reality. We are two different people.
Reading this sounded very familiar. I’m so glad you found yourself in finding your way back to your roots. And I love the concept of the evolution of our dreams…we change, and our dreams grow with us! xoxo
Thank you for writing this! I really needed to hear this, as a co-owner of an art gallery with my husband but, the only full time “employee”. Sometimes I feel like I’m not chasing my dreams but, his.
Even if the show ideas are mine, even if I have my own art in the shows a lot of the time. EVEN with our company being more successful since I’ve taken over being here full time! I still feel like I have to prove something to myself by doing something else that I don’t even know what that is! I feel like a crazy person sometimes. SO I really appreciate reading something like this randomly one day when I should be working harder 😉
Thank you so much for sharing your journey here Emma. The timing couldn’t be more perfect. Your and Elsie’s story and blog are such an inspiration and encourage me to push harder everyday:-)
Wauw..! That was the most inspiring and honest blogpost I’ve read… ever! What you have done is VERY impressing! Even though the actress thing didn’t work out, it was very brave of you to move all the way to L.A. to pursue your dream – and that you have been building a shop up from the ground is just so cool. I gotta say, your story is a great inspiration for me! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Emma
http://www.thecasualcliche.blogspot.dk
Thank you for your bravery in sharing this story! It was exactly what I needed to hear today 🙂
I’m in tears, thank you so very much!
Thank you for sharing something so beautiful with us. To be honest, I truly needed to hear(read) this today. I’ve always felt this way but was so ashamed and I felt alone. So many people around me succeeding in ways that I could never even dream up. You’ve inspired me to work harder, look deep within myself and keep a positive look at all events, good and bad. Thank you for all you’ve done for me personally over the years.
jessa
This is such a good post. Probs my favorite “life” post i’ve ever read on ABM. I’m going to school for graphic design and my dream would be sot start something similar to a beautiful mess. Holler if you ever need a designer 😉 haha.
You go Emma! (Also the way you quite your posts on here and on instagram, you can definetely tell you’re a comedian!)
xoxo
-Daisy
This is so inspiring! I’m applying to uni this year and also have no idea what I want to do but I’m trying my best to just let things flow as you’ve said:)
xx Milly
http://www.lovemilly.blogspot.ca
Your blog post came to me at the right time! Thank you for being candid with your personal life. I know it’s tough, but it’s amazing to see your growth and positive outlook on life.
I quit my job 2.5 years ago to be a stay at home mom. To supplement our income I wanted to freelance write and design and eventually turn my client list into a boutique ad agency.
It’s been a tough road. It took me months to get that first client. Plus, raising a family on 1.25 incomes is TOUGH. After all that time, I’m back to square one with just one client and not a lot of income. It’s frustrating. I hate being poor. I want to throw the towel in everyday and find full time work (even at a lower salary) just so we can build up our savings again (my oldest graduates HS in 4 years, so paying for college is on our brains).
Why am I telling you all this? Because your post inspires me. It reminds me that I need to be patient and keep working towards my dream. Thank you.
Here’s to not giving up!!
Such a beautifully honest post – I was having a similar conversation with my housemate about changing and honesty so this has hit home. Life is about taking risks, following your heart and saying SOD IT to expectations that other folk have for you. Thank you for sharing 🙂
I absolutely loved this post. I too am familiar with having to dream new dreams so I get it. I just love how refreshingly honest you are, something that is often rare on the internet. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
P.S.
I never thought of you as just the kid sis or the food blogger. I love what you bring to the table.
This is beautiful! I certainly don’t think of you as just the gal who cooks for the blog! You and Elsie both are the heartbeat of everything on this blog! This truly encourages me!! Thank you for sharing!
A lovely blog – thank you for your words of wisdom and the inspiration you girls give me everyday! Congrats on your million $ year!
Bailey
Thanks Emma for this post! I’ve been going through much the same thing in the last two years: coming to terms with gradual changes in my life, realizing that one path that was once so important and fulfilling ceased to be the thing that excited me most. My new path may be far more humble, but it challenges, inspires, and brings light to my life everyday.
So thanks for reminding me that I made the right choices to follow my happiness.
All the best!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I am not going to lie… I have had a really rough day and this was exactly what I needed to read. I love this whole post but especially, “Dreams don’t have to die, but they do sometimes have to change. Embrace it.” I am a homeschooling mom to 4 young kiddos and I can get so lost in the mundane that I forget to pursue the beauty behind it all. I am living my dream but I have let myself lose sight of that in so many ways. Thank you so much for the reminder 🙂
Thank you for sharing Emma!! That’s such an important life lesson, that things you try and don’t work our are NOT failures, but experiences. It goes right along with not regretting choices we have made: if you hadn’t gone to LA for a while, maybe you would always wonder if you missed out?
Now you know that you didn’t. I think it’s really important to live on your own for a while, to figure out who you are and aren’t.
Beautiful post!!
As a Missouri resident I was shaken to the core by Hailey Owens’ abduction and subsequent death. I find this post in poor taste especially since you are a Springfeild resident. Why would you be bragging on your millions of readers and million dollar business when a little girl was just murdered in the town you live in on tuesday??? I am still shell shocked by it and I live 5 hours away from Springfield. As a daily reader of your blog I was confused when I did not see any news about it. I am aware her death has nothing to do with you, but I do feel like you are an influential member of your town that does have access to reach, like you said, MILLIONS of readers. I do think public condolences and support for her family would have been the least you could do. I understand this might be coming from way out in left field but as a Springfield resident and a person that might raise your own children in that town one day. I urge you to stop and take a moment for little Hailey, she definitely deserves it.
This is probably one of my favorite posts on this blog. Thank you for being so honest.. sometimes the blog world feels too perfect and it gets discouraging for all the rest of us.
Congratulations to the two of you for being so successful and motivated! You and your sister are an inspiration!
I read your blog pretty much everyday (and have taken many recipes and DIY ideas from it), but this is the first time I have ever commented. Your story really, really spoke to me, and I think it was just the thing I needed to read right now. I moved back home with my mom last year, after living on the other side of the country for 6 years, pursuing my dream of becoming an academic. I am still working on figuring out how to be more flexible, and how to deal with seemingly “failing” or at least not having everything as figured out as other people. It’s so nice to read that other people have gone through the same thing, because everyone I know seems to have everything so together. Thank you for writing this, and sharing your story!
Thanks for sharing your story Emma. It’s so nice to come across such an honest and inspiring post. I like the idea of success being an ongoing thing and that there is no such thing as failure. It’s nice to be reminded of it every once in a while. Thank you!
Thanks so much for sharing, Emma. It’s so powerful to read your personal story of change.
I’d like to thank you wholly for sharing your story!! I’m a freshman in college who is going through a fast-paced and overwhelming period of my life. I’ve been feeling very defeated and discouraged, and it means the world to be reminded of the world and opportunities that exist beyond my daily struggles. People like you who have endured and worked hard and took life by the horns are so important in inspiring girls like me!
Samantha x
this was the most beautiful post. you’ve inspired me since i discovered your blog because of your personal stories of perseverance and making dreams a reality. thank you, thank you, thank you. congratulations on all of your accomplishments!
Absolutely spot-on what I needed to hear today. It is amazing to read such an honest bit of writing from someone unknown personally but still a daily influence in my little life. Thank you so much Emma!
Thank you for sharing your story with us! I know it must have taken courage but I thank you for it! Brought tears to my eyes because I can relate!
Colleen
Thanks Emma! It’s hard to keep going, but gosh you’re inspirational (I’m a huge dork, and think you’re awesomely cool).:)
Lovely. I am always afraid to play the “second shooter” and sometimes it’s just so exhausting to compare yourself with the others. Thanks for inspiring article!
Lovely. I am always afraid to play the “second shooter” and sometimes it’s just so exhausting to compare yourself with the others. Thanks for inspiring article!
Thankyou for writing this wonderful, inspiring, honest post Emma.
It’s great to read about your success story. I worry alot about my future as a freelance Illustrator. It’s a tough industry but I’m prepared for the ups and downs and to be brave!
What an inspirational post, Emma. I really needed this right now. This summer, I’ll be abandoning the job I set myself up for in college to follow my real dreams: writing and art. I appreciate your advice so very much and love how honestly you wrote. Disappointment does have a way of blossoming into something beautiful and taking you down unexpected paths where the best things wait for you at the end (even if it doesn’t feel like it during the journey). Thank you so much for this beautiful, genuine entry.
Very inspiring. Love you!
Very inspiring! I needed to read this. Thanks for sharing!
This post could not have come at a better time! This totally spoke to me and what I have been feeling lately with my office work, using my degree and feeling like I have to use my degree or I will have “failed”. I struggle so much between being creative or intellectual and have such a hard time finding a path that will incorporate them both together.
I love what you said about not passing up opportunities that look mundane. This was just perfect. Thank you for posting such an open and honest insight into your personal journey. This was totally needed and much appreciated.
xoxo. LP
This is so awesome, Emma. I’m turning 27 in April, which has always been the age I’ve envisioned I’d truly be an adult. And I’m moving back home this year. So what does that mean, right!? But a little reminder that not having it all figured out from a stranger-that-you-feel-like-you-know is what I needed. Thanks for your bravery!
Hilariously, I came on the site today to find one of your doughnut recipes. Thanks for the inspiration, life-wise, and treats-wise! : )
This is so inspirational and really what I needed right now. I’m currently in college for the same reasons you went and I still have no clue what I want to do, but this just helped reasure me that everything will fall into place. Thank you so much Emma!
Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. You encourage me today!
What a great blog post! Very inspiring. I certainly have had times in my life where my goals and dreams changed and I thought it was the end of the world but it’s not. It’s just another time to learn and grow. Thanks Emma for the words of wisdom and for sharing!
I was just randomly searching blogs & sort of stumbled across this post. The timing couldn’t have been more perfect. I’m currently finishing up my 7th year of grad school (yea, be jealous, right?–I’ll graduate at the end of this year) and am considering making a drastic career change. So far I’ve only casually mentioned this to two people (both of whom were immensely supportive). There are about a million things running through my brain lately, but it’s good to hear that other people have been there and lived to tell the tale. Thanks for this. It was exactly what I needed today!!
Thank you so much Emma. I’m still in the ‘what the hell am I doing?’ stage of my life. I don’t know where life will take me, but you’ve shown me that that’s ok! I hope that one day I get to be half as successful as you
Grace
x
theartofwandering.blogspot.co.uk
I’m 22 and lost as ever. Thanks for making me feel like this is only the beginning!
I really needed to read this right now. I’ve been feeling a bit overwhelmed and thinking I may not get to where I want to, but you’ve inspired me to keep tracking on, be patient, and not let go of my aspirations. Thank you!
This is beyond inspiring Emma and your honesty is so lovely. Just amazing what you and Elsie have been able to accomplish!
SO, so inspiring. I’m at that stage in my life right now, where I don’t really know what will come next, but remembering things like moving with the “flow of life” really helps me to believe that great things will come. Thank you.
I really needed to read something like this. I’ve been unemployed for three years (with random freelance jobs) and have applied for over 50 jobs with not even one interview call. I’m trying to make it as a surface pattern designer in a country that has almost zero market for what I do, and the companies abroad aren’t interested in licensing my work. I’m so lost and have no idea which way to go, and on top of that my confidence in my work is close to zero, since I’ve only received “no” when trying to sell my patterns. It’s nice to see I’m not the only one, reading your post I realized that, at some point, things will have to change, and I’ll start to pay more attention to non-obvious opportunities. People around me keep saying I should start my own business but I’m so afraid of asking my mum for a loan and not making profits and never being able to pay her back. What’s up with this fear we have? I don’t remember feeling like this in high school or during my university years.
Thank you. You probably don’t remember, but I emailed you a few months back with some tech-y questions, and as usual the information you provided was both helpful and encouraging.
I have wanted to be a writer since the fifth grade. I currently work in PR and writing is a big part of my job but my dream is run my own blog/business much like you and Elsie and be a published author some day. It is so encouraging to hear your stories and watch your business grow and thrive.
Thank you.
Thank you so much for this post. I really needed it.
I feel like a failure too, at the moment. But your post opened my eyes.
Love to read your posts!
is the app your million dollar idea? if so, that’s so great.
What a wonderful post. I’ve been reading this blog for years and I remember when you came to work at the blog with Elsie. You both clearly make a great team and love working together. X
Thank you, thank you, THANK you for writing this. I know I was rooting for you ever since I started reading this blog. Coming from a nerdy-bookworm-teenage girl – you seem like an everyday hero. 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing this Emma! Its so encouraging to read your side of this beautiful story… So proud of the ABM team and so excited to see where the next few years take you guys!
Dang girl… So needed to read this. It’s always encouraging to read other people’s stories of success and bumps hit along the way. Thank you, thank you for sharing!!
Blessings- and congrats on a million dollar year! Woot woot. 😉
What an inspirational posts! After looking for a job for over two years and finally finding one I know what failure feels like but am also thankful for this rough period in my life. It’s unbelievable how you managed to get up on your feet again. Be proud of yourself! Thanks for sharing.
Great story! Best wishes for continued success!
Emma, this post was truly wonderful to read. Thank you for being so open and honest. There is so much truth in what you said, and it’s inspiring to hear it coming from someone who has been an inspiration to me! Cheers to you and your amazing journey!
-Ana
wow, i think this post kinda pierced through my heart. you’ve grown on me emma, like the taste for wine or onions.
i finished college a year ago, had some crappy jobs, tried to start several projects on my own (all failed for different reasons), and my mood and my spirit at this point are kind of below zero.
i’ve done all by the book, still going to job interviews, at this point I feel like i have no more selfsteem left, no more joy to hold on to, no more dreams to fight for.
well, long story short, there are days that are much harder than others, and though i try to stay possitive and try to go with the oportunities that present into my life, i just can’t catch a break.
thanks for sharing 🙂 is certainly good to know that somehow, brighter days will come.
blessings,
Branah from Chile 🙂
So inspiring. This is the first thing I have read from your blog and it shot me through the heart. Right place at the right time. I am going through a similar but different situation of starting something new and your key points are so true! Thank you for sharing.
This is a great post, Emma. Thank you for sharing! And congratulations on all of your successes!
Thank you for sharing this. Very inspiring.
I’m very new to this blog, but you have already impressed and inspired me. Thank you so much for sharing that story!
Dear Emma,
First of all: thank you for this post, congratulation on your married and on the first million dollar`s in 2013!
I think your post will inspire a lot of people and give them confidence and power to go ahead in order to (likewise) reach their goals. That’s great and more “successful people” should act in that way and declare their personal “how to”!
But to be honest, first of all I would like to mention that people maybe will ignore your truthful words regarding the “hard way” to success and will fail.
But this point is very important for creating a successful business anyhow. I had 14-16 hours working day`s for a very loooong period before I became “successful”. But I (even at this time) never regret spending so much time and energy for this business, because I loved it! This point you should have stated out clearer.
And you have to get opportunities in life, as you had by your chance encounter with Elsie.
Last important point is the personality because (I believe) that not everyone is made for self-dependence.
I really enjoy reading your post and it`s a great idea of sharing “way`s to success” like this.
I understand your notes between the lines and hopefully your audience will understand this too and become as successful as you and Elsie!
All the best for you, Elsie and your team!
Stefanie
PS: Hopefully you understood my weak phrasing, but English is not my mother tongue.
PPS: I will not post the number of millions we made last year ;0)
Wow. Thank you for your honesty. From my side of the screen, your life always seemed easy and perfect with the greatest outfits to go with it!
This is perfect. You’re lovely.
This is such an amazing post. I am exactly at this “fail” situation the last 1,5-2 years.. I’m almost 24,I moved back to my parents’ 2 years ago, before finishing university and now (luckily and at last!) I have my last 5 lessons to graduate. The unemployment rate is so big here, I can’t find a job that would allow me to live on my own, I hate being so poor and having to ask my parents for money, it’s a little embarrasing at this age. I think that I would do any job to make a living, but I love my job (I work freelance whenever there are clients) and I want to work on it and improve my skills. All the young people in my country are leaving abroad, I believe I should try my luck here first, but thinking that web designers get paid up to 5000€ monthly and I would get at-the-very-maximum 900€ is frustrating. I’m not greedy of course, it’s that everything seems discouraging, you work 10hours a day for 500€ and you can never leave your parents’ house, let alone move on with your life.
This came at a time when I’ve been in denial about my dreams and how they aren’t coming true the way I want. it’s time to change.
http://insidesai.blogspot.co.uk/
This is a really great post! So much insight, and I love the reassurance that you can still end up doing what you love, even if you don’t love what you’re doing right now.
This was a wonderful piece and very inspiring for someone, like myself, about to graduate college in the arts. It sounds like Elise wouldn’t be where she is without you as well. You guys make a wonderful team and I am so glad to hear Beautiful Mess is so successful. I would be interested to Elise’s story and all your new wonderful employees experiences as well. Thank you!
I absolutely needed to read this. Thank you.
The Rambling Fangirl
This was a great article.I think at times what I´m doing is right or wrong.It´s really inspirational .I´m still studying but at times I still have questions about how life will turn out to be.
Emma, I never comment on this blog, but I’ve been reading for a few years now. I want to thank you for this. I live in Brooklyn and graduate college in less than three months. All the plans I thought I had in order to follow graduation have changed, but for some odd reason I feel I need to hold on to them, and do them anyways because I once said I would. People say “but you said you would do that…”, but that doesn’t mean I have to. Life changes, people change, plans change. And I thank you for reassuring me that that’s true.
wonderful advice (i am facing the same dilemas myself at the moment) and so lucky that you have a sister to share it with and work with!
Such a great post.
My story has taken me from house-sitting to personal assistant to non-profit worker to religious education work to cancer researcher assistant to freelance editor and writing instructor -and a few other things in between. Oh, and the journey is far from over.
Thanks for the reminder and encouragement to celebrate the ‘now’.
Very grateful! Thank you very much for this motivating post!
Needed it, too!
This is a wonderful article… I’ve actually just transferred course at Uni (college) from French & Philosophy to History, and it was probably the toughest decision I’ve ever had to make. This is sort of what I needed to read to pick me up a bit! Thank you!
http://www.sophiemakesup.blogspot.com
So, so true and so encouraging. Thank you for sharing your story because I’ve never thought of you as anything less than very talented, creative and successful.
Thank you for sharing this Emma, it’s just what I needed to hear today!
Thanks for this. I’m at the almost finishing uni, don’t really know what I could do with what I’ve studied don’t know what to do with my life stage! this gives me hope! I love reading your recipes and you’ve inspired me to even try some and I very rarely cook!
I’ve been following your blog for about a year, and although I rarely comment, I’m always inspired about the way you guys have turned this blog into such a successful business. This post really hit me on a personal level, and I thank you for that reality check that success comes slowly and it’s okay to struggle. Nice to feel like I’m not the only one. Thank you!
I’ll be graduating college with a degree in marketing in a few months and would be lying if I said I wasn’t freaking out about what will happen next and how to get to the place I want to be. I needed this today. Thank you for sharing this with us. You (and the entire A Beautiful Mess team) are such an inspiration!
Hola Emma,
I´m a huge fan of you and A beautiful Mess from Spain!
My english is so bad to express my all feeling after reading this article :_
I just want to say thank you to share your story here and i´m very moved from this article! I´m here in spain(i moved from south korea before 3 years ago) to figure out about myself but it´s not easy at all…:_ and really i needed some real ¨Hiling Story ¨ like this to come over my weekness and negative things! I´m gonna read again and again this artical when i feel falling down!
¨No matter where you are in life, I already know one thing about you: You are not a failure. Even if you’re feeling like one lately, please know I’ve been right there with you. I believe in you. You should believe in yourself.¨
Thank you and i wish best for you!
This is incredibly timely for me. Thank you for sharing. I’ve been slowly giving up on a huge dream of being a musician/songwriter. It requires an insane amount of commitment and drive and while I love music, I think it’s better to stick to as a hobby than a career. I’ve recently discovered new dreams of getting into design. I’m looking into going back to school for interior design, but I’m now starting to focus in on photo styling. I’m SO overwhelmed and have no clue where to start, really. This definitely spoke to me. It’s okay to refocus and change directions. It’s not always easy, but it can lead to something beautiful.
Wow, thank you Emma for such an inspiring story that you’re willing to share with us. I definitely need something like this because I’m getting old and I feel like I haven’t achieved anything yet and still lost in this world.
Thank you for posting this 🙂 Am currently in the middle of an internship I’m not enjoying, and worrying about what to do with the rest of my life now Plan A isn’t working. This is inspiring!! Thank you xx
Great post. I love your words of encouragement and honesty. I took a similar cliche leap this year and have no regrets. Life is meant to be lived, not planned 🙂
Thank you for sharing your heart and your experiences! I love that you posted this and we are able to see a bit more into your life! I have loved watching you and your sister transform for the last couple years and it is so encouraging to see the whole story laid out from your perspective! Thank you.
Totally 100% needed this today. My dreams are a’changing day by day, and I’m learning to embrace each little unexpected moment (though not always gracefully). Thanks for being really inspirational. You definitely just got yourself another reader.
This is a really great post – well done (and thank you) for writing it.
I think it’s really important to reflect on where we’ve come from and all the things we’ve learnt along the way.
It was inspiring to read, even if it wasn’t intended to be.
This is a very inspiring post for me, I just pass 2 months looking for a new job and really felt like I was a “looser” or a failure as you say. But that made me understand that life is not simple and I should believe more in myself !
PS : french people love your blog 🙂
Thank you so much for this, its so helpful to hear other people going through stuff like this, and seeing that they’ve managed to turn it around. I finished university a few months ago, and ever since I’ve felt lost with what to do with my career, but your post has given me inspiration to know that it will be ok in the end, and I’ll figure it out eventually. Thanks so much xxx
This was so inspirational and I really enjoyed hearing a little bit more about your background! I’m a junior in college and am about to have to start making those really hard decisions. Do I go to grad school, law school, or start looking for a job? If I do start looking for a job should I look for something in my college town, out of state, or should move back home? It’s frustrating and scary and it’s really hard to plan for. Thanks for this post, so much! Also, congrats on all of y’all’s success!
xoxo
This was very insightful~ and well timed cause I really needed to read this~ Thanks for sharing~ we sometimes get so easily discouraged, we don’t see the blessing in some failures.
Thank you so much for sharing about this difficult part of your life!
It really gives an impression of how much you have grown as a person, and it’s for posts like this that I love this blog even more!
This is perfect. So honest and inspiring. I really needed to read this right now. Thank you, so much, for sharing. And all the best with everything you have yet to set your hands to. I have no doubt it will be sensational.
Just what I needed to hear this week. I’m trying to embrace a possible change in my life, but I’m scared and unsure. Thanks for sharing your story! Inspiration is always needed!
Wow, thank you so much for sharing your story, Emma! I feel a little bit better knowing you were in a similar place that I am in now, and that it takes time, patience, and a lot of courage to actually go after your dream. You and Elsie are such an inspiration!
xoxo- Kim
http://www.thesimpletreat.com/
Emma,
Thank you so much for sharing this!
I find I am always comparing my successes (or lackthereof) to those around me. I feel like I’m never far enough along or going in the right direction, or have enough talent to actually achieve my dreams.
I’m 25 and I feel like I’m so far behind. Living in New York City and seeing the stark contrast between the “successful” and the “not successful” is hard. I’m a country girl, I’m from a small pond!
Anyway. I found this really uplifting and encouraging.
Congratulations on all of your success and, I guess, the failures that got you there 🙂
-A
http://lelanjolie.blogspot.com/
This is so inspiring and exactly what I needed. Thank you so much for sharing!!! Your bravery is appreciated.
i am not sure if i have ever commented on your blog. i have followed it for some time now and love it so much. you and elise are just the cutest sisters. the type of relationship i wish i had with my own sister.
i just want to say thank you.
i think i had my life planned out long ago and now about to go on 27, nothing went as i suspected. but that doesn’t mean it has all been bad. my experiences have taught me a lot. & that sometimes we have to take risks, which may mean leaving something behind that we thought we were suppose to do.
i appreciate you being open with your readers.
it was extremely encouraging.
much love,
colie.
Hi Emma,
Thank you for this post! A few months out of college, I’m struggling to find motivation to look for a job because I don’t even know what the heck I can do/would be good at. It’s a great reminder to hear all of this!
Emma, thank you for sharing this. I really need this now because this is exactly what I’m feeling at the moment. I may not have earned my 1st million yet, i had a successful handmade invitation for quite some time but i felt I needed to grow…to evolve and pursue my other dreams. Thanks for teaching us the definition of success…so damn right. And the labels…yes, its been my nemesis and maybe that’s why I keep going back and forth asking myself if what I did in the past was right. Thank you for sharing. I’m happy to see where you are now. I hope someday, in the near future, I will be able to tell my journey as well and I will always remember you for that. Xoxo
This really speaks to me, I’d love to hear Elsie tell her story as well. My Etsy shop is growing leaps and bounds (I’m blessed and grateful) – but I’m seriously overwhelmed. I need an “Emma” in my life really badly, but am afraid of taking those steps. Failing yourself is one thing, but failing someone else who decides to take a chance on your vision, is completely another. It’s nice to hear, that those I look to for inspiration, were shakin’ in their boots at one point too!
Thanks for reminding me that it’s an ongoing, ever-changing process. Nice post.
This is so encouraging. Thanks for sharing, Emma!
Christen
http://christenlouise.blogspot.com
love
Thank you for this post! So much truth, and something I personally needed to read today, so thank you!
You should not be embarrassed at the things you’ve accomplished and the journey in which you took to get there! What an incredible and inspiring tale. Thank you for sharing! I blog (for myself mostly) but it’s starting to really go somewhere, and work as an irish dance teacher (full time really, but part time) and i have an office job with corporate america which is totally soul sucking. I hope that some day the dancing school or my blog takes off with all the hard work put in
xo, Nina
afterthe40barfinish
Great post ! thank you for sharing Emma !!
I love this. So inspiring. Fresh. I’ve always felt that the final year in high school, when you have to decide who you want to be, is so ridiculous. I think for most people it takes the entire 20’s (and sometimes well into your 30’s) to finally find yourself exactly where you want to be, where you were meant to be. Thank you for the encouragement, Emma!
This post could not have come at a more opportune time for me. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thank you for sharing! It’s so encouraging to hear other people’s stories, especially in the midst of searching for your path.
So encouraging! Thank you for sharing your story.
I’ve been a reader of ABM for almost 4 years now! I’ve seen the evolution, and when I found out both you and Elsie were abandoning your separate personal blogs to collaborate fully on this blog, I was disappointed. Something that has always made ABM a daily read for me is how connected and encouraged I felt by the personal posts. Vulnerability is such a rare quality in people, let alone one that translates well through the blogosphere. But it’s when you let down your guard and share with us readers that we feel most connected to you gals. I teared up reading this mostly because I can relate, especially to living in the shadow of an older sister’s accomplishments, but also because unflinching honesty is so special. Thank-you, Emma. xoxo
Amazingly timed. Thanks for sharing. I am quite a few years older than you and still looking for my success and happiness. Good to hear it happens even when struggle and doubt are sometimes present.
Thanks for sharing your story! So great to hear personal stories once in a while to realize we’re all on the same ground, and it doesn’t hurt to change. Loved reading this! As a current college student with no real future plans this has really inspired me not to give up or get down on myself.
Emma, thanks for sharing. When we´re young we are not always sure what we want to be. We want something glamourous. Then real life hits us and we find happiness in a grown-up job that you never imagined. Or sometimes it´s the other way around. You just have to bem opne, like you said.
Thank you for sharing this! Your words made me cry and they made me feel better about myself. I love what you said about failure is a label we give ourselves. So true. Congratulations and know that you (and Elsie!) are a big inspiration to me and so many others! Cheers!
Sarah’s photographs are stunning Emma! This is a great post, a bunch of FB friend reposted and i didnt even know they were ABM fans! they were hiding in the woodwork 🙂 Watching you guys is like looking into a tornado, scary and amazing. It feels like I get to be along for the ride with personal posts like these. Y’all are the best babes. <3
Emma, thank you so much for this encouraging post! I have started (and quit) some careers myself and am still quite desperate to find the REAL thing for me. So far I didn´t have the courage to start my own business, but I think it might really be about time… I wish I had more courage! Your honest words about your amazing career has really made my day! Congrats!
You both are truly inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing your story! I love seeing new posts from ABM and I wish you both even more success!
This post reopened tender wounds, thank you for writing such an honest post. I know it’s awfully nerve-wracking to be so open on the internet, but you touched this heart of mine. Thank you!
Hands down my favorite post on ABM! Thanks for being real. So many in our generation can relate to what you wrote. The best takeaway for me was to go with the flow of life and the opportunities that are presenting themselves. Wouldn’t mind seeing more posts like these! Thanks!
Thank you for sharing this. It was exactly what I needed today!
I cannot even begin to tell you how perfect this is for me right now 🙂
I was overwhelmed with emotion upon reading this. I want to say so much. I’m afraid, though, if I try to verbalize my gratitude it may turn into a novel. Thus, I leave you these words from the very depths of my soul: Thank You.
Thank you so much for this post. I just recently graduated from college. Although I’m blessed to have a full time job, I hate it. I have no creative outlet and I’m not doing anything related to my skills. I constantly feel undervalued and underchallenged and I have felt like a huge failure lately not being able to find a job that I love . This was a nice reminder to stay patient and persistent. 🙂
Thank you so much for posting this Emma and getting so personal. I’ve been reading for years but usually don’t comment. This post really hit home. I’m at a big crossroads in my life, trying to figure out what I should do with college, if I should change my major, and what to do afterwards. I’ve never felt more stressed or confused. It was really interesting to hear your career journey and read your advice too. Congrats on your huge success and best of luck with your future endeavors!
Such a powerful post. There are days where I feel like I can conquer the world and there are days where I just want to curl up into a ball and wave that white flag. Thank you for sharing this, you’re an inspiration
Inspiring – Thank you Emma! Great story <3
Thank you so much! This is just what I needed.
Thank you so much Emma for this post. It kind of feels good that you’re not perfect(I’m really sorry to say that…^^)and that what you are today is an addition of good and bad things that happened to you. I’m feeling lost right now and I feel too old to be lost, oh yeah, I’m 30! and still don’t know what to do with my life, I’m in love with way too many things and don’t know what to choose. Thank you for this post, it gives me hope that one day, I’ll find my way.And thank you for this blog, this is my little bit of sunshine and inspiration everyday.It inspires me to do things everyday instead of thinking about the way to do things(oh yeah, I’m a complicated gal!)Anyway, just thank you!
This is an excellent article… #inspired
This is by far the best post on this blog to date. Very honest and a great story. Thank you for this. You’re all doing wonderful work and I strive to be like you all.
This is just what I needed today. I was feeling pretty down about my job and not knowing what I want to do with my life, but now I know that I’m really not the only one who try’s and tests different paths before (hopefully) finding the right one! I love your site and congrats on all you’ve achieved so far. It’s much deserved! Can’t wait to see what ABM has in store for us in 2014!
Chrissy xx
Thanks for sharing your story. A real inspiration!
This was very therapeutic to read! Thank you for writing. I can relate and currently (and for awhile) have been feeling a little lost, and this was very inspiring.
Thank you for sharing your inspiring story. 🙂
Emma, thank you for sharing this. This past August I moved back home, and it has been anything but easy to be back here. It hasn’t been easy in the sense that it doesn’t feel like home anymore and I have yet to find a job. I’ll be turning 25 next week, and that has brought me endless thoughts on where I’ve been and where I’m going. I know that things will happen in their own time, but it’s really easy to get swept up in your own personal pity party when things don’t seem to be going your way. Thanks for sharing your own personal story and letting us know that we are not alone in feeling this. Seriously, thank you. (Loving the haircut!) 🙂
Great post! Thank you for sharing Emma.
Thanks so much for sharing your story so openly and honestly Emma – this was something I really needed to hear at the moment. It’s given me hope – thank you!!
Thanks Emma for sharing your journey – you are lucky and of course worked hard to make your dreams happen.
I’ve been a reader for a long time and have never commented before but today I just had to. I am right in that place where I am still trying to figure it all out and this is just so very timely in my life. Thank you so much for sharing this.
This post reaffirms why I continue to visit your blog 🙂 You and Elsie are always so brave to share little and big (like this one!) tidbits of your personal lives for many of us to read and relate to. The creativity on A Beautiful Mess also inspires me day in and day out. You girls and the rest of the team just rock! <3 Thank you so much for your honesty and enthusiasm for life.
thank you for sharing this. if you were looking for someone who needed to hear it, well that was me. you are all kinds of amazing. x
This is such an inspiring, awesome post! Thank you for sharing the good and the bad in your journey — it definitely makes me feel more relaxed (and even excited!) about the weird twists and turns life can take. I’m sure you’ll have so many more amazing things happen in the future. 🙂
Hello Emma, it is my first time here…comment in your blog 🙂
Thank you for sharing your life, is very inspiring for me because I am starting my blog as a way to reinvent my life!!
Lots of success 🙂
Sofia
Thank you, Emma, for bravely sharing your amazing journey. It’s been really awesome to watch the blog grow over the course of the years and see you sharing more of yourself and personality. ABM has always been one of my favorite spots to go to for inspiration, and it’s important to understand that success like this takes time to develop. It’s hard to see that sometimes. Thanks for sharing your story!
I absolutely positively loved this, thank you.
Just what I needed today! Thank you for an inspiring piece.
It is so hard being honest about your past and your current circumstances. Thanks for doing both. Pride in success can be such an internal struggle, but hard and confusing work has paid off and it offers such an encouragement for me in our current business endeavors and the struggles (financially and relationally) that come along with that.
Thanks Emma
I simply love A Beautiful Mess. I am so thankful you are there! I never comment on blogs, though I read them quite a bit. I am in the exact spot you were right before you decided to move home, except I’ve been in that spot now for almost a year. The decision to change my dreams is coming up again soon and I just feel a little nervous and not so brave. Thank you thank you for writing this! 🙂 It’s definitely given me some hope and some courage.
This post was so helpful for me today, thank you! I’m really working at rebranding my shop (I sell prints and cards on etsy) and there are days I ask myself if all the effort is worth it when I barely make sales in the meantime. I love what I do; but some days I feel like a failure. Or,to put it differently, I sometimes feel like a kid picked last in gym class. I balance being a mother and wife with being an artist and it’s an ever-evolving journey. But, I love what I do so I roll with it! I have decided to keep having faith in what I create and know that I have to be proud of myself for putting myself out there.
Okay…I love everything y’all do so much, but this is EASILY my favorite thing you’ve ever posted. This really spoke to me and I know it can’t have been easy to write. I think everyone feels like this at some point but there is all this pressure to pretend like everything is perfect all the time. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and giving people hope!
Apparently 24 is a tough year for many. These post college career searching years can be tough. I really needed to read this. Great post.
I think this hit home big time. I had just finished having the longest talk about dreams and where life is taking me with one of my friends when I opened the computer and read this. I applaud your bravery , cause sometimes it takes more courage to admit that something isn’t working than pursuing what you (think) want.
Emma, you’re the bomb. For real!
Thank you very much. Just what I need today. 🙂
And yes, I will do my best to pursue my dreams, I promise!
To echo AnaMauna, the authenticity in this post was very beautiful & is always welcomed in the blog-o-sphere!
Thank you Emma! This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Hearing your honesty hit so close to home today. You are an inspiration and this post is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in my life and career.
Thank you! xoxo
Thank you for sharing Emma. I so needed to hear this today. I’m feeling pretty lost and don’t know how to create that life that I’m after. I’m going to take your advice and go with the flow. I’ll get there. I hope!
I love this. So inspiring!!
You are stellar. It’s never easy to admit ‘failures’ and be vulnerable, but you’ve done so beautifully. Thank you for sharing this. You inspire me to keep pushing towards my dreams and keep moving. Recently, I feel super stuck. Everywhere I turn seems to be a bit of a failure and it’s exhausting. But, you give me hope that it’s all part of the plan and it’s all leading to a positive, happy place.
Thank you for that.
xx. Jillian
http://www.roadtohereblog.com
Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing your wisdom. I am currently at a crossroad and this has truly inspired me. Perfect timing.
As a 28 year-old who is currently going through a crazy life and career change, I appreciate the honesty and life lessons that you shared with all of us. Every life lesson is definitely spot on especially #3 and #4.
I think you girls are so inspiring and it’s been wonderful seeing your business take off over the years. I remembering being genuinely happy when you guys started hiring people, and especially when you bought the studio house – as if you were my friends. 🙂 So often a blogger’s life can come off as “perfect”, which makes this post so appreciated. Congrats! You should be very proud!
Great post! I “fail” all the time but I also learn all the time.
Off topic: please tell me where you got that pink lipstick. 🙂
Emma, thank you so much for this post!! I’m 21 now, and I’ve been following you guys since I was in high school. It always seemed like you girls had your stuff so together so its really nice to read something like this…to be honest, I even teared up a bit. I’m graduating from college next year with a BFA in fine arts and right now I have pretty much no idea what I’m doing. It’s a really scary place to be in, so it was perfect timing to read this from someone on the other side. Here’s hoping I actually get to where you are some day! Well, I don’t think I’ll be co-owner of a million dollar business, but, you know 😉
Thank you so much for being so vulnerable! I feel like this is exactly where I’m at in life, feeling like I’m not doing at all what I thought I would and feeling like a failure because of it. I’m definitely in the midst of figuring out my direction, and it’s so encouraging to hear stories of people who went through this and have now found something they love to do and are good at.
so inspiring. it’s always nice to stop and take a deep breath and realize that things are going to be okay. thank you for the reminder! 🙂
this is such a wonderful post Emma – you go girl! very inspiring!
I have been a sporadic reader of A Beautiful Mess starting when Elsie designed scrapbooking products. I enjoy checking in and seeing how the blog has evolved and grown. I am glad to learn more about Emma’s background and contributions.
I work as an academic advisor at a university with undeclared students and students changing their majors. I often find myself explaining that their majors will not necessarily equal their careers. I value reading success stories about how careers evolve and can share the ideas with students. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Emma!
Thank you so much for this. I went to school for 8 years, I have a bachelor’s degree and a doctoral degree. Less than a year into my “career” and I’m having the hardest doubts. I can totally empathize with feeling like a failure and being embarrassed to admit that what I thought I wanted to do at 18 is not in fact anything near what I see and dream for myself or my family for the rest of my life. So again thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
This is really wonderful to read… I am over half way done with my third year of teaching and I have had a rough year… I don’t know if I am to the point of starting over, but I like that your first point was to stop feeling like a failure! <3
Wow Emma, this is one of my favorite posts I’ve ever read on this blog. You are an example of someone passionate and persevering. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us 🙂
Thanks for such an inspiring blog post. I recently started my food and lifestyle blog as a creative outlet and hope to inspire others in this process as well. Looking forward to more posts from you! =)
It is unreal how much I can relate to this. I always thought music was my thing. I pushed it and pushed it on myself until I completely collapsed. I knew it didn’t feel right to continue pushing this dream, but I felt like if I switched dreams it would be because I was weak, didn’t try as hard as others, and was ultimately a failure. Now, I still love music, and I do a lot with it in my free time. But, now I am currently pursuing interior design and am so excited for my future. Letting go of what I thought I should be and actually just truly listening to myself has allowed me to feel the most free I have ever felt. Thanks for posting, Emma!
i needed this!! wow
thank you Emma!!!
and thank you for the blog=awesome!
I definitely needed to hear this today! Thank you for sharing your story. It is very hard to have the courage to walk away from something you thought was your dream. I am in that stage of my journey and it is nice to hear a honest success story. Congrats to you on your success!
Holy smokes. Thank you a million times over for sharing this, and especially today! I admire your honesty and bravery. You have taken some pretty big chances! I often felt “bleh” about my degree in fine art since I lived in northeastern Arkansas and currently reside in MO. I wasn’t sure what to do with it, but it also just felt like the thing to do. I know now that there was really no other path for me. I haven’t hit it big, and I may never do that to most standards. I work in a small town bakery as a decorator, and I just started my etsy shop selling prints. I often struggle with the idea of being “successful”, but I am happy now knowing that I have tons of opportunities and the ability to do a variety of things because of my prior experiences and skills that I learned along the unpredictable way. So while this was definitely not the path I chose, I am enjoying finding out where it is heading!
Emma this is so beautifully put. I appreciate your honesty. You are incredibly inspiring! I’m at a crossroads now and I need to decide whether to pursue my dream (and risk financial hardship) or hold onto a well paying job that is not fulfilling. This may be the push I needed… It’s probably time to take a chance on something great and put myself out there. I fear that if I don’t, I’ll always wonder, “what if?”
Xoxo
Marissa of likeyouimagined.com
This was absolutely lovely! I’m at a major time in my life (graduating from college) and I’m having a lot of trouble thinking about what I’m going to do as my “next step.” This couldn’t have come at a better time! I already had the mindset of a lot of your tips, but just hearing it from someone else makes me feel really good. Thank you!
xxTanya
Thanks for sharing this! It has helped me realize that life has a funny way of working things out.It isn’t a failure to try other options when others don’t work out. This post has helped me be happy with those events.
You are amazing.
Thanks for sharing this. This is the reason why I always go back to this blog. It is the blog I read first thing in the morning. Keep up your amazing work.
You run a lovely business that is full of great ideas and it’s clear your spirit is in it. It takes courage to open up and share struggles but it’s the best way to help people. I’m glad I stumbled onto this post and thank you for writing it.
When looking at websites like yours its so easy to compare. sooo easy. I needed this. And I may come back to read it. I get so frustrated sometimes because I know what I want [a LOT] and I hate it when my blog design doesnt reflect myself or that I’m stuck in my house and haven’t traveled yet. It’s silly how hard I am on myself. I guess we all are. Thank you again for sharing!
I’m glad you shared! This blog is totally yours too, I don’t see you as Elsie’s second shooter at all!
Oh wow! I’m so happy you shared this today, it’s exactly the sort of thing I needed to hear. I get these big ideas for my life and end up telling myself that “I’m kidding myself if I think I will ever be able to do _______”. This is so encouraging and from the bottom of my heart-thank you for sharing it!
Wow, that was beautiful. Thanks 4 your transparency. It is interesting the perspective we have of ourselves versus others perspectives of us. I remember casual references to your acting pursuits and perceived you as brave. It’s not wrong to investigate a dream. The culture often sets us up to fail w such rigid expectations. I was formerly perceived as a success, and now I am thankful for the opportunity and courage to walk away from all that. Now I perceive a success as someone who walks true to who she was brought here on Earth to be. Then u live for an audience of one.
Such a wonderful post! After a divorce, career change, and a recent engagement – the fiance and I ended up moving back in with my parents for the time being. I have definitely gone through that “failure” stage, and still feel it at times. But this post helped me to look up today. I always seem to find the right posts at the right time. Thank you.
Really appreciate you sharing this. I’m having “one of those years” myself and reading this tonight (which oddly found me two different ways…meant to be I think) certainly gives me a little breathing room between me and the fears and doubts. 🙂
I love this post. Thank you for writing it Emma.
this is awesome. it’s so inspiring to hear your stories and trials and successes in life. you are an inspiration!
xxoo,
nikki
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Emma,
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful journey. I am making a giant move at the end of the month and just trusting in this leap of faith we’re taking. Thank you, Elsie, and the wonderful Beautiful Mess Team for all the inspiration, encouragement, and joy you all bring.
Wishing you all the best!
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you ! You put on words what I was going through. It is so uplifting, inspiring, encouraging to read that someone like you went to live the same thing, thank you very much, I REALLY needed this.
A reader from France !
This blog post was exactly what I needed to read tonight after a long day of feeling discouraged. I really look-up to you two for such an amazing blog and you guys are my role-models. Thank you for sharing your creativity and honesty!
Oh my gosh, THANK YOU for sharing this.
I am definitely in the crying-a-lot part of life, the figuring-it-all-out part, and this is an encouraging story that you’re sharing, not an embarrassing one. Thank you, thank you, thank you, for the reminder to keep going.
J in Vancouver
This was a really inspiring post, it resonated a lot with where I am right now as an entrepreneur. I am an engineer turn baker on a bike + jewelry maker who now wants to turn back to an engineer!
I rarely comment on any blog so I kind of fell of my chair reading your answer! Thanks for being so, so, so sweet and thanks for taking time to talk to your readers.
(PS: I don’t think I expressed myself really well before, but just so you know, LOVE your recipes!)
Emma, you are an incredible writer. Thank you for sharing this!
xo
Thank you, as always, for sharing. You are an inspiration.
Thank you so much for this! It’s always so amazing to hear the backstory of people who are doing what they love to do, especially when it was such a learning process to get there. And thank you for the inspiration for my next post!
I really needed this today. I always love the blog but I’d especially love more posts like this one!
I love your blog and am always inspired, but I love it even more now. It is so refreshing to get some realness in a post rather than thinking that people behind these kind of blogs live perfect privileged lives. Whilst no one wants to visit blogs that moan all the time, the same goes for me when content is so perfect and pretty with little depth. Well done and for being courageous and vulnerable. It has paid off by the response you have gotten here.
I also really needed to hear this today. I have been working in the architectural field for 5 years and there is still so much I need to learn. I hope to someday feel like I am not a beginner and that success is not out of reach. Thanks for sharing Emma. Your blog is a huge inspiration to me! I cannot wait for your book to come out!!!
This was lovely and very well written.
Thank you for sharing!
This was nice to hear. I’m in college right now and I have no idea what I want to do and sometimes it can all be very overwhelming. It’s just good to hear from somebody who has come out the other side successful and happy even if it was tough getting there. Thank you 🙂
This post was SO needed and so inspiring at this point in my life. I just made a tough decision career-wise and have been feeling like a “failure” in so many ways, but this made me realize following my heart and taking that risk was the right decision. You two are such role models for following your niche and passions and creating your dream job and I SO appreciate it! Thank you for opening up. I loved this post. xo Sarah
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Thank you so much for sharing this!! I really look up to both of you, and it is incredibly inspiring to see your journey!! I’m graduating college in 3 months, and it feels like my whole world is caving in. Can’t tell you how much this post meant to me 🙂
Thank you so much for this Emma. It’s nice to know even the people we idolise go through the same struggles as us. xoxo
Favorite blog ever. Amazing post. Love it! 🙂
Emma thank you for sharing this. I’m at a weird place in my career right now and it’s so good to remember that not everything on the path to what makes you happy is fun or encouraging. This blog is by far my favorite out of all the blogs I follow, keep up the good work!
Thank you Emma.
So honest and inspiring. Thank you for sharing. Hearing your story makes me feel better about my current path and hopeful for the future.
– Rose
Emma,
I am 24, a recent M.A. graduate, totally broke, and in the process of “putting my dream on hold.” This post a blessing. Thank you.
Emma!
Oh my goodness this post is just so wonderful. I love the honesty and learning more about you too. Your story is so inspiring.
I wish I could give you a huge hug, but an internet one will have to do. Hugs, lady!
xoxo
Dani
I really, REALLY needed to read this today. Thanks so much for sharing your experience as well as being an inspiration!
Thank-you for such an honest post: It hit a heart string. I’ve been going with the ‘safe’ path for quite a while, where my heart belongs in more of a creative field. This post has given me the hope that someday I can have a job in which I love that uses my strengths. Thank-you for giving me hope again! You are truly a special person.
I am with you on this! I am happy to read your story because I have experience the same. Many blessings for you!
Best post ever. Love your honesty, creativity and the way you write from the heart. Thank you for sharing.
I’ve been reading this blog for a few years and I feel so proud of you girls at how much you’ve accomplished. Thank you for this brilliant, inspiring and very real post. It speaks so much to me because right now I am in limbo stage of my life, I feel a whole lot better reading your experiences and the lessons you’ve learned.
I am leaving my job after 22 years so I am looking for a new adventure. Loved what it said. Going after one of my dreams as a photographer.
Emma, I have been inspired by watching A Beautiful Mess grow over the years… it has been amazing to watch, and I am so so happy for all of you! It’s awesome to hear your back story through it all since Ive been following since way before you joined. I was SO happy when it was announced that you were a fulltime partner and I think the blog has blossomed since then. You and Elsie really do compliment each other.
And by the way, as much as I loved your hair before, I really am digging this new do. It looks really good on you!
So much love to you on this amazing journey you are on! Thanks for always inspiring so many others!
xo,
laura
A very brave, incredibly helpful and inspiring post. Sometimes it is easy to forget that the people and personalities we come across and read about in the bloggosphere are real people, with the same life/emotional struggles as the rest of us. This post has resonated with me as I am sure it will with many other readers. Thank you for sharing your road to work/life happiness and please don’t think any of it was at all embarrassing. It’s beautiful, wonderful (and sometimes painful) life journey that puts things in perspective.
Emma, thank you for what you do and for sharing this part of your story! Your reach is far and it matters.
Thank you for this post because I feel so overwhelmed with school right now. I see all the other students just breezeing through and I am not. So, thanks for the encouragement and for sharing such a personal aspect of your life. I am inspired by everything you and your family does.
Thanks for sharing that! I am going to send this to my sister… I think she needs to read it also. Great job.
You’ll never know how much I needed this today. Thank you for sharing your heart.
I really needed hearing a story like this, I’m feeling the same way you did. Thank you for sharing!
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Thank you for being so honest – it makes what you’ve written even more inspiring. Many, many thanks.
I’ve been reading the blog for a long time, and even when i love Elsie so much, i admire YOU even more because you are always so honest no matter what. Thank you so much for sharing this, you have no idea how much i needed this.
I appreciate you sharing your story!
Thanks so much for sharing your story! I feel so inspired by you and I know you helped lots of other people too! Love you!
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This is good stuff. I’ve followed abm for several years and I remember when Elsie mentioned that you were moving back and how excited she was. I’ve never ever thought about you as a failure or even considered you to be floundering. But I appreciate your candidness in this situation. I think your situation is something that most people can relate to. 🙂
I loved this post, Emma. I too am a philosopher, and I too am going through a major flux with my career right now–I don’t want tenure, and I don’t want to teach until I retire. (No regrets about philosophy though–weren’t those classes the best?) I don’t know what my “career” will be/will look like a year from now, but I have no doubt that it will be totally different and dramatically better. Thanks for sharing this–gives me hope! Truly, you are living the examined life.
Dear Emma,
thank you so much for sharing all of this with us, it is so encouraging and positive, I would not call it embarrassing at all. Thank you for the positive energy !
Awesome. Thoughtful. Real. I love this post. Thanks for a great read! I LOVE abeautifulmess for the layers of inspiration –from crafting ideas, decor, style to the insighftulness on life!! {Add to the cliche: sounds for a good movie! }
Wow, this was an incredible and honest post – thank you. I have been exactly where you were (feelings of failure at a past career attempt) and while I am ready for the next thing…I just haven’t figured out quite yet what it will be. I have an 18 month daughter and I want to show her how to be a strong and courageous woman and that means not always getting things perfect and right the first time. Thank you a thousand times over for the reassurance you just gave me!
Emma – this moved me to tears. I have been wading through the darkest period of my life recently and this provided some light at the end of proverbial tunnel. I thought I had it all; my life wasn’t perfect but I was happy, in love, and grateful for a wonderful little existence that more than made up for being the product of a broken, unhappy childhood. And then my boyfriend (a term that doesn’t convey his true significance: life partner/common law spouse/best friend) passed away waiting for a lung transplant. My life as I knew it ceased to exist and I’ve never felt so alone. Everything has changed and I am still struggling to put the pieces back together and regain a sense of purpose and identity. I know I haven’t handled the situation as gracefully as I would have liked to, and the turtle speed at which I have been moving forward in life has left me feeling like an utter failure. I would have never thought that I would become depressed over not overcoming such adversity quickly enough…but that’s exactly what has happened. Family and friends expect you to move on and ‘get over it’…but it isn’t that easy. It’s been dark, lonely, and all shades of awful. I have never battled such intense feelings of self doubt and worthlessness. And it’s made worse because you have an audience watching you struggle. his experience so far has shaken me to my core and filled me with so much uncertainty. Picking yourself up after any perceived failure is HARD WORK and it means so much that you took the time to share with your readers that it has taken blood, sweat and tears to get to where you are today and that all of that hard work has been worth the effort. Best wishes, always xx
Thank you so much for sharing this story, Emma. This post was exactly what I needed to read today and it totally got me teary-eyed! Oh wait, I should probably keep that to myself… 🙂
Thanks I needed this today!
This is an amazing post. Thank you for share this Emma. I think we need to read the post like this. I’m agree with you when you said, “dream don’t have to die.” Even you want to kill it, but don’t let that happen. Just take an action, have a faith and there will become a something. 🙂
Thanks for the advice! I needed the reminder!
Wow, there are some really striking similarities in our stories. Thanks so much for this.
What a great post, Emma! Failures are part of the learning process and the stepping stones of sucess. An unexpected opportunity has recently been presented to me and I have accepted it. However, my anxiety has been running wild because I know I’m about to step out of my comfort zone. Reading your story has just given me clarity and a boost of confidence. Thank you!
Wow Emma, thank you so much for this post! I have been reading ABM for quite a while and I greatly appreciate your honesty and willingness to share with your readers. I feel like I’m getting on track with my creative projects and goals this year, thanks for sharing your story and for the encouragement 🙂
What a great post..! Thank you for sharing. I think learning how to go with the flow of life has been one of my biggest lessons of 2013, and I still don’t feel like I’ve mastered it 100% yet.
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Such a heartfelt post. Thank you, Emma. I am a local Springfieldian and have followed ABM from its sweet beginnings; I have always been inspired by your consistency to grow and flourish…you both suprise me with the talent and drive to create and share bountiful subjects! After having a difficult time this past year, I finally feel like I’m picking myself up off the ground and remembering the spark I had for painting before everything happened. Sometimes we forget where we came from…I think it’s great you are remembering that and it shows your humble heart. Love you girls. Hope to meet you both one day soon!
Sincerely, Lindsay
Rachel, thank you so much for writing this.
Last year I decided to change dreams from being an actress to working in travel & creating my own blog and while I was excited, I still felt embarassed and as if I was a failure for letting my life long dream go.
What you wrote has given me the assurance I needed to help push me through. Thank you 🙂
Elise
Emma, this is wonderful. I have recently started following A Beautiful Mess,and I love the posts. This post was the perfect read as I am about to graduate university.
Thank you Emma
Been following both of your blogs for years, this was my favourite post ever, first time I felt compelled to comment and just what I needed to hear today. You rock Emma!
Love this post, it’s always great seeing how people overcome their struggles.
Loved this post Emma! Super encouraging and totally needed to read this today. Its so easy to compare yourself to others and base how ‘successful’ you are off of how ‘successful’ they are. This past week has been that for me and it has been rough. I just sit and compare my blog to others who have been out there for a year too and then I think, what am I doing!
But then I remind myself that I’m doing exactly what I LOVE and what I’m passionate about. Passion never allows you to see yourself as a failure. Success comes to each person in a different way and at different times. Not every success story looks the same, that is what makes those stories amazing. Like yours… absolutely incredible! Its totally something to be proud of, reflect on, and then encourage others to have the same thing.
Thanks for speaking words of life and encouragement girl!
This was a very inspiring post. I know sometimes I feel like I’m not going to make it, but then I see so much that I have accomplished already. It might not be as a big as yours yet, but I’ll hope to get there soon!
Congrats on all your success and I love reading Beautiful Mess.
I’m definitely in love with the app! 🙂
xx
Oh Lord Emma, thank you for this. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m a 25 year old college graduate (from Springfield! :D) and life hasn’t taken me on the path I thought it would. I’m still somewhat pursuing what I majored in, but it’s NOT the dream I imagined. I find myself more and more unhappy as each week passes. I’m still looking for the strength and courage to find something else to pursue…hopefully this will end up being a little push in that direction. <3
Emma, thank you so very much for sharing this inspirational post. I have always loved your blog and really enjoy reading the posts every day. Thank you so much for being willing to share you life story, I really appreciate the love you have for people you haven’t even met. =)
God bless you!
What a great post, Emma! I am constantly inspired by the two of you, not just because you’re amazing creative businesswomen, but because of your sisterhood and working partnership, too. I, too, am a younger sister (well, actually an older sister too, since I’m in the middle), but have always felt like I was in the shadow of my older sister. Thank you for reminding me of the importance of being yourself and doing what makes you happy. I loved this post and getting to know you better!
p.s. Congrats on all your success–seriously, it’s amazing!!
Loved this post so much Emma! You are one inspiring lady!
Needed than one! Thank you 🙂
You were never a failure in my eyes. You and Elsie both have been a very big inspiration in my life. Great Job to you both!
Thank you Emma for sharing this heartfelt post. I have followed Elsie (and now yours too) blog for many many years and remember when you moved away and how much Elsie missed you. I love all that you have brought to ABM, as you are a huge inspiration to me and my daughter too. By the end of your post I was in tears, not only because I was so proud of you but also because you have inspired me to keep going and keep striving to find where I fit. I am in a time of feeling misplaced and unsure. It’s is inspiring to know that others have traveled a similar journey and there is sunshine and happiness on the other side of unsettledness. Thank you x
Thank you so much for this, Emma. I’ve read ABM since the beginning and it’s so nice to hear your POV. (PS: I’m broke and live in LA. I’ve been here almost 5 years and still haven’t moved back to the Midwest, but it’s definitely tempting.)
boy did i really need this today. thank you, emma!
Totally needed this! I’ve felt defeated for the past few years since turning down my dream job to have my daughter. . . I didn’t make the big move, I didn’t get the big corner office. I instead found a smaller company where I took on new roles and I constantly question my direction. I have recently began blogging and have really tried to dive into photography, crafting and my Etsy shop. It’s nothing like your million dollar baby (I celebrate $100+ a month!! LOL) but it’s really something I enjoy. I just want to find that “happiness” in my career and form a solid direction. . . .Need to remind myself of the things you’ve said today, sometimes it’s a process . . . and sometimes those most embarrassing and confusing moments are stepping stones to your greatest accomplishments! LOVE THIS POST!
Ah thank you Emma!
Ever since graduating college last spring, I’ve been battling myself and much more recently about this almost exact thing. I know what I want to do (or think I know what I do), but haven’t reached it yet and very impatient about it. I’ll definitely be keeping little reminders like these with me so I can remember to slow down!
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Thank you for sharing! I love reading about how close you and Elsie are, it’s really a beautiful thing. I totally feel you on always feeling like your sister’s shadow at times in life…because I felt the same way growing up! That fades as you grow, which you definitely have. Thanks for such a beautiful blog and all of your inspiration!
Always read your blog, its a favorite, and this is my favorite post ever!
Thanks for the reality check and the reassurance of the ebb and flow that is life. Hooray for living the dream!
thank you thank you thank you! I have needed someone to speak this clearly and frankly about following your dreams for so long. I can’t tell you how many times I have felt live a failure for not knowing exactly what I want to be doing or for not having some strengths that other people have that I felt like were “superior”. Your story is so inspiring and makes me feel so much more a peace knowing that things will all work out if I just play to my own strengths and take opportunities as they come. I appreciate you sharing this so much!
My favorite post ever! I cried!!! Thank you Emma, your honesty and transparency is so inspiring. Congratulations to you, Elsie and the rest of ABM team. Xo
Thanks so much for this! I always wanted to be a dancer and even went to LA once and things didn’t quite work out. When I came back to Texas I tried my best to stay in it but I haven’t danced professionally in years just because life got the best of me. For a long time I felt like I had given up on myself but the last time I went to a concert I didn’t leave feeling like I wanted to go back to LA and jump back into auditioning again. I guess it’s just nice to see it from a different perspective rather than being hard on myself and that maybe things have just changed and there are other dreams I want now. Thanks again 🙂
xo erica
Hi Emma (and ABM team!) 🙂
I just wanted to say I love this post so much because it shows how something great can start from something so simple. Thank you! 🙂
And your blog inspires me and my younger to start a blog too! Hopefully soon! 🙂
Keep up the good work! 🙂
Super inspirational. Thank you so much for sharing.
Well said.
Emma, I just love you to pieces. Sending you a great big hug.
You cannot imagine how your words were more than just inspiring to me, Emma. I recently graduated from college and somehow, I feel sort of lost in the whole aspect of “the real world”. Most of my friends have started their careers and here I am still searching for myself. Your post reminded me that I should always feel encouraged and motivated to believe in myself and my dreams. I may be taking longer to get to my own success, but I know I’ll get there eventually. Thank you, Emma.
This post is exactly what I needed to read, after having a very successful career I opted to follow something I felt more passionate about. Which is taking a pretty long minute to take off but I feel more fulfilled. This post just encouraged me so much. Thank you for that!
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Great post! Thank you, Emma. Point number 3 is a good reminder that being flexible to life’s pushes and pulls is as important as being headstrong in your pursuits!
Tiffany
Wow. There are so many comments on this post I doubt you’ll get a chance to see a fraction of them. But I have to thank you Emma for this post. I am a long time reader of the blog and always found you so relatable. This post could not have come at a better time in my life. Last year I finally applied to my dream job and got it. Things have been fantastic. Until I found out last week that the business is closing.
I have felt so helpless and lost. Really feeling like I won’t find that fulfillment again. I am still feeling it. But it soothes me to know that I’m not alone.
Sorry for the sappiness. But a million thanks.
You and Elsie have done some amazing things. Congratulations to BOTH of you. I think you compliment each other.
Thanks for sharing this story, Emma. As a little sister myself, I totally feel the need to step out of my siblings’ shadows. I appreciate how humble and honest you are. This post reminds me that everything usually turns out for the best.
This post was very brave of you. I went through a similar situation in my mid twenties when I actually went to law school, quit, moved back in with my parents and worked for my dad in a job I hated before finding my true calling as a librarian. I felt like such a loser at the time, but it gave me clarity, empathy, wisdom and a true sense of self that I don’t think I would have today. Being in your twenties is HARD.
Dear Emma,
From a girl going through one of those “rough patches” in life, thank you. Reading this post at almost midnight in complete darkness and feeling a bit sorry for myself really inspired me. I’ve had a tough struggle lately and it often feels like it will never get better or that I just can’t be “normal” in the sense that I wake up and do what I need to do. Instead, I feel quite depressed and like a failure. But after reading this, I don’t feel so alone and your words really inspired me to actually try to be happy and to do the things that I love.
I’m so happy that you were able to overcome that rough patch in your life and I’m so glad you can view your own strengths now rather than feeling somewhat like you’re living in someone else’s shadow. I know that feeling a bit too well, but trust me, you couldn’t ever live in someone else’s shadow. Thank you again for this post and for opening up to your many, many readers.
My best wishes,
Brianna Rachele
Thanks for sharing this. As a co-founder of a tech-startup, the good days are good, but the bad days can be emotionally draining. I was less than a year away from getting my doctorate when I embarked on our startup, and although this life is less structured than academia, I have never felt so secure.
Great article, thanks for sharing. Have to say I really like your table in one of the photos (white frame with a chipboard top) is this something you have made yourself?
Emma, this is so beautiful! I can relate to a lot of what you said. I majored in music and basically failed at attempting to be an opera singer. 🙂 I moved to New York City and worked in the fashion industry but moved back to KC to marry husband. I’m a stay at home mom with 2 kids, and while that isn’t a failure, it wasn’t exactly where I saw myself. I jumped into blogging this last year and have been working my butt off at my strengths…and trying to go with the flow of where life is taking me. I really feel like I’m now doing what I was meant to do, and all of those other things grew me into the person I need to be for this moment.
This was so lovely to hear. Thank you for sharing something personal and sometimes vulnerable. It’s very inspiring to see where you two have gotten with wonderful gifts and lots of hard work. Congrats!
Thank you for this. Today I felt like a complete failure, having broken my personal record for time between having and interview and being rejected for the job (a whopping four hours! go me!). But reading this really helped – I might be too poor to pay the rent right now, but things will get better. My Etsy shop is just a fledgling right now, but this really inspired me to keep going with it. The real world won’t give me a job, it’s time to make my own.
hi emma…im Dyan from Malaysia…hows ur story really inspiring sumting for me…tq so muc emma…im alwys the big fans of ur blog n everyday I shud read ur story…keep it up emma…send my regards to elsie…im the big fan of u two…av a gud day everyday…
This was a really lovely post. I’m so in awe of you two, and you absolutely have earned some serious bragging rights! 🙂
Also, for what it’s worth, I started reading the blog probably about 2 years ago and always assumed you were the older sister – you just had that air about you to me (coming from an older sister myself!) 😉
Emma,
I am quite new to the blog. The first time I came upon it, I went through so many different posts. I spent hours reading you guys, while my 2 lil boys spent time with daddy. Ehehehe. It was “me” time. This to say that this post is by far my favorite. You both are such talented and creative women who inspire so many others. And I’m sure I can speak for everyone when I say that we are grateful for everything that you guys share.
That moment in your life was definitely not a faliure and I just hope that myself and others going through a similar situation, having so many dreams and not really knowing which way to go, can come upon this post, read these inspiring words and see that we need to embrace every moment in life as it may lead us to some true happiness.
Once again, thank you.
Wishing you all the best XOXO
Thanks so much for this, it really resonated with me. I, too, am at a crossroads in my life, having just moved back from Los Angeles after three years there myself. I felt it was necessary for me to come home, but quitting my glamorous job in LA and having to work in a restaurant while I figure out my plan in my hometown can definitely feel like a failure. Your words, however, are extremely encouraging, as someone who stood in my shoes once, and can successfully “live” to talk about it. Its been a rough year, but I’ll keep in mind what you’ve said here, and I know it will get better. Thank you for the reminder!!
A very open and honest story – very refreshing to hear. Also a nice reminder “to keep on trying” when things don’t just happen over night.
Thank you
Hayley
Love this post and love this blog! Don’t worry acting will ALWAYS be there, no matter what they say. I’ve been doing it my whole life and it’s okay to take breaks and come back. When you do, it’ll be on your terms.
This was such a courageous post. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, Emma!
It’s easy to lose your sense for reality when you read blogs on a regular basis. Everything seems shiny and perfect and I really love that you girls are so honest, because life isn’t always perfect but it’s all about taking chances and making the best of your situation.
Thank you, your story helps me feeling less sad today! Best wishes, N.
It’s not embarrassing, it’s beautiful and inspiring. I just graduated from college and I’m working on my first ‘real job’ right now. I don’t really like it and it doesn’t seem like the right fit, but for now it’s fine. I know there will be better times. We just should never ever stop dreaming…
Simply love this. You two ladies are brilliant and inspiring!
xoxo
Roxana
Thank you for your honesty! This will be so inspiring for many of your readers – including me! Congratulations Emma, you are such a lucky and happy girl, you absolutely deserve it!
Wow! What a fanfastic post! It’s so inspiring hearing your story. Thanks for being brave and sharing it. 🙂
Inspired! Thank you for sharing your story.
🙂 Liz @ http://www.rusticpeach.com
what a fantastic, inspiring post. I’ve always felt that changing dreams is seen as being indecisive, when really, you only have one life and you have to try things and move on if they don’t work out. I feel like I’m still figuring it out at at 30! Thank you for your honesty and advice. This is a brilliant post on a brilliant blog.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Emma! I totally agree that success looks different for everyone and I think it must feel best when it’s happens as it should…not saying that it doesn’t always take hard work…but when the chips of life, education and experience fall into place the way they’re “meant to be” instead of being forced, I think it’s even more satisfying. I have a similar story, not quite at the million dollar mark yet, but I can relate in a small way so thanks again for sharing 🙂
Thank you so much for this Emma. This post really hit home with me and I appreciate you sharing your story. It’s been wonderful to see the evolution of ABM and I can’t wait to see what’s to come.
xo Allison
I’ve been reading this blog since just after Elsie got engaged. I’ve loved following its (and your) growth.
This is one of my favourite posts. It has inspired me intensely.
I’ve actually read 3 articles in the passed 2 days that seem to be pushing in the same direction. Not sure if I believe in ‘signs from the universe’.
I guess the ‘signs’ only mean something if you want them to mean something. If you believe that the universe wants to push you in a certain direction. And I think I do.
So I guess, what I’m trying to say is, thanks for feeling anxious about putting your ‘failure’ on display and doing it anyway. This is good.
All teh way in South africa your story has given me strength. I am at a Y-junction of my life and after reading your story i feel that i am no longer the failure that i called myself.
Thank you so much for your story, i can not stop telling you how it has changed my perspective.
http://www.sikidesign.blogspot.com
Thank you Emma for this post. Felt like you were telling about my life. Hopefully I will turn it around like you at some point! 🙂 Have a lovely day.
I recently began working full time as a freelance graphic designer. And I must admit I thought it would feel better and that it would feel like I was living my dream. At the moment I’m not enjoying it is as I wish I would, and it’s a real pain to doubt the choices I’ve made to start this dream.
I woke this morning with a particular feeling of ‘shit, I’ll never succeed’, and I stayed in bed and read this blogpost. And THANK YOU! It was a great inspiration to read about your dreams, failures and how you and your sister build this amazing business of yours. It’s truly inspiring!
I’ll work hard today to enjoy my projects as they are, and accept that right now it’s a job, and I’ll spend the weekend dreaming and visioning how to relocate my passion and to embed whatever I discover into my professional life.
Thanks again! And keep up the amazing work!
P.S. I’m a reader all they way from Denmark, so you’ve done a pretty great job with that blog! Congrats!
Thank you for this, Emma! In this moment, your story has really helped me 🙂
Wow. Wow wow wow. This so resonates with me right now. I’m starting to consider letting go of my acting “career” so that I can create a more stable life for myself and my son, and I’m trying to think of it as setting myself free rather than accepting defeat. Staying open to all of the possibilities that life puts in front of us really is the key to happiness, I think. Thank you for sharing your story!
Thank you thank you thank you. This was beautiful and so inspiring:) xoxo Katie
We are finding a “sweet surrender” in laying down our expectations for our life, & seeing how we can use our talents & strengths to help other people….and what is so beautiful is that we are finding so much joy & fulfillment in this season. Thank you for sharing your experience in such a candid & thoughtful way!
Living out Loud, Carly Diggs
Someone shared this on my FB feed today (I was chuffed to think they’re an ABM fan too!) and it couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you so much for sharing your story, it’s inspiring and honest and awesome just like you! 🙂
Beatiful story. Thank you.
Thank you, Emma! For being so honest. You struck a cord with this beautiful piece of writing.
I think I will frame this entire blogpost and hang it above my desk!
I’m getting started as an illustrator and I’m experiencing that it is very hard to get yourself out there; the world is so big, how will I be noticed?
But reading articles like these just make me want to work harder to get there; because (in my opinion very successful) people like you have been there too.
I think it’s so brave of you to share this, Emma! You’re awesome. Don’t ever feel like ‘the little sister’; you are your own version of fabulousness just as you are 🙂
Thanks Emma – we are about to make a big leap of faith with our business & it gives me sleepless nights! But I love what we do & what we stand for. Your words reaffirm why we keep going & try to be brave! Thanks for your blog post & congratulations for where you are now.
Indigo 🙂
You post moved me deeply and so many thoughts crossed my mind while reading it. I guess most of them have been said throughout these numerous comments : )
So I will just say congratulations for finding your happiness even if it did not look at a first glance like what success should look like in our society. When you find happiness success just flows from there.
Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring story!
How eerie (in a good way!) – was walking off to work an hour ago pondering on the (lack of!) direction my life is taking and feeling a little sorry for myself over the failures I’ve made. Now I’m reading this. How encouraging, thank you. We need to look at failures as the stepping stones to success and not let them define us. After all, how can we ever value success if we’ve never experienced failure? I’m very encouraged by this – thanks for sharing your great story and well done for keeping at it and for getting where you are today – it’s very much deserved!
You story is really very inspiring, especially as I sit here in my dead end job wishing there was more to life. But I guess nothing happens unless you take a chance and make it happen.
Hi Emma!
Thank you for sharing this with us! I’m an ABM reader (and fan) since a long time and I love that you are always sincere with us readers.
I went through something similar a year ago and i can really relate to this post.
Your life seems so dreamy and wonderful that we can easily forget that there is a lot of work and hard moments also for you!
Keep it goin, you rock girls!!
Hugs from Paris : )
You don’t know how much I needed this. It may seem embarrassing to you to put it out there, but a lot of people (including me) respect you for that. I’m currently going to college (in Egypt) and studying something that I could do well in although it’s not my ‘dream’, but a month ago an opportunity practically threw itself at me, a full scholarship to a university in New York – and instead of ignoring it, I’m working on my application now.
If I persevere in this, although I haven’t got my parents’ 100% approval, it’ll be thanks to you. 🙂
Thank you for this post, it’s very inspiring. I’m in a situation where I know what I want to do I’m just not sure how to make it happen. This has helped a lot!
Mia
x
Thank you so much for the inspiration! Recently graduating from university and living abroad, I have no idea what the next step is for me and I haven’t really worried about it. Now I feel more aware that the little steps I take now will become part of my journey. Everything is part of my journey and it is never ending- thanks!
Thank you for very encouraging post!
Merci Emma. Tes mots sont très beaux et très forts !
Thank you. Strangely, sometimes things will find you, when you need them most. I did this morning. And will keep your words close to my heart for now.
Hi Emma!
I really love the way you express yourself and your feelings. You share all your fears, expectations, disappointments and blessings so sincerely that we all could find a piece of ourselves in those posts. I believe that we all have the power to change things negative from positive in our paths. Besides excepting your failures and weakness is a SUCCESS by itself. Important thing is to make positive decisions to fix them.
I’ll always remember you as a girl of success 🙂
xoxoxo
Merve
Wow! This made me all teary-eyed, and so moved <3 Thank you for sharing this with us, Emma! I'm also a little sister, so I can really relate to being the "second shooter" 🙂 I really admire you, and the rest of the ABM team, for all the hard work and the resulting inspiration that is flowing out from this blog ! I'm so looking forward to following you on this journey in the years to come 🙂
xo
Camilla
http://kapteinmoe.blogspot.no/
Your words inspire me. You are a lovely soul! I started my dream 3 years ago, when i opened The Mood Bookstore Cafè, a small bookshop with a cafeteria. Things are not so easy.I lived in a small city in the south of Italy. Often i have nothing in my pocket, no money in my wallet. But i feel like i’m the richest girl in the world because This is my home, this is my heart, this is my life. Keep on dreaming girls 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing this. It is so positive and encouraging to hear how you got to where you are. I am soon to be 28 and due to have my first baby in June which I am massively excited about; I have always wanted a child and even though we don’t have a lot of money I know it will be amazing. My career is not going so well because I had loads of time off at the beginning of my pregnancy due to sickness and mental health issues. This means that I missed a lot and even though my colleagues are outwardly supportive I sense some resentment from them because I wasn’t there during a difficult time. The environment is so negative an things are a bit of a mess but I’m hopin it will improve soon, if not before then after I return from maternity leave. I am scared of balancing motherhood and my job and I’m not even sure if my job is right for me. However I have recently started a blog (https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=6676678689344513838#editor/target=post;postID=3384963989100698503;onPublishedMenu=allposts;onClosedMenu=allposts;postNum=0;src=postname my latest post if you are interested) and I am making more time for my hobbies which include crafting and baking. Reading your post makes me feel like if I carry on with the things that I enjoy then I will work it out. So thanks x
<3youre so inspiring<3
Thank you for sharing this, Emma! I felt similar when I split with my ex and moved home after living out of home all through uni. Turned out to be the best decision for me as well. I can’t say it lead to a dream job like it has for you, but it made me closer to my family and I met an amazing guy from it 🙂
Glad to hear things are working out for you guys. I love coming along and reading your blog each day, and congratulations to you and Elsie for building this into a million dollar business! 🙂
Thank you for this, Emma! This is exactly what I needed. I hope I can be courageous as you are. Will definitely follow where my heart takes me. <3
This post made me tear up. I’m in a pretty messy spot of life right now, and knowing that tons of people are thinking “she has no idea what she’s doing” has got me pretty down. Moving back into my parents’ home was hard (although i’m so glad to be with family again), but thank you for the reminder that things change, and can definitely change for the better! You’re absolutely right, it’s not so much about the money and more about you living your dreams. I hope I can say that some day 🙂
Hi Emma,
Thank you! I ‘ve been reading this blog for a long time & I find this post one of the most inspiring ones! The last months I feel very confused and lost. I work at the same job for 10 years as a graphic designer & I feel like I’m drowning. I’ m not sure what changes to make or which direction I should follow, but your post was so encouraging! I’ ll try to relax, open up and try new things no matter what!
Brilliant and inspiring!! Thanks for sharing this!! 🙂
The first point about seeing apportunites..Even ones you didnt always no you wanted has struck a cord. I think you may just have had a BIG impact on my current situation…Im at a cross roads with a few things, but seeing them as opportnities even if they were the ones I planned has changed my : S to a : )
Thank you. I love a beautiful mess!
Oh Emma!! This was just the most perfect and inspirational post!! Really. Your words were just so great to here 🙂
Hi Emma, I am one of the very loyal followers of abeautifulmess from India. And I know exactly how you have evolved in these last 3 years at least. I started following your blog in 2010 and have been hooked on ever since. Infact being an only child I do really miss having a sister like yours to start my venture with. I think sometimes having the right partner to your dream can make the dream a reality sooner and with much more meaning.. I myself am 30 & in a position today where I am starting from scratch to find what I would love to do the rest of my life so this post definitely came at the right time..much love..
Hi Emma,
I’ve been reading this blog for a while and this isn’t a post which I’d expected to read here. It’s really refreshing to read an honest post about the problems you’ve faced, especially as you’re someone who always seems so together, for want of a better word.
Thank you for inspiring me!
Dear Emma,
I’ve been a (silent !) reader of A beautiful Mess for several years now ; Thanks a lot fort this heartfelt and honest post, this is deeply inspiring ! 🙂
Congratulations on everything you’ve accomplished and built !
This is such a wonderful and inspiring post, thank you for sharing it! I’m so happy that you’ve managed to start living your dream, I hope one day I’ll be able to live mine 🙂
Dear Emma,
Thank you for posting these intimate and personal feelings. That’s so inspiring because most of us won’t talk about all these thoughts (little sister-, being a failure-stuff…) It’s so obvious that you are giving confidence to everyone here to be able to achieve a personal objective. I’m from Austria and following your blog everyday since over a year, besides all the creative stuff (which I truely love and awakes my creative side again), I do appreciate all of your personal comments and highlights in live (your wedding!!). It was strange to read that you have been afraid of remaining “just” the little sister of someone else. When I started the blog, I’ve always seen you as the major head creating everything. Then I realized that there is no major head, but two!
Thank you for this inspirational and committed work. All the best, Christina
Thank you for sharing your story – a good reminder that just because things aren’t going where we though they should, doesn’t mean they’re going wrong 🙂
All so so true. very inspiring. I swing between being ok with my past choices and then annoyed. But you’re so right that success is a state of mind! well done you! xx
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I’ve been following this blog and your story for quite a while and I am so happy for everything you achieved :)!
Gosh, you know how very occasionally you stumble across something you didn’t even realise you needed? That just happened to me as I read this. Incredibly relevant to my life right now and as I approach a huge cross roads, your words have given me a much needed kick up the back side to be brave and just go for it!
Thank you x
Gemma
Thak you for this!! This letters encouraged me a lot.
Best wishes from Barcelona.
Maria!
Love the way you tell this
So encouraging and very inspiring. Thanks for sharing your story, Emma.
I read this blog avidly, and this post came at a perfect time–I’m finishing a two year English teaching job abroad this year, and although I planned to go on to study art in Italy, I can’t make it there this year. Was feeling absolutely devastated about having to move back to the states, but I’m going to go with the flow and hope a better opportunity arrives. Thanks so much for sharing your story!
Thank you. Such an inspiration. Love your blog! You’re both amazing as a team 🙂
Your four comments are so true. Thanks for sharing!
Oh my gosh, what a wonderful and inspiring story. Sometimes it takes a long time to see the opportunity right there in front of you because you’re not ready for it.I am so inspired by you girls and the way you have created a thriving business by being true to yourselves and your readers. Thanks for sharing such personal posts as these, they make us realize that success must be earned.
Thanks so much for writing this post Emma, I almost creid at the end because I think inside I sometimes still feel like a failure. I moved to London to persue a career in Fashion after Uni and it didn’t happen, I was poor and I moved onto other things. I’m not exactly where I want to be right now but I started my blog to encourage some creativity back into my life!
My dreams have changed a lot since back then and I am happier now, who knows what might happen in the future! I loved reading you’re story. I feel happy and inspired after reading it.
Thank you for being so open and encouraging!
Nikki x
I loved reading your post. In the end, you are “acting”,maybe just differently than you have ever imagined – in front of the oven for the food posts (which always look amazingly delicious), behind the camera or in front of it for the outfit posts.
I’ve always wanted to travel and being a child i wanted to be a diplomat(didn’t really knew what that means but I know they travel the world) or a flight attendant. And guess what? I’m almost working in IT world and the job and my passion for travel flu me over 3 continents already 🙂
All the best from a far away constant reader! 😉
This is a good thing, sharing this story.
I have always been impressed by you, in my eyes you are such a strong woman and a role model. It takes a lot to talk about personal i secureness but it makes you even stronger – even if people don’t see this in first place. Thank you, Emma!
Emma this was beautiful.I have been in the same place too and am truly stoked and inspired by your honesty and thoughtfulness and courage in sharing your story with the world.You and Elsie are my fav bloggers and i have followed your blog so closely because it teaches me-when i grow up i wanna be like yal:) thank you for following the changed dream and showing young women everywhere,they really can be the pioneer of their own dreams xoxo sim
Thank you for sharing this! it is very inspiring to read, xxx
It’s very sweet and brave of you to share your story. I follow Elsie’s story, and your, since the scrapbooking days, and it is so great to hear about the strugles and the success. Very inspiring!
Thank you for sharing this. Lately I’ve been feeling a bit defeated, but I honor myself and my dreams enough to know not to settle or give up. I appreciate this post so, so much.
Last year was a huge mess for me (not a beautiful one, I have to say :). My professional life went down, my personal life was shattered to the core by very mean betrayal of someone I loved and wanted to spend my life with.
But just some minutes before reading your so very inspiring post I was watching out of the window at my mother’s house (yeah, let’s just speak about feeling as a failure returning back home after 10 years of independent life) and felt in complete peace. Everything is going to be al-right, it was a hard lesson but I gonna thrive, not just merely survive it.
It was so inspiring to find this post just after that, thank you for sharing.
Darling Emma, your words hit home with me tremendously. It’s so hard to break free from the pressure of “figuring it out” and just let life happen. When you listen to yourself, your gut instincts and your true desires, it’s kind of beautiful how life just, stone by stone, lays a beautiful path for you to follow. I have watched you and Elsie bloom over the last few years and it feels like you have friends + sisters across the world who believe in you and all that you want to do. I can’t wait to see more from you and feel so privileged to be along for the ride.
Figuring it out is over-rated. Embracing the bad, good, hard, easy and painful is required to find where we really belong. All the time you spent trying things before finally starting to live your dream was the fight you had to have to earn the beautiful life you live now… and you wear this life beautifully.
Thank you for sharing. Not always easy to put all our thoughts on paper for others to read. I think you did the journey you were supposed to. Hind sight is 20/20 :). Now you are where you are supposed to be and appreciate it all that much more. I am still on my journey hoping to find my niche, it’s there just have to find a way to let it out.
I put this at the bottom of my email, author is unknown but I thought you would enjoy this.
Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words; Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviour; Keep you behaviour positive because your behaviour becomes your habits; Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values; Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.
Until last year I was convinced that the only thing that I want to do in life is to be professor, to guide the lab and discover something amazing that will change the mankind. In the meanwhile I got to realize that I want so many other things too, to try my creative side, to enjoy my friends, to have family and simply to have time to smell the roses. These wishes were not possible in the same time. So I have decided to give up my primary dream and find a job with which I will be able to combine my wishes. But I guess I should not call myself a failed professor, or a failed ballerina, karate girl or pharmacist. Dreams and our wishes change all the time, and only when I got to grad school I realized what being a professor really meant.
Thank you for sharing your story Emma, its really brave to this honest. And reading it really meant alot to me. I`m sort of in the failure-feeling-year right now. I have always wanted to be a tv-photographer, and persued that dream for ten years, and I made it. But after a some years of working as a photographer I got problems with my back, and I had to quit this year. So now I have started on a new education as a sosial-worker/therapist. And even though I sort of feel like totally failing my dream, I`m also really proud of my self because I took the chance and started over. It`s sort of a weird combination of feeling failure and feeling like a brave person that won`t be stopped 😉 hehe!
You are an inspiration, and I love to read your blog 🙂
This was really incredible, Emma. Thank you for the inspiration!
What a great post! Thank you so much for sharing this with us, Emma! 🙂
I really needed that, I even got a little teary-eyed towards the end :’). I’ve been feeling so lost and confused in every aspect of my life, wondering how the heck any of my “dreams” are going to come about, and even wondering if I have any dreams that are worthwhile to pursue. It’s SO good to hear that things as successful as this blog/business happen as a natural process. I don’t have to stress about making it all happen NOW, I can just focus on doing what little I can with what I have at the moment.
Thank you for posting this, really.
Best,
Hannah
This was great. Thank you for posting it.
I can’t help but wonder how much all of those other experiences helped you to become so successful now. They must have taught you much being so different.
This post couldn’t have been anymore timely, it’s like I wished for it to happen! Thanks so much for sharing, very inspiring and encouraging to hear about someone’s successes and dreams taking its natural course through life with a dose of risk taken for good measure.
X
This is so lovely. Thank you.
Wow Emma!
Your true professionalism within the blog as a whole is inspiring, and I think you are away ahead of times by creating a magazine online, essentially. Being at art school in Scotland, Uk, I regularly browse your blog, and others in the State which are very exciting, and weirdly something that hasn’t really happened in the UK. I hope to graduate (Textiles), and move over to work in the States. As much as I love what I’m studying, I think one of the greatest misconceptions is that if you’re in your earlier twenties, you’re having the time of your life, constantly – oh you’re not? Somethings wrong with you! This is something I get continuously, and it’s truly brilliant to confirm my angst at this situation. Yes I’m happy! But this obsession with young people today about ‘YOLO’ and partying, and that university is the be-all-and-end-all is very exhausting for those who aren’t quite there. After reading this, I’m even more sure that in years to come, my happiness and self-security will be like yours, and I can’t wait for all this to come (along with hard hard work!).
Thank you Emma. I really hope we will meet one day! Inspiring ladies you and Elsie are.
Rosie, xo.
oh emma, this is so truly inspiring! just something that i needed to read today! (; lots of love from brasil!
This post was very inspiring, thank you for sharing your own personal story!
Charlotte x
http://charolivia.blogspot.com
I’m so glad you posted this. Just what I’ve needed to hear/read. Congrats to you on finding your way!
This was so helpful for me today. I’m an 18 year old soon-to-college kid, and you’ve inspired me so much. I’ve been a fan of this blog for so long, and was a fan of your blog Emma:) thank you for sharing some of your wisdom! I really appreciate it!
This post is so important and I’m so happy to read it. Life is not easy and for every person there is a different story. Mine is hard and for that reason I see life different. I work hard and I try to believe. I love but also cry a lot. I’m trying all the time to be happy and not be sad for my mother’s death and other losses… I’m trying to achieve my dream, my dreams because I don’t have only one. But it’s difficult, sometime too much. Anyway, I’m still here, working hard, sharing myself to the world with my blog, loving a lot and trying to be the person I want to be, live my life as I want to. I hope someday I’ll say too I have the job of my dreams and that I’m happy.
Thank you a lot.
Have a beautiful weekend.
Juli
Thanks for sharing this Emma! As a blogger that got in the game later than the blog boom sometimes it can be easy to compare to huge blogs like ABM. I appreciate you being real and letting us in on your failures and struggles. It’s so encouraging and refreshing.
Also, I really like how you talked about dreams changing. For me, I thought our blog was going to be the center of our business and what everything else revolved around. Now, somehow I’m a DIY-er hosting a DIY TV show for ABC and as great and life changing as it is and sounds, it’s still hard for me sometimes to think that East Coast Creative isn’t what’s at the center of it all. I think somedays I still put a lot of effort into the blog (just out of stubbornness) and really I should see where this journey has taken me, and pour more into my new TV adventures.
Congrats on all of your success- you guys make an awesome team and are such an inspiration to me (and bloggers and creative types everywhere I’m sure!)
Mon
And sorry this apparently became more of me processing this than a comment! lol
Thank you so much for your sincere and honest story Emma. I can really relate to it: I’ve noticed this kind of existential crisis in my own live but I also recognize it in lives of many of my friends. It seems like everyone is searching, failing, experimenting and trying to sort things out in their mid twenties. I just graduated in philosophy and this post-academic phase seem like a large forest in which I can’t find my way, but your story truly inspires to keep your eyes open and have an open mind! The path will come, thanks for reminding!
Oh wow. I cannot thank you enough for this post. I feel like I’m Volume 2 of this story. I’m currently in my last semester of college, a biology major (because I was pre-med) and I finally admitted to myself and my family that I am completely unhappy and really only chose Pre-Med because I thought it would make my parents proud of me. So now I’m finishing a major I really am not passionate about, making beauty and fashion blogs and videos on the weekends and trying to figure out what my step will be after graduation.
My husband is very supportive of me and bought me my first real camera for Christmas. Ever since that time, I’ve been loving photography…capturing nature in it’s own, pictures of my family and friends. It’s something I’ve never been interested in until now (unless you count the Polaroid camera I had as a kid). I don’t think I want to make a career of photography, but I have no clue. I graduate in two and a half months and people keep saying, “What do you want to do when you graduate?”
For the longest time my answer was, “I want to go to medical school.” But now my answer is, “I have absolutely no idea, and I love it.” I’m relishing the fact that I have NO clue what is next for me. I am letting life present me with something because I really don’t even know where to begin. This post was so perfect and inspiring and it left me thinking that it’s okay that I have no clue, it’s okay that my major in college is probably a dead end for me…so thank you. Please never stop doing what you’re doing. Every day when I read a new post from ABM, I am inspired. You and Elsie are doing such a wonderful job and every bit of it is appreciated.
Thank you!
Merci ! c’est encourageant pour nos rêves !
Je suis fan de votre blog !
merci, merci !! 🙂
Thank you for this. 🙂
I am 22 and genuinely pretty happy with myself and my life. I’ve finally realized that bad times are just that– a bad time, not a bad life. It took me a while to realize this. and to realize that there is no “figuring it all out”. which i think is better anyway, because when you stop trying to figure things out, you can just live in the current moment exactly as you are.
this is such a great post. i’m thinking about this very often and i just want to be happy in my life. maybe if I would do my dream job, I would have private problems. the right balance is so important.
To hear you say ‘I’m happy’, those are powerful words. And to truly mean it, even more powerful. Even though your dream of acting turned into another dream, you can always say you went for it and tried, a lot of people don’t even the courage to make those first steps. Thanks for the encouragement and for sharing your story. And I absolutely love your hair! The color and length is perfect on you.
This was such an inspiring post, thank you for being so open and honest 🙂
Sophie
http://what-sophie-said.blogspot.co.uk/
xxx
Thank you so much for sharing. I really needed this. After I graduated from high school, I moved away to become a journalist. When that didn’t work out, I felt like I failed not only myself, but also the people around me. It took me years to understand that I didn’t fail, I just hit a bump in the road. Its good to hear that you’re doing good these days 🙂
Thanks so much for this! I needed a pep talk myself today.
I also wanted to share a link of J.K. Rowling’s Harvard commencement speech called “The Fringe Benefits of Failure and the Importance of Imagination” which is akin to your thoughts:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHGqp8lz36c
Loved reading this. <3
Thank you for being brave enough to be vulnerable and share your beautifully inspiring story. As a chick who is about to turn 22 life seems so scary and unknown (and exciting!). Your insights touch my heart and bring me hope and joy
Thank you Emma!!!! You made me tear up with this post. I’m definitely a details person- better at figuring things out, organizing, managing. Sometimes, I can feel bad for myself because I’m not the creative one or the eccentric one. You encouraged me with this post to embrace my strengths which I really needed to hear.
I’ve been reading ABM for a while now and I just want you to know that you, Elsie, and the team inspire me so much! Thank you for letting us share in your dream!!
Oh my… this is soooo inspiring, thank’s for sharing 🙂
I’m from Brazil and just love ABM and love the work that you girls do. I wish much, much success for you and your lovely sister!
Até mais 🙂
Thanks for that. I’m in the middle of a huuuuuuuuuge pity party.
xx,
E.
http://www.theslowpace.com
This is wonderful.
Failure is just a mindset, its all about the journey.
(needed this today!)
Hi Emma! I am a French reader who decided to pursue her dream and move to London. Life hasn’t been really easy, but I have been here (in London) for almost 4 years now and I am trying to pursue my career in art. It’s quite hard and very often discouraging but it’s good to be reminded that I just need to keep trying and success will eventually come. So thank you so much for that! I hope I will attend my dream job soon… and if not, well, I just hope to be happy 😉
PS: I’m starting a new job in art next week, wish me good luck!
xxx
Emma, thank you so much for sharing a little piece of yourself. You have comforted and inspired me beyond words. Now, to find my dream.
I love all your DIY and photography posts, but it’s posts like this where you share a little of yourself that moves me and also keeps me coming back everyday to this lovely blog. Thank you for being so generous to your readers about your experiences. Very much inspired from Tokyo. x
Thank you for sharing this!
I love you Emma!!! Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring story. As a young reader of your beautiful blog, it is unbelievable to know from how far you came. Fulfillment can be just around the corner… It’s amazing what you can do and accomplish when you have the courage to try something new, isn’t it? Thanks and keep blogging, please. <3
Gah! I needed this so desperately (as is evident by the tears streaming down my face!). I have tried multiple times to reinvent myself, or shall I say, find my right place in life. Sometimes I feel like time moves a little too swiftly, as I just this week celebrated my 40th birthday. However, I have faith that hard work, persistence, and not giving up on your long-term goals (even when you have to pull yourself up by your boot straps and set them aside temporarily) can really pay off. Where did you get your day-to-day strength from? I’m feeling a little low these days and I could use some inspiration! Thank you Emma for your dose of reality, yet proof that big things are TOTALLY possible.
There are so many comments and I know you don’t really need another one, but I really felt the desire to come on here and say thank you for this post. I don’t comment much (even though I adore this blog and tell everyone about it) but this post really hit me at a time I needed it. Thanks for opening yourself up and sharing your story. I have gone through quite a bit of trama in my life and I’m afraid I have been living in survival mode for most of it. I’m grateful for that realization, but it has left me feeling a bit of fear on how to move forward and whether or not I can succeed in living a full life. This blog has been so inspiring for me. As a 36 year old woman trying to start to really live and make plans for changes in my life, this gave me hope. It helped me see that I may not see the good in my experiences sometimes, but how if I look back I can see the strength I have gained through them and that I really can trust myself and my own talents and abilities a bit more. It helps give me hope in the future.
Thank you so much for that.
From broke, a not-so-recent college graduate, who left also left the entertainment industry to live with her parents in the middle of the country.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve given my self the “girl who moved back a failure” label. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Thank you for the reminder that this is a process. Thank you.
Wow…thanks for putting all of that out there!!! Your words were so moving that it was like hearing you say all that over coffee : )
This post couldn’t have better timing for me. Thanks so much for the inspiration and motivation!
This brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for sharing your inspiring story Emma- don’t be embarrassed, it is great to be able to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move forward.
Very inspiring and encouraging post, Emma! Thanks for your honesty. Like many of the commenters have noted, I needed to hear this right now! Wishing you continued success!
you’re the best, emma. thanks for sharing! so inspiring to see your journey! xoxox
This is by far my favorite post on ABM to date! It is such an encouraging read for an overwhelmed college student! Thanks for being so open and honest 🙂
Such an amazing, inspiring and relatable post. As I get closer to my 30’s I feel the pressure of not having a career or a define path for that matter. I’ve learned to go with the flow and I am still trying to figure things out and that’s okay. Thanks for sharing.
wow, emma. thanks! this was very inspiring… i legitimately started to tear up at the end there. so, again, thanks. -xo
beautiful post. beautiful story. thanks for being so open and honest.
What Lauren said! Just what I needed to read. Sorting out the messiness and figuring it out is definitely a process and not always fun. Thanks for sharing this – it really does help and inspire.
I love this, it’s amazing. Thank you Emma!
Emma thank you for sharing this.
I am currently in the midst of a very similar scenario and it was so reassuring to come home from a hard day, full of what felt like failures and read this.
You made me feel much less alone and much more positive about my outlook. You inspire me everyday with this blog and it is really awesome to know more about your personal journey.
Best,
Britt Ernst
Love when you write these kinds of posts. You all are so inspirational. And I cannot believe that you are a million dollar company! That figure made my jaw drop. Congrats!!
I am moved to tears by your text. I have just turned 26 and am struggling to make it through university. Most of the time I feel like a failure, a loser actually and you really hit a nerve with your description. My problems might seem small compared to others, but having no confidence and belief in yourself is very damaging.
Despite all my worries and doubts I last year made the most nerve-wracking and yet exciting decision: This summer I am having a baby boy with the love of my life! Being a mother is the one thing I have always known I would be good at, so after many years we finally dared to begin writing this new chapter.
I am not really sure what I want to say with this… But I really admire what you have achieved and most of all your perspective on things. That really moved me. I wish you all the best.
You just motivated me in a difficult time. I am currently on what feels like the 50th attempt at being what ‘I want to be when I grow up’. And I am 31 with 2 kids. I’m a year away from getting my degree for diagnostic cardiac sonography- after attempting graphic design fresh out of high school and ending up managing a thrift store for 11 years. I feel like I wasted time. I beat myself up for going in circles around my goal to get into the field I wanted to be in for a decade. But I need to realize that my path has brought me here at the right time. I just took the scenic route!
This is so apt for me at the moment that I found myself welling up as I was reading it. Moving back in with my parents in 3 weeks and helping my mom set up a shop is making me feel like I’m losing my independence, but I’m trusting that it’s the right decision, or at least a stepping stone onto the next big adventure. Your blog has really shown me that it is harder decision to move back home and change your dreams than to stick at one that isn’t working. Thank you for this post and the self love that came with it 🙂
From across the pond x
Such a beautiful post! I’ve enjoyed following you ladies for so long, and while I’m always inspired by all of your creative ventures and ideas, I’m even more inspired when I hear the story behind them. You two are a force to be reckoned with! Thank you so much for sharing your heart. Very encouraging to read this morning!
Emma. Thank you. I need this right now more than you’ll ever know. Just moved back from Florida after a failed relationship and… the last few months have been harder than I’ll ever let anyone know. But – I’m trying!!! Workin on my blog (just posted a 30 before 30 post, so maybe accomplishing those things can help!!!) and throwin myself into roller derby help a lot! Thanks again for reminding me that we can evolve just as our dreams can.
seriously loved reading this post. it was just what I needed to read at this point in my life and major career shifts I’m about to make in upcoming months. thank-you for being so candid and sharing your story!! xo
I definitely needed to read something like this today. I’m miserable in my job and not quite sure what direction to take and if I did I’m not sure I’d be brave enough to make the leap. I will definitely be keeping my eyes open for new opportunities and be a lot braver. What’s the worst thing that could happen? Thank you! X
Thank you Emma for putting in words something that is sometime hard to believe; believing in ourselves! This is a great article! Thanks for reminding me that over all I’M NOT A FAILLURE 🙂 !!
Kelyna xx
This is exactly what needed to hear right now! I’m 23 and at a job that I’ve worked my way up to for the last 6 years. Although it financially supports me, I’m stuck in it, and don’t want to be doing it forever. I know moving away is ultimately what I need to do to bring a change for what I really want. But I’m too afraid to fathom going through with it. It’s like you’ve given me a push in the right direction, thank you.
Thank you for sharing this!It’s really inspiring to learn about other people stories.It makes you see your life with a different perspective.
Beautiful confession. It is absolutely not embarassing, it’s just honest, I love it. It’s sooo inspiring. Wish you luck Emma, keep doing things as good as you do now! 🙂
Oh my goodness, this was just what I needed! I’ve been scouring the web for the right advice and then your lovely post just appeared in front of me! I’m feeling pretty conflicted right now, and well, have been feeling weird and confused all year. Especially in contrast with the great expectations and confidence I had last year (before actually going to college!) But, I’m taking your word for it and going with the flow here. Thanks! xx
I identify with this SO MUCH. THANK YOU!!!
thank you so much for sharing. this happens to be right where i am in my life and it’s just what i needed to read. i don’t know where to go from here but i know that i’m not happy about where i am now. you’ve inspired me — i’m going to keep my head up and be open to any opportunities that may come. and good choice on not going to law school 😉
Thank you so much for writing this, Emma. I’ve been trying to figure out for years now, how to turn my passion into a full-time job. I still haven’t figured it out yet but it’s posts like these that encourage and inspire me to keep trucking along. Thanks for your honesty and for sharing your lessons with us 🙂
Wow, a million dollar year?! Big congratulations on that. Your blog is always an inspiration and you have undoubtedly earned every success that comes your way. My husband and I are celebrating 5 years of our business, and although things grow each year, we’re still struggling so hard financially. We’re in a totally different business than yours (remodels and custom cabinetry and furniture), and it just seems so difficult to make any money after insurance and employee costs are taken into consideration (at least in California!). We have a long list of really happy clients who I’m sure would be shocked at how little money we’re making. I’m going to keep the lessons you described in mind, and see how I can better shape/evolve our business. It is my goal this year to really make strides towards figuring this out. Aside from financial, I feel as if our business is successful in so many ways, and we do our best to remember to celebrate these successes. I’m just hoping that the financial success will follow so I can at least stop waking up in the middle of the night, worrying about how to pay the bills 🙂 As you said, success is a process… Anyhow, thanks for the continued inspiration. As a small business owner, I certainly value all of your honesty and congratulate you on your successes so far. You have put together an amazing team, and I know there is much more to come…!
thanks so much for this. it helped more than you will know!
This is so beautiful and inspiring, thanks for sharing your failures and successes, it really helps to give us all a new perspective on where we are in our own lives.
Thank you so much Emma!!
I have been reading ABM for years … congrats on all your sucess and thank you very much for sharing this.
I feel very inspired and encouraged
Thanks again
(p.s. a million dollars!!!!!!)
thank you for posting, I just sat down to write something similar last week. i think we’re around the same age and i moved to nyc after graduation. i’ve been here 6 years and my dream was to be a dancer. that didn’t pan out and i’ve bounced from one job to another every year because i can’t quite find something that blends both my interests and skill set. i think i’ve finally found what that is (opening a restaurant!!) and am on that path toward (hopefully) changing my dream into a reality. thanks for your honesty and the reminder that i am not alone.
Thank you for sharing! You should be very proud of yourself! Without experiencing failures you may not of become successful in your business. Hopefully I can find that and get the happiness we all strive for! Best of luck and love the blog!
THANK you for sharing this. Really, sometimes it seems we work so hard and never reap the rewards of that hard work. I’ve had to change my dreams a lot due to my chronic health issues.. and the dream I am pursuing now looks nothing like what I wanted for my life. But here I am. And it’s beautiful and it’s so hard. Thank you for sharing your success story. for reminding us that good things take time. I’m so SO happy for how well you two are doing. It makes me want to call up my little sister and see what WE could do if we put our minds together!
It was realy nice to read youre blog,I am 50 y.and have dreams,but that was agood point to give dreams the possibility to change them,still looking what I am going to do with the rest of my life.I have been brave and work hard and have reached always my goals,to be optimistic and positiv,helps me.
Thank you you are very insiering and wish you to go on
Claudia
Annalisa,your comment is pretty much what I was going to say too! I’ve been reading a Beautiful Mess for a few years. I think I started reading in 2010. I’m 23 and often feel lost too. I’m trying to chase a few dreams, but barely getting started. Oh and I want to move to LA, but I live in the LA suburbs. Emma, thank you so much for sharing!
thank you so much for this… definite favorite post so far. brought tears to my eyes as i was reading, as it speaks so poignantly to my place in life right now. i feel on the cusp of some kind of creative explosion in my life, but i have been feeling a “failure” in the depths of my heart for a while now. i am excited but was in need of some creative encouragement this morning. thank you!
I have been following Elsie, and in turn you for what seems like a decade and I felt compelled to comment on this post and say BRAVO. I have loved rooting you both on all of these years, and love what both Emma and Elsie individually have to offer. The dynamic is what has catapulted ABM! Keep on inspiring, ladies!
hi kate! I don’t know you but… doing what you need to for your family is the least embarrassing thing I can think of. You’re pretty awesome in my book and I wish you lots of luck!
Beautiful and inspiring post. Thanks for sharing this, Emma. This is the second time today that I’ve been shown that we really need to go for what we want the most!
I’m happy where I am, but I will step back, re-evaluate things and make sure I’m doing what I really want to.
Awesome. I just want to thank you for this post. It’s great inspiration and insightful to hear/read stories like this. I truly appreciate your sharing this part of yourself and, as some others have stated, this has been my favorite post thus far. Thank you again for sharing your story.
Judging from the hundreds of comments below this wonderful post (and it’s not even a giveaway!) I’d say you touched the hearts of so many of your readers, Emma. These are such vital things, dreams and hopes and whatnot, and I’ve learned (as you and Elsie certainly have, too) that you experience these with that sometimes tricky balance of wanting more/different, while still maintaining a love for things in your life, while still dreaming and reaching for even more awesomeness. You nailed it. Thank you for you. You are a gift. Enjoy the beautiful life you created for yourself:)
p.s. I have to share that right after I wrote my comment to you here I checked my email and this came in. How damn cool that life shows itself in these ways. You might appreciate this: http://www.storypeople.com/storypeople/WebStory.do?action=product&storyID=1500&productCategoryID=1000
Emma, you are so wise for being so young! I am (almost) 38 and I feel like I still haven’t found that ONE THING to fulfill me career-wise. My dreams seem unattainable sometimes in the midst of the thrill and chaos of motherhood and marriage but learning to go with life’s flow is always the best choice. Thanks for the reminder. 🙂
xo
Cortnie
As always, you’re so inspiring! Thank you so much, Emma!
I was needing this a lot.
I feel the same right now.
🙂
Emma,
This is so incredibly inspiring and came at just the perfect time. I am turning 24 in a couple of months and sometimes it is hard seeing people around you appearing to “have it all together” starting careers and getting married. This post was perfect for me to read because I don’t want to “settle” into a career because it’s easy, so it’s nice to hear that it’s okay not to have it all together at this point.
Emma, you don’t know how much I needed this words.
I need to change my perspectives in life. I’m so upset with the course my life is taking (professionally speaking)!
Well, you have oppened my eyes. Thank you.
Carol.
Excellent Post Emma!
And I have been admiring your skills on this Blog from the first day I started following back in 2012. Your post will inspire thousands to understanding the flow and ebb of life, and how it really can all work out beautifully if you have a dream and determination.
I feel you are going to grow even bigger – (I am the one who writes from time to time, that you and Elsie are the “Martha Stewarts of a NEW generation”) – and I mean it…see it all, the APP, the Books, the Blog, I can see a tv show coming.
Wishing you much, much more success, coupled with the “grounded-ness” and humility that you have now.
Thank you! This is just what I needed.
I’m continually inspired by you guys. Especially this post, Emma. I’m in school right now trying to become a filmmaker. I can only imagine what you’ve endured taking such big risks. This makes me so happy it shows we can have many dreams and we can accomplish dreams we never expected.
I love your business and hope that one day I can have a creative business too. I love watching it grow. You’ve all inspired me to stay focused on my creativity and push through to accomplish my dreams too.
Maybe one day we can make a movie together! 🙂
Thank you for writing this Emma.
I really needed to hear these things lately. <3
I was just having this conversation with my fiance last night: feeling like a mess, a failure, not getting “there” fast enough. He reminded me that there is no “there” all set up waiting for me, no success finish line. Your lessons to success are so honest and inspiring. It’s very much appreciated, Emma!
I’m reading ABM for a long time and commented maybe twice) But this sincere story inspired me, thank you, Emma! It resonated with me and I feel like I know you a lot better now. You and Elsie inspire me everyday! Btw this new hair cut is so pretty! 🙂
But I must confess!))) I never ever tryed your recipes( They always look so perfect that I’m scared to mess up(( sorry!
kisses from Ukraine
I just discovered your blog and love how full of inspiration it is. I especially love this post because of the personal touch and how it can appeal to each and every one of us. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for posting this. The timing couldn’t have been better for me to read this. Gave me comfort in moving on and taking the next step.
This really hit home right now. I needed to read it. Thank you!
Emma!! This is beautiful, one of my favorite posts ever. I relate to is very much. I have been pursuing acting in Los Angeles for two years. I am a full time extra (yayyy), so I know what that’s like. I recently made the decision to move back to Wisconsin (midwest is best!) to go to art school. I had the same fears of being labeled “a failed actress”. But, I’m to the point where I am ready to change dreams and feel so blessed to have a wonderful place to go back too! I am excited for the possibilities. Thank you soo much for sharing, it did my heart so much good. x
Not to repeat everyone else, this post was very inspiring to read. Thank you.
Emma,
Thanks so much for sharing this post. I myself feel in a bit of a funk right now. I graduate college in two months, and have absolutely no idea what I’m going to do with my life. When I’m felling down, and looking at other successful people, its easy to think that they’ve never been in the position that I am.
Thanks for the motivation!
Thank you so much for this post! I’ve been reading your blog for some time now and have always loved all the recipes and DIYs. Reading your personal story and struggles has been very inspiring at a time when I needed it.
I don’t know the average age of your readers, but my guess is I’m one of the older ones at 50ish–but it’s never too late to reinvent yourself! Sometimes we have to tweak it daily! I’ve been a NICU nurse for years and love it, but I’m trying my hand at reaching older women and moms of older children–but it’s a lot harder than I realized, especially since my generation didn’t cut our teeth, so to speak, on technology. Thanks for this “shot in the arm”! I needed it today on a crazy Friday filled with so many sick babies that all need healing love. Sincerely, Mary Wilding
By the way, I forgot to tell you how much I love your app. It’s easy use is an answer to my in-tech savvy prayers!
Mary
Great, inspiring post! Thanks for sharing your personal experience.
Hi Emma,
Thank you SO much for sharing this…you have no idea how much I needed to read something like this. I am currently enrolled as a Marketing major in college…and absolutely hate my life because of it. I just recently made the decision to transfer universities in order to pursue human services and sociology. It was a totally terrifying decision for me since I thought it made me a failure. Among other things, this piece is really helping me embrace the change of heart I’ve had and look to the future for the success that is (hopefully!!) awaiting me. Thank you for being brave enough to share this piece. 🙂
Hey Emma,
Thanks for your honesty. I really loved reading that post.
I am a little sister, too, and I also just moved in again with my mum, my sister and her husband again. I really feel that exact way now that you must have felt some time ago. My sister is just the opposite of me, and she is also so creative and has already accomplished so many things that I can only dream of. But I also know that she is seven years ahead of me, and we will see where I’ll be when I am at her age.
I am about to graduate at teacher training college, and I have decided that I am certainly NOT going to be a teacher later on. That’s funny, because my sister is a teacher and she is quite happy with that.
Anyways, i think that your advice is quite the way I have so far been successful with, and I have no doubt I am going to make it later on. I have even been offered a manager’s position in a company, even though do not have the experience or the training that would be required.
I guess what counts most is a positive and optimistic approach to life, and always knowing that we (as little sisters) are also the ones to make our own experiences and build up our own personalities, although being permanently influenced by our big sisters 😉
I love how you describe exactly that in your story. How you had to get away from everything and be on your own, just to get the strength and individuality you always searched for, which maybe could be considered as the base for your succes in cooperating with your sister so well.
And, this has to be said too: you so much deserve being proud of yourself and what you have achieved!
Yours,
Eva
You got 849 post comments and counting because we could relate with you. Not only was the piece really lovely to read, it was because for a few minutes you were like us.
I love you blog and have been reading it for years…..since you were on blogspot! I love the smiles and outfits, the renovations and creations……but it sure is refreshing to read that for a few moments in your life you had the same worries as all of us. I am not saying you are robots, but when you look at pretty things or successful accomplishments you forget that real people are attached. Thank you for your writing Emma. It was very inspiring.
this is amazing! i mean i’m in my 20’s, i know what i like but still no idea in my entire head of what i wanna do for living (and enjoy it)…
people are wonderful creatures, they are capable of doing almost everything! you believed in yourself and how wonderful it is to see how far you’ve come) keep going!
I’ve been a reader for years and love this space you’ve created. But this post…this is one of my favorite posts you’ve every written. Vulnerability and openness are so valuable to readers…that’s for sharing your story with us. 🙂
So inspiring, thank you so much xx
Yay!
Emma,
I’m in that state of life… where ” not sure what should be my next step in life” Thank you for sharing your story. Ive been following ABM for approx.3 yrs and you and Elsie are so inspiring. You became even more inspiring when I met your girls in NYC at the Sucre concert last year. So down to earth and very sweet. Life is about learning with everything you do. Even if its learning not to do the same mistake again or gaining knowledge for your next step in life. And your story Emma is the perfect example. You live and Learn! thank you for the encouraging story, keep up the great work. I have one request: Please have a book signing in NYC ( I love the photography book and I’m looking forward for your 2nd book :-))
Take care and best of luck,
Andrea
This was lovely and so hopeful! Things do change and it’s hard to plan your course exactly.
In 2012 I graduated from high school and last year went to college to study English/Journalism. Two months into the first semester my boyfriend and I decided that we wanted to get married. And soon. So in October 2012 we got engaged. June 2013 we got married. I dropped out of college. And in October 2013 we found out that we’re pregnant and our baby is due June 2014. It wasn’t our plan from the beginning to have a baby in our first year of marriage but we’ve been learning to embrace all of these changes and embrace the new paths that are being made in front of us. It’s a fun, although slightly stressful, adventure. My dream was always to be a mama, I just didn’t think it would happen so soon! On top of my coming baby, I have lots of decisions to make about my job (I currently work at a bakery) and my blog and a few other things. I’m learning to take each turn in stride and to just take chances.
Thank you for this lovely and inspiring post. <3
Such an inspiring post, and it comes at a great time… I am not sure about other bloggers in the blogoshere, but I am feeling worn down, uninspired and questioning my blog’s direction. Thanks for convincing me to keep going!
Thanks for sharing with us, readers, your experience. You deserve all the success you have, because you and Elsie are great, I really appreciate that you’re not the typical bloggers who wear expensive designer clothes, you don’t have giveaways with luxury brands asking us to follow you and the brands everywhere on social networks. Sometimes I really enjoy reading the blog, sometimes I think “Oh my… they can do anything” because you both are very creative. Sometimes I look at the food you cook and I think “I’m able to do this”, sometimes I think “Mhmm I couldn’t digest this!” (garlic is not for me!) and sometimes I wonder why I don’t have a friend who cooks so well.
Thanks again!
Thanks for writing this post Emma. You are very brave and it is inspiring 🙂
so right about everything, try to think alike!
i am sure that all of this is a result of hard work, and determination!
all the best
Irene
http://www.thedailylace.com
Your moment of sharing this couldn’t be more perfect. Today I missed out on study-abroad scholarship I’ve been working for for years simply because of a communication mistake of the jury-committee. Your story makes me feel better, simply because even though you followed your dreams at first, it didn’t work out the way you planned, and from this feeling of failure came new ambition and an amazing success-story. It gives me hope, thank you!
Just: Thank you. Very inspiring writing, and just when I needed it! Gives me hope that my stupid decisions will turn out to be just right one day (soon, I hope).
xoxo Katy
How bad (slash great) is it to change into another pair of sweatpants?
Very inspiring, encouraging and questionning to myself (i am not very sure of my english – so sorry…). Thank you so much for the sincerity and honesty of your post
Thank you for this, inspiring. Loved it.
Thanks Emma! I’m starting a blog with my sister too so I can definitely relate.
Thank you for posting this and exposing yourself in this way. I didn’t even realize how much I needed to read this until I was crying at the end of your blog post. When I was 18 I wanted to go to art school or at least study something creative. My mother forbid me to do such a thing, just because she didn’t think it was a real job. I ended up graduating building engineering, but I have never worked in that profession and I do not plan to. I hated it, it didn’t make me happy at all. I am 30 now and a mother of two. I have been at home with the children for 5 years on and off, full time for the last 3 years and I feel I have lost myself, lost my goals, lost my dreams, lost my energy. I stopped drawing and painting when I realized I wasn’t going to art school, it was too painful and I felt ashamed that I didn’t stand up for myself. I can’t say that I regret any of my choices, because they took me to where I am today. I have a wonderful husband and two fantastic children but as a person, as ME, I really need to figure out a few things. This life is not what I was planning for myself, nor is it the life that everybody around me expected. But maybe that is not such a bad thing… I need to get the courage to pursue my dreams. I have all these big ideas, me and my husband even started a business to be able to realize them but I am struggling with my rusty art skills. I get so frustrated with that and with myself, I feel worthless a lot of the time. Your blog post was really inspiring. I feel I might be able to pull it off after all. One step at a time. Thank you Emma (sorry for the bad English, it’s not my first language).
I have no words…
To be honest I started to cry in the middle of reading this article.
I am 21 now… just beginning my life, as my grandma says…
I have no idea what to do. In the last 3 years I quit two courses at university because… they were not right… and tried several little help jobs.
And I am getting out of excuses to not think about what I want.
Thank you for your kind words. Thank you for reminding me that life is beautiful and everything willbe good once I let it to be.
Lots of Love!
Emma,
I love the blog and check it everyday. I’ve never commented though…until today. Your post today was wonderful. I really appreciated your openness, your honesty and your candidness. As a daily blogger myself, I know that writing posts about recipes, cute projects or parties is the easy stuff. These posts – your post – that’s the hard stuff. The real stuff. I hope after seeing the response today, you’ll be motivated to do more because while recipes are great, the real stuff is what people connect with. I know I did.
Thanks for the great read and congrats on all of your successes! You should really feel proud of all you two have done. It’s incredible.
Sarah
Wow. Much like the other commenters, I needed to hear this stuff! Next week I am moving to a brand new city to start a business, and this has helped me feel so much more motivated and so much less rigid. Funny thing is, I’m the older sibling and my younger brother is part of the project- I think I need to show this to him too! Thank you for such an eloquent and effective pep-talk.
Thank you SO much for sharing this. It really is extremely encouraging.
Juli Williams
Love this so much….dreams can change….
Powerful. These kinds of posts show up after the hurdles got managed. Which is always, always very inspiring. Thank you Emma, mucho!
EMMA! This is the BEST blog post I have read on any blog in weeks…and I’ve read some really good blog posts. Seriously tears coupled with a huge knowing smile. I can totally relate to this and I think I am going to print it so that when my daughter is “just starting out” she can read that it is ok to not know where you are going as long as you never stop dreaming and being flexible enough to explore every avenue available to you. Sometimes dreams find us. hugs and thanks for sharing.
This is a great post! It was something that needed to be knocked into my head. I have wanted to be successful food blogger and food photographer for years. I’m still waiting tables and feeling like a “failure”. Thank you for encouraging to stop putting myself down and embrace opportunities.
This was a great post, thank you Emma. xo
Emma,
Thank you for taking the time to share your story. This college junior who has no clue what she wants to do with her life really needed to hear it.
Wishing you all the best in your life,
– Natasha
I adore this post. It is always nice to hear about the trials people go through and how everything we endure is a learning experience. I also went to college just because it was something “you should do” and majored in vocal performance because I loved music. I didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do at the time, but just dove right in. When I look back now, I see that it wasn’t the wisest of decisions; however, my experience greatly shaped the person I am today. I may be pursuing an entirely different dream, but the creativity and expression I felt in college didn’t disappear – it is simply channeled into a more focused path.
Thank you for this <3 for making me feel like i'm not alone, or crazy in deciding to follow my heart instead of what others feel i should do. anyways, thank you!
So interesting to read! It made me realize I was assuming that the two of you have perfect lives, basically, since we only see the highlights. (Personally, I have a tough time just keeping my apartment clean and my kitchen stocked, let alone making new decorations and recipes, but you both inspire me to keep trying!)
Also, I think it’s great when people admit their vulnerability in this day and age, when everyone is competing to make their life look perfect on social media, and get a leg up in this crazy job market. Reading things like this allows people to relate and feel okay if their own life isn’t 100% figured out 😉
Best of luck with everything! This blog always brightens my day.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m struggling with finding my place in the world – I’m less and less satisfied with what I do, and am looking at starting the next chapter in my life. Your story is one of those encouraging sign posts.
I have been following Elsie’s blog(s) for over 7 years. This is one of my favorite posts ever! This is so honest! I also graduated, started on a career path, and then changed directions. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂
AWW THIS IS SUCH AN INSPIRING STORY
LOVE IT
Congratulations, I had no idea about all this. I think most of us readers, and possibly fellow bloggers, assume most popular bloggers are just wealthy, born with closets full of clothes, perfect homes and Pinterest type meals. This was a very “real” post, down to earth and showing how it’s not always “la vie en rose”.
xoxo,
Emma
http://petitemaisonoffashion.blogspot.com/
Thanks for opening up Emma! I am so happy for you and ELsie on your success. I remember reading about you and your food blog in Artful Blogging Magazine. I think that was how I discovered ABM!
You are both very inspiring and I look forward to watching your success continue to grow! All my best, Stacey
Just what I needed. Thanks!
That was so encouraging! Thank you for sharing, it definitely makes me feel better about “where I’m at” currently. In fact! I took a screen shot of your “1.” tip. So I thank you, you both are so inspiring!
xo
Amazing how you always seems to stumble upon the words that you need to hear at the exact right moment. This post was exactly what I needed to read right now – Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this amazing and inspiring post! Everyone should read this.
Thank you for this post. I needed to read this.
Such a beautiful post. It took me quite a few heartaches, headaches and dream changes before I finally grew into my own as well. Your story resonates a lot with me! Thanks to both you and Elsie for this wonderful space. <3
This is so heartwarming, inspiring and amazing. It takes a lot to share something like this, to bare all, just to hope to help someone else. You’re amazing x
Just what I need to hear in the current struggle to achieve my dream. Thank you for being open, and honest. It truly helps!
Inspiring story. I completely agree with embracing life and allowing opportunities to move you in directions you never imagined. You and Elsie make a wonderful team and I’ve been a fan of both of yours for a long time!
Emma,
Thank you for this! You and Elise are so transparent and encouraging. It’s a true blessing to follow you wonderful blog. I wish you double the success you are already experiencing and triple the joy!
From my heart,
Buki
What a great post and, honestly, something I really needed to hear. I too have struggled with various career paths and I could totally echo most of your discoveries, which I’ve learned to embrace over the past year 🙂
Cheers (and congrats) to you!
-Barb
P.S. I always enjoy reading your blog – so creative!
Thank you for the post! I’ve been thinking of making some career changes lately and battling with thoughts of failure 🙂 I appreciate the honesty!
Thanks for the tips, kinda realize few of the opportunities I miss now cause of my lack of interest, but I hope I know what I want to do like you someday! xx
Emma,
Thank you for sharing your story. I am currently going through a transitional period of leaving my job of 10 years, going on a trip to visit family and regrouping myself. This has been a big scary step for me but reading your story gives me faith that I will too figure out my dream just like you did. Thanks girl!
-Liz
Just got caught up on the blog..what an encouragement this was. Thank you, Emma! I’m 20 and in college. I was so sure of myself last year. I did an internship in Kenya thinking it would make me 100% sure of going into teaching but it did the opposite! The wheels turned but I switched to General A.A and took different classes for a time of seeing what I like and dislike. I’m still figuring it out but your post encouraged me to stay strong, be patient, and realize you can’t be so hard on yourself!
Emma, you should not be embarrassed by anything that you shared here in any capacity. Your post was uplifting, inspiring and motivating. I am sure that I am not the only one who was touched by your words and connected to your story. Thank you for sharing.
Wow! What an inspiring story! I’ve been feeling on the “not so sure about this” side for a while… This is exactly what I needed to read… Thank you for your amazing story and daily inspiration! & Congratulations on all of your amazing success!
Thank you so much for this post, I feel a bit lost at the moment and don’t know what the next step in my life is so it was a bit soothing to read.
I’m a Philosophy major, too! I was originally going to get my Master’s in Library Science, but I’ve realized that that’s no longer my ideal job. I’m working full-time at Half Price Books now, and it’s the closest I’ve come so far to a dream job.
Magnificent read. Thank you for this. It gave me a glimmer of hope and encouragement.
What a lovely and inspiring post! I’m so happy that you failed as an actress (hehe) because you and Elsie have a fabulous blog and have actually inspired my sister Katie and I to start our own blog.. something we’ve been thinking about for years. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Emma,
I can’t tell you how much I needed to hear this right now! I’ve been following you and Elsie long before you collaborated your blogs (and actually didn’t realize you were sisters until you did). I just wanted to say thank you, that you are both such inspiring examples for me, and reading your encouraging post on working towards your dream was very helpful in a change I am currently going through myself.
Best wishes,
Kass
I don’t usually comment but I wanted to say you’re awesome for writing this. It’s hard being open and honest and I really enjoy your candid posts. It inspires me to want to write like you! xx
I absolutely love this post. Thank you Emma <3
I’ve been a reader for a couple of years now and it’s been so wonderful to see you and the blog grow. I’ve been feeling a bit in limbo with what I want to do and you’ve made me realise I should follow my heart and dreams!! Thank you for inspiring me 🙂
Lulu xx
http://luluslittlewonderland.blogspot.com
You are amazing. I’ve been an admirer for a long time. Thanks for sharing this. It’s good to get a glimpse ‘behind the scenes” xxx
This kind of honesty is beautiful. Thank you.
Thanks so much Emma… I sort of stumbled on this today and I think I was meant to!! Amongst other things, it also made me realise I may have missed out on doing something with my sister because I felt the same way you did. I guess it’s never too late but I wish that I had looked at it differently back then! Thanks for being so honest and an inspiration! x
Thank you so much for sharing your moving and inspiring story ! It’s really helpful. Your sincerity is very touching. I’m glad you’ve found the life you wanted.
This is just what i needed..thank you!
Thank you for that! you are right in so many ways!
I love the honesty of this. My favorite is point 4: Sucess is a prcoess…
Thank you for sharing your journey and congratulations on all your success!
Thank you for this amazing perspective. The definition of success is constantly evolving when you run your own business, and that’s a lesson I learn on a (practically) daily basis. Your words are a gentle reminder to go with the flow and push forward, regardless of the hardships. THANK YOU!
Such an amazing, inspiring, and much needed post. Talk about well-timed. I’ve been throwing myself mini mental pity parties for a little while. Thank you…for the boost, for the reminder to be brave, and you know – everything. I hope I get to meet you guys next time you’re in Nashville. My sister and I have hugs and smiles ready and waiting :0)
So inspiring!
Love reading these types of posts from you girls and really inspired by your honesty,I’m currently trying to start a small business with some friends and this lost has been so inspiring! Thanks! Méabh xox
http://www.peachparade.com
Thankyou Emma for sharing this! It came at exactly the right time I needed to hear it! You’ve made an inspiring difference Thankyou, Thankyou, Thankyou <3
Oh my goodness, the world needs to hear this story. Thank you SO much for opening up and being vulnerable. Being an actor in NYC (and blogger), I have found myself in some very similar situations- it really helps to hear others’ stories! Your bravery to tell this one will inspire and encourage so many others, so thank you! And congrats on your successes, well earned right??
Just HAD to say- the photography in this post is PERFECT – if this is thanks to the skill of your new photographer- then I’m really excited about this new change (I’m very visual).
I’m not much of a commenter, but really want to thank you for sharing such a wonderful, personal story with your readers. It’s much appreciated! 🙂
Love this! Thanks for sharing. And kudos to you!!! Hugs 🙂
Thanks for sharing, Emma. Your post was really inspirational for me.
I begin every Saturday morning with coffee and catching up on your blog and I have never needed it more than today. My life in the past two weeks has taken an unexpected free fall that feels like I am losing everything around me. Reading this post today has been the inspiration and comforting words I so desperately needed to remind me I can do this and make something beautiful from it. Thank you so much for sharing.
Just wanted to say thanks for posting this. I really needed the reminder to go where life takes me. 🙂
Emma,
This is my first time commenting on any of the posts on A Beautiful Mess. Thank you SO much for writing this beautiful text. It kinda really hits the spot and comes at a really “crucial” time in my life: thinking about where my career is going, often feeling like I “failed”, wanting something more but just not knowing where to start exactly.
Your post is encouraging and inspiring. To infinity… and beyond!
This was a beautiful post, very inspiring. I’ve never quite known what to do with my life and that’s bothered me for the longest time, but recently, after dropping out of uni and going back to study something else, and a few more things that have happened in the meantime, I’ve learnt to embrace it. The good thing about not having A Dream I want to accomplish no matter what is, I can let things happen. I can take opportunities and move with life as things come to me, and who knows, maybe I’ll be like you in a few years. Hopefully, actually!
Do you still act? I act as a hobby (I love it) as well 🙂
Very inspiring post!
http://www.whatsashawears.com
Such a great piece of honesty and inspiration. I’m a new mom to twins and find myself feeling scared and a little bit lost in the direction my life has taken. This was a welcome reminder to embrace the changes and be brave moving forward. Thank you for sharing Emma.
This post is my favorite so far! College didn’t workout for me so I accepted a full time position in a department I was part time for. I love what I do now but it’s not what I thought I was ment for. This post was inspiring & made me feel so much more confident about the unexpected path I chose. It also made me feel like I could relate to this blog that much more!
Nearly up in tears…thank you so much for this honest, wise and insightful post! I realize I never really questioned how you an Elsie came to be in this place where you are today and that it wasn’t always like that (I’m here for about 1,5 years)- and it is very encouraging to read your words, especially at the moment.
Best wishes for you and your plans.
Moni
Wow…thank you so much for sharing Emma. As someone new to blogging, this is a true inspiration!
yes!
xo
J
I love this post! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you. Your line “It doesn’t look the same in everyone’s life,” gives me courage to think I might be succeeding in my own life, even though it doesn’t look much like other people’s success. I’ll keep doing what I do and see where it leads. ~molly
Awesome post! I respect you all the more for sharing this part of your story with us. Thank you!
Flooding of videos!!! Yes!!! LA is going to wish they had snatched you first…lol I could easily see a beautiful mess being a show on diy or hgtv or something like that…always inspired by you and your sister…you guys are awesome ♥
this is a very meaningful post for me as i can easily relate to everything you just wrote.
i’m 25 and going through an identity crisis. i’ve lost a lot of self-confidence in the past 2+ years and not being able to find something that makes me really happy and fulfilled has been getting me down and questioning my capabilities as a professional and even as a person.
for me, the hardest part is that i have had something i really enjoyed doing and was great at, so i know exactly what i am missing.
if i didn’t know and didn’t have those expectations, maybe things would be different. but because i do, it’s harder for me to be doing something less than what i love.
i am, however, fighting for something better and i know i will get there. i’ve learned you have to chase what you love because nothing will be handed to you just like that and i’ll be damned if i’m not gonna be happy with my professional life again!
thank you for this, Emma, from the bottom of my heart (:
well said. love this. thank you.
This was a much needed read for me. It is nice to know the story that happened before all the success happened. I know for myself I definitely have “failure” moments but they are just a part of my journey not my label. Thank you for sharing.
The sentiment of this post is so close to a key themes running through The Interestings – dreams can change. Jules was so convinced she wanted to be an actress that her career as a therapist constantly felt like failure – she failed to notice she was a good therapist and her clients felt she really helped them. She ended up undermining something she was actually quite good at because she was so fixated on her past dreams and experiences. We can change throughout our lives, it’s so important to try to enjoy the journey instead of fixating on something that didn’t work – you risk losing yourself off to so many new and exciting experiences that way. Imagine if Jules had realised she had a skill for listening and caring and saw her career change as a positive – imagine the effect that would have had just not on herself but on her relationships – with her husband, her friends and her family.
I really needed to hear this, even though it gave me a lump in my throat. I admire and even envy what you and Elsie do. It’s amazing, but when I look at myself, I do feel like a failure some times or just lost. Thank you for the words of encouragement (even though they weren’t just for me and we don’t know each other). I very much appreciated this. <3
my favorite post of yours. THE MOST INSPIRING MESSAGE!
What a lovely post Emma. Your story is so inspiring. After following your blogs for years now I always wish I had a big sister to partner/dream with. I currently live in L.A and I totally have a love/hate relationship with this city. I did meet the love of my life here, hoping we move to the Midwest to be more free in the coming years. I’ve been dreaming of switching my career from a Producer to a Photographer for a long time now. Fingers crossed! Thanks again for your honesty on this post!
I absolutely loved reading this! I’ve been reading the blog for quite awhile now and I have to say that this is one of my favorite posts! So inspiring to read… You have successfully made everyone who read that feel as if they’re not alone in whatever battle they may be having. The other thing that I loved about this post was reading through the comments, if everyone who has felt the same way took some time to read the responses they would know that there’s an extremely supportive community out there to help them get over the hump they’re stuck on!
Wow, what an amazing post. I feel you Emma and I’m so happy to see you smiling in your pictures. Much love from the Midwest!
Such an honest post. Thank you for sharing, Emma!
LOVED this post! I feel like the previous commenters have taken the words out of my mouth but here’s my story… I just graduated college and am on the job hunt. Not only is it daunting as can be, but I feel like all the sudden I have to know my career path. I’m a big planner and hate not knowing the future but you’re right.. sometimes you just have to go with the flow. It’s nice to be reminded that often a career path changes and evolves just as it was for you. And similar to you, I’m in the creative field (interior design to be exact) so I love reading how you tried out your creative skills and interests as careers and hobbies until you discovered what worked best. Thanks for your words and inspiration… it came at the perfect time 🙂
Thank you dear Emma so much!You’re very inspiring)
I tried to make something mine and now I sure that I’ll make it.
You must be proud,you make people happy)
I absolutely LOVE this post. Refreshing, honest, insightful. Thank you for sharing and congrats on all your successes (even though we miss you here in LA)!
Great stuff! Sometimes when reading blogs I end up feeling rubbish and thinking ‘why can’t I be that organised/crafty/stylish/productive?’ so it’s lovely to hear something inspirational and real at the same time xx
Aw, so sweet of you to open up about a vulnerable time of your life. I had moved away from home vowing not to return, then ended up coming back to take advantage of the opportunities NYC provides. Now that I’m here and have been able to build up the life of my dreams I can’t imagine living anywhere else! Being the youngest of 4 smart and successful sisters is sometimes intense, but I have been able to learn so much from them so it’s oh-so worth it.
It was lovely to read about your journey Emma, thanks so much!
-Maggie
http://www.maggiefinejewelry.com
Thank you for this. This post along with the crazy number of responses by people (most of whom I gather feel the same way I do about finding success in life) is what I needed to read today.
This is a great post! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you, thank you! I really needed to read this. I just started my blog this past year and I have A LOT to learn and enjoying stumbling my way through it. I’m also just starting the plans for a business and I’m very excited and a little overwhelmed about it….so your post was spot on with my life right now! I’m in my midi 40’s and excited about making a serious career change and finally starting a business of my own.
Thanks so much for your story. I love these types of posts!
Lisa
thank you for sharing Emma 🙂
Emma,
Thank you for sharing. I follow the blog, not extremely closely — I’m known for skimming and not reading — not a quality that I like to boast about. But I am an addict to your app. Anyways, a dear friend sent the link to this post to me today because it models exactly what I am going through. I’m right in the middle of this post…in your story I just left LA (reality NC) and actually did move back in with my parents and am now waiting tables while dabbling in blog/etsy/print shop ideas and dreams. I actually left a marriage that was crushing my identity, creativity, independence and hope. In that marriage I became helpess and hopeless — I debated my life. I failed at many career options and that only stifled any hopes and dreams. I felt like a failure. It was horrible. So here I am today, sitting in my childhood bedroom still very much in the very new, pitty party, shock stage of it all. But things are slowly falling into what feels like a new beautiful life ahead but it’s tough.
But anyways, I say all this to say that you sharing your story makes me want to share my story. I’m the girl that you wrote your post to today. I want to be that for someone else. Your success is amazing, but more importantly what you’ve done, how you’ve done it and the humble spirit that you maintain is awe-inspiring. It gives those of us who are at rock bottom, moving one rock at a time out of the way, hoping that through all of the rubble we’ll see light, we’ll see our dream and we’ll have the hope and courage to chase after it.
Thanks again for sharing your story.
Lauren
Thanks for this inspiring post Emma! Sometimes I definitely feel like I need this kind of pep talk, and it’s so reassuring to hear that other people go through this too. I’m at that stage where I’ve tried quite a few things and I still can’t figure out what I want to do with my life, so reading this gives me hope that I’ll figure it out in my own time 🙂 As Lauren said above, definitely one of my favorite posts so far, and I’ve been following along for a few years now! 🙂 xx
Emma,
You both have been such an inspiration to me! I cannot express enough how inspired I am thanks to this post most of all. This post has been a key factor in getting my own headspace back in order. Thank you for sharing your story and you are truly a wonderful person!
<3
Thank you so much for sharing this!!!
So great! I recently started on my Bachelor’s Degree at 25, finally knowing what I want to do with my life. For the first time ever, I have a 4.0 and it’s absolutely terrifying! Of course, it is exciting, but it also feels surreal. I am in the happiest, healthiest, and most fulfilling relationship I have even been in as well. We may be leaving our lovely home of Seattle in a few months for the hustle and bustle of San Francisco so that my boyfriend can attend law school down there. I’ve been feeling overwhelmed and completely anxious, but your post was extremely helpful. Thank you!
Congratulations! You absolutely deserve it!
Oh oh oh oh oh! I was just about to comment about videos, also! 😀 It’s exciting that you’re planning to do videos. I saw one of the YouTube tutorials you made a few years ago, and I thought you were a natural, Emma.
Have you ever thought of doing your book club discussion on camera? It’s just an idea, because that’s kind of your feature, and yeah.
Emma,
This is so honest and encouraging. Thank you.
This was such a lovely post. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I think that honestly out of these four lessons, the fourth one is the most important, and the most easy to forget. But when we remember that success is a process and not just something that happens all of a sudden, we are also able to stay more motivated and will feel more successful naturally.
rae of lovefromberlin
I am a second year college student, still have no idea what I want to study, and feel stuck! I started off in New Orleans, and transferred back to my hometown of Phoenix to go to ASU and have been feeling uninspired as EVER! I recently decided to re-apply to my school in New Orleans and have been struggling with making the decision to make the move again. This post made me emotional as I can really relate to it. Thank you for being so willing to share. I only hope that I can take to heart your encouragement and perseverance and put it to good use in my own life! Thanks 🙂
I am currently 24 and at such a loss for what I want to do. I’ve been following Elsie since she created some scrapbooking supplies back in like… 2006? I am always floored by the creativity that comes from both of you and I think it is so inspiring to read that you really found what you were best at and have managed to cultivate such a creative and successful life. Now I just have to figure out what it is I am best at.
Truly inspiring! Thanks for much for sharing your journey.
Thank you so much! what a inspire piece inspire so much to still keep my head up and give my all always!
This is my first time commenting here but I use your app quite often. Thanks for this post. I’m 38 and just now coming into my own dream as an author. Before this I was a screenwriter, web designer, thought about taking the LSAT, blogger, knitwear designer and editor of an online knitting magazine. None of them have felt wholly right, though I still work on the web side of things a lot. Now I’m an author and I’m pretty happy with it, all because I did most of the things you mentioned above. I adapted and my dreams changed. I tell younger folks this a lot. It takes time.
i really thank u ,i needed this kind of talk i’m married and have a daughter but still feel that i didn’t do what i really want for so long ,now i’m moving with my husband and daughter to another country ….having problems in language in purchasing my dreams doing what i love….i’m losing faith in me
Fara
As a college senior, this was a wonderful, inspiring thing to read. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Ditto heloise – long time reader, first time commenter. But after reading this I just *had* to post and echo everyone else in saying how inspirational you & Elsie are in your passion for your business, and your willingness to share so much of your life with your online community. Thanks for sharing your story & cheers to you for your success!
You’re damn right that sharing your story is inspiring to others.
I sure need to reflect and ponder my own life, and it helps a lot to know about someone who’s been in this spot.
Thanks Emma.
You couldn’t have posted this at a better time. Lately (especially this past week) I’ve been feeling lost with a side of helplessness + failure. I just spent the past few minutes reading this post and started tearing up because of how much I relate…I needed this reminder. There is always hope.
Thank you Emma.
Jill
Coming back home was one of the best things I did too… there was a point of time when (lack of) money almost killed my online venture. Instead of quitting it, I just moved back to home and bootstrapped. I am yet to make any kind of commercial success, but reading your piece, I am confident that I will break the jinx anytime now 🙂
So inspiring, thank you for sharing your process, it makes believe in my own dreams..
Thanks so much for sharing your story! I love hearing about what goes on behind the scenes. Just what I needed to hear today.
Jennifer Ashley
http://www.prettylittledetails.ca
I could not have read this at a more perfect time. Thank you.
This was really lovely. You do great work and it’s obvious your spirit and personality is in it. Thank you for sharing, very heartwarming and inspiring.
This is exactly what I needed to hear as I am currently battling to get the $260 I need to get back home to care for my dying father and ailing mother after not speaking for 10 long years due to my mother not being willing to forgive me for leaving home to get the medical and mental healthcare I needed that my parents would not or could not provide for me. My most major illness is Ankylosing Spondylitis and the most painful. (Whole other long story of sadness, tragedy and serious losses do to another’s unforgiveness). I found out at a young age that forgiveness is for yourself, not for the other person. But if you can forgive then you have finally reached the level of maturity. It takes alot of tears and a lot of talking to Jesus to get me to where I am today. I truly feel sad for my parents as they were mistreated by their parents but I am choosing to break that cycle by being stronger and educating myself about my illnesses and conditions so I can get the care I need to manage myself better.
However, I am trying to take the higher road by going back for a month to get them settled in a place where they can even be together. I can only be back there for one month as my own husband is Developmentally Disabled, possible ADHD, High Functioning Autistic. His Pituitary Gland and Thyroid are not working and there is evidence that He may very well have Vascular Parkinsonism like his father.
All this to say this, I am starting a new non-profit called Gentle Whispers of Love and this article is reminding me to keep reaching for my dream and to never let it go until I succeed, but if God changes the direction then I will follow. As America was made through “Blood, Sweat, and Tears” and I am proud to be an American, but more importantly, I am proud to be ME as I am unique and you will never find another person like me in the entire world although there are certainly emulators and copy catters out there. But sorry, ya guys, God is the only one in charge of my mold and I wear it proudly with each of my battle wounds and scars.
Thanks for being so authentic Emma. This post is truly inspiring. I just quit my well paying job in the corporate world after 13 years of continued success. My heart was telling me I needed to focus on my business and I couldn’t ignore that inner voice any longer. So now that I have made the leap into the unknown it is a bit scary. Being with a secure revenue is very new to me and I have elaborated different actions plans based on whether my business takes off immediately or not. If not, I could indeed move back in with my parents for a little bit. At 37 that might seem like a failure to some but I would rather decided to launch my business and have my parents as a fall back plan than not try it at all. There is nothing worse that regrets. Congrats on your amazing work and thank you for being so honest. It shows all of us that success isn’t a straight line and it’s okay to keep our options open and be flexible to different opportunities.
This really was an encouraging read and I’m so happy that you feel happy about your life now. I feel even more optimistic about my future after reading this and for that I want to thank you.
Oh, Emma, thank you for sharing this! What an inspiring story, I totally needed this 🙂
This is wonderful! Thank you for the transparency! It took courage and it is incredibly easy to identify with you.
Aaahhh! Just what I needed at this moment. So inspiring to hear as I push forward with my business Tin Roof Farmhouse {Vintage Rentals} & continue to question my decision to leave the corporate world. Thank you Emma!
Really great post, Thanks! 🙂 If I might offer a suggestion though … stop calling yourself a failed actress! Failure is a matter of perspective, remember if at first you don’t succeed, redefine success. 🙂
Nameste Florence
Awesome read Emma! truly inspiring 🙂 🙂
This was so beautiful , honest and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your light. I found this blog about 5 years ago, you and Elise have continued to be an inspiration from the beginning.
acctally never read this blog before, I stumbled across it in my blogloving list -which I never read!
Funny there are nothing left to chance if you are meant to embrace something bigger. I am sure this is why you struggled so mch as you where gently pushed into the right direction.
THERE IS NO FAILURE in Changing one Dream for Another and who said this wasnt a better dream? Perhaps evertyhing you have endured is what lead you to be able to make this into this wonderful thing.
I am impressed with you following your dream and in time also was able to realize that it was time to stop struggle and looking in new directions and claiming this as your own.
wow
Loved this Emma – thank you! My grandfather used to say that the only thing that stays the same is change – and embracing that is one of my challenges – and joys! Thanks for the inspiration and have a fabulous Sunday!
Thank you so much for sharing, I surely need this lind of wisdom in this moment of my life! 🙂
I’m kinda stuck with the idea of how my life should have looked at almost 30yrs old and I am guessing I should change my way of living it, so your post has been very inspirational! Have a nice day! 🙂
I’ve only just stumbled across your blog and I’m so glad I did. I now know where to go when I need some pearls of wisdom. I have a job but I also write self-published comedy-romance books in my spare time. I’m writing my fourth book and I’ve been feeling despondent about the whole thing. I’ve no idea how to reach a bigger audience or if I’ll ever be able to make enough money to do this full-time. Your honesty has given me the encouragement to keep going. So thank you. I’m going to be an avid reader of your blogs from now on. x
Thank you for sharing this. I accidentally came across your blog today, after crying my heart out that I need to give up on my design small business. But reading your blog reminds me that it is not meant to be easy to achieve your dreams. Thank you again x
Amazing post! Your story is very interesting and your tips are definately helpful. Thanks 🙂
How inspiring! thanks for sharing your story.
I had a vision two-three years ago for a career change, and I’m working on my business & blog, and constantly telling myself that while it’s going very very slowly (I’m still working a day job and I have two young children, no time for anything…) at least it’s going and I *know* that I will succeed making a living doing what I love in the end.
Thank you x
I loved this post so much.
After wanting to work in design and fashion for most of my life, and getting a college degree in it, I decided it just wasn’t for me.. and now I’m starting from scratch. Its rather scary and depressing, but I feel this is the right decision for me.
Somehow this post gives me more confidence in that decision, so thank you 🙂
Thank you for this post Emma. This is something I really needed as encouragement and direction in my life right now. This is my favourite blog by far, and I’ve been following it for ages. I love the creativity and fun you have with it. I often wish I could do something that made me happy like this makes you.
I’m 25, live in South Africa and have felt lost ever since I started studying design and then started working. I’ve been looking for something else to do but nothing has really worked out, so I plod along with my current design job, trying to make the most of it. It can be really disheartening to feel trapped in the job you have, and not really knowing how to lift yourself out of it. You are right about being open to change and going with the flow of things. I really would love to have my own business doing something creative, but have not figured that out yet. Hopefully this will be my year of change, and I can stop being quite so broke all the time!
I don’t believe in becoming succesful without having changed. As they say in Monty Python, the holy grail:
“I build the first castle, but it was in a swamp, so it sank. Then I build a second one and that burned to the ground. Then the third one sank into the swamp, too, but the FOURTH one! The fourth one stood!”
Just spent about 5 minutes trying to think of a way of putting this so that I actually sound like I mean it. This really spoke to me (gonna be honest – cried a little). I’m at this point in my life where I feel a bit lost and totally incapable of achieving anything I want – which, to be frank, is not something I’ve ever had to deal with. I honestly feel like your words could turn things around for me. So, thank you, really.
“Failures” are often the crucial ingredients for success and you’re very correct that life has so many twists and turns. We can’t plan life but we can keep our eyes open and act on opportunities when we see them. Congratulations on finding your path and pursuing – and achieving – happiness.
It takes courage to share things like this, thank you so much for sharing Emma! I’m really lost now but after reading the post, I feel the warmness and this is so encouraging 🙂 I have always been amazed by the creativity of all the projects u guys done!
Emma this is am amazing and inspiring post. As someone who is still in the trenches, it reassuring news to hear. Congratulations on your first million! That is freaking huge! (and a personal goal of mine.)
Thank you so much for sharing this Emma. It gives me hope that all the doubts I’m feeling about where I am right now are just part of the journey, that maybe what feel like failures are in fact stepping stones. ABM is so inspiring 🙂
This post is exactly what I needed to read today. For some time know I have been feeling lost and stuck in my old dreams for the future. It’s difficult to take a risk when you don’t know where that will take you. Thank you for sharing your inspiring story!
Oh, this resonated with me so much! I’ve been following my passions where they lead for the past five years, and never would’ve thought back then I would be where I am now…I’m writing full time, which is so much BETTER than my original “plan” and going with the flow of life, serendipity, whatever you want to call it, was how I got here.
Thank you for sharing your own path with us — it was so refreshing to your words. So often, being on the outside looking in at others’ lives it’s easy to think it was all one happy skippy, straightforward path, when that is so rarely the reality.
hugs,
Laura
Wonderful post! As I am at a bit of a crossroads in my own life, your story is helping me reflect on what my strengths are, and what I should be pursuing… I can’t thank you enough!
WOW!
This is the first post ive read on this blog. And exactly what I needed to read! Very bizarre, it seems if your eyes are open you really do meet the people you need when you need them.
Thank you for this, I will definitely be subscribing.
Diane
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Emma, how brave of you to write such an inspiring post, its funny how life works out. When we’re down and out and cant see the light at the end of the tunnel, it just takes an attitude switch, after the pity party to turn it around. Sounds like failing in LA was winninglater on, how awesome to look back and learn lessons from that. I use your app for instagram and love it! Thanks for posting such a great story about you!
thanks for sharing. and congratulations on everything you guys have achieved so far. i cannot wait to see what’s next for the future! truly wishing you guys all the best and!
Thank you for this post. I’m a recent reader, and love how this blog is designed and structured; like other readers have mentioned, how authentic it is and feels. I think this is some kind of message that God/the Universe are trying to send through these words lol I’m going through kind of the same situation that is described on the post (almost no money, living with my parents,…), and feeling a bit lost for the past few months. It’s hard and it’s not a nice place. I’m going to keep in mind these tips/steps. And to anyone that is reading and that feels the same way, I might give some advice… Do not give up, sorround yourself with people who love you, fight for your happiness.
Thank you again.
Emma, I’m new to reading your blog. Thank you for this post. It is exactly what I need to read this morning. Thank you for your honesty, and natural way. I wish you must more success in all your wonderful mess. 🙂
Emma, this is exactly what I needed to read! I’m going through something very similar…went to school to become a teacher, have 3 degrees, 9 years in the classroom, and now I’m questioning if it’s what I should continue doing. I took this year off to figure things out and give myself a mental break from it all. Thank you for putting your journey into words and helping me realize that it’s always evolving. 🙂 I love y’alls blog, but especially love the app!
Dana
this is so encouraging! i am just starting a blog about my life in brooklyn, and i know a lot will change in the next few years as I learn about my strengths/weaknesses…
Wow, thank you for being so honest and sharing your story. It is inspiring, so often we see others success and we dont know that back story. Hearing your story, really hit home for me.
This is a great post! Definitely what I needed to hear at this time as I’m making a big move to NYC with not much else besides dreams. Thank you for sharing 🙂
thank you for this, Emma. <3
That was an amazing post Emma. Could not agree with you more. Good luck to you and your team. You guys are amazing..
Love,
Janika
This is really encouraging, thanks for lighting the way!
Your story arrived in my inbox at a serendipitous moment. Thank you for the inspiration and affirmation of possibility. With my 2 sons in high school I find myself approaching an exciting time in my life, my time to follow my passions. Wishing you continued success- Bernadette
http://Www.bernadettethecookingartist.com
This isn’t embarassing at all and I”m actually so happy you wrote this! I’m going through this stage with my life right now. I’m changing everything around me and it’s scary, stressful, but I’m not happy with where my life is going and it needs to change. Reading this makes me feel like I’m doing the right thing! Like it’s okay to go in a different direction.
Thank you so much for this!
Sara from andalittlechaos.blogspot.com
I just moved back in with my parents, carting along my cute little dog after having moved in with my boyfriend of 6 years and realizing it just DOESN’T WORK.
This post helps.
Aw, I really love this post! Made me believe in myself that tiny bit more! Thank you, and you’ve got a beautiful blog and make some beautiful looking food!
Hi Emma,
Thank you for this – talk about parallel lives – I too was in the Groundlings, Sunday Show for two years. I booked a lot of good work by virtue of that and it looked like my life’s dream to act would be my destiny. Along the way, I became an esthetician and began balancing the two careers. As time went by, my skin care business became more lucrative, although at the time, my heart was breaking with the diminishing acting opportunities. Last year, I decided to create my own brand of organic skin care products. I’m in the baby steps and I still feel the pull from other side now and again. It’s not easy, but as you said, sometimes you have to go with what easily flows through you in the moment. I want to add that I’m 58 and that the cliche , “you’re never too old” is a cliche because it’s true. Many thanks for helping me keep the ball in the air!
What a fantastic story – I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed reading it! It definitely has inspired me to make some changes that I’ve otherwise been too afraid to try. Thank you!
inspiring and brilliant and honest and raw. thank you for sharing.
Thank you for this! It’s what I needed to read and you are such an inspiration.Nicole
I could not have read this at a better time. It was very inspiring and reassuring. I’m at a point where I’m realizing that as hard as it is for me to let go of some dreams I’ve held for a very long time, doing so would free me up to pursue newer, more realistic dreams. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Thank you. Your post was motivational & inspirational!
Wow. This post could not have come at a better time for me to read it. I am 26 and the past few years have been the hardest of my life. At this time, my husband and I have recently made the decision to move back to our hometown to pursue careers that we have been cultivating in Washington DC for the past few years. The decision was first made out of necessity (DC is an expensive and sometimes difficult place to live) but the professional opportunities that have already come to us out of our decision are making us finally feel like this is the right thing to do, and may even be a step up and forward from our lives now. Coming from a mindset of moving home = embarrassing public failure, it has been a truly life-changing decision to not only accept we are doing something good, but also accept that dreams have to grow and change from time to time to still be the right dreams for us and our growing, changing lives. Thanks for putting this out there, and let’s all keep these principles in mind for the next stages of our lives, too!
-Molly
THANKS! For this post, you hit the nail on the head. I toss and turn about what I’ve achieved, at age 25 and I’m constantly comparing myself to friends who I know that went straight from uni to an entry-level journalist job. Where as I, went to working as a waitress, to save to move overseas for two years, where I now work as a sales advisor, in a shoe store. Though I’m writing a travel blog (not a very successful one) and writing a few local guides here and there for a website (unpaid)…I feel at least that I’ve kept the writing going and I hope that when I move back to Australia, that I’ll find THE dream job or at least a paid writing job. But you are right, all you can do is hope, believe and work hard towards your goals.
Thanks again!
I´m so happy for you, that you managed to find your dreamjob. You´re an inspiring example, when I think of the way I have in front of me now. I´ll graduate from university this fall (if it goes as planned)and have no idea what will come after that. But if I keep going, life will move on.
Thanks for sharing Emma. Very inspiring and keep living your day to day.
I love to hear the stories behind every person’s success, so thank you for your honesty and sharing us yours, Emma. 🙂
I am incredibly encouraged by this! Emma, Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you for sharing this, a great read which warms the heart and soul. I respond so much to your story because in a way it’s also mine. When friends look at me now and tell me I’m successful it’s hard to tell them about all these moments when I threw myself pity parties for all the dreams that felt completely out of reach and when I lived with the gut feeling that I was a failure, that I was so late on life and on everyone. Thank you. Jesse x
Thank you for sharing your story! It’s reassuring to hear other people’s stories of how they ended up where they are today.
Oh wow, yeah, definitely needed to hear that actually. Thanks, Emma, I appreciate it. And congratulations 🙂
This is a truly inspiring article that Beautiful Mess should do more 🙂
Thank you so much for this post Emma, it’s honestly one of the most well said things I’ve read, not just about blogging but about figuring things out in life in general. All so true, especially to me, the part about moving into the things that work. And congratulations on all of your well deserved success!
I so admire you two. You’re young and you’ve got it together. I’m in my fifties and divorced nearly three years, and blogging, blogging. But I need to make more money. Due to an accident I’m pretty much homebound, so I will take your advice to heart.
I’ve followed you through most of this journey and enjoyed every minute. Your writing (and photos and recipes and outfits and everything) has always been inspiring and fun for me. I’m thrilled for you that you feel like you’re finally where you belong! I have always appreciated that you are authentic 🙂
Very Inspiring – I can so relate to your story & I’m 55!!
This was great to read! I am going to be a college graduate in a little over two months, and everyone (aside from my parents) is asking me what I am going to do when I graduate, as though I am supposed to have my whole life figured out at 23. By the time the 3rd person in a day asks me this question, I get anxious and nervous and I think “What AM I going to do when I graduate?!”
But then I remember that life is a process and the career I want doesn’t necessarily look like the typical 9-5 job from 15 years ago. It’s okay if I’m a barista for a couple of years while I figure things out.
I don’t always remember these things, but reading posts like this give me a little smack in the noggin and a boost in confidence/spirits.
So, thank you, Emma, for sharing your lovely, wonderful, amazing, non-cookie-cutter journey! It truly is inspiring!
Thank you Emma.
Life is an adventure that’s made to be lived.
A very inspirational post. Success is an ongoing thing, you can say that again!
Thank you Emma.
I too have never commented on your blog before, but this post really resonated with me. So heartfelt & simply direct! Not one of those ‘rah rah’ cheerleader posts, but an arm-linking ‘we can do it’ post – I love it! And so well written. Thank you!
I am so happy that you shared this Emma! I am eighteen, and have so many things that I want to try, things I am working towards, freelance writing, opening a small vegan bakery, but they are not really big money makers. Something more conventional may be easier, but not as much fun. Your story is so encouraging for me. I’ll be brave and give it a chance!
This is a great post, I really enjoyed getting to know you a bit more and how you came to be where you are now in life. Its gives us all hope for the future.
Thanks for sharing! I love it!
Im in that point of life, kind of… so your words made me happy. Thank you very much, so far one of my favorite posts.
Im now following you
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Thanks for sharing! I love it!
Im in that point of life, kind of… so your words made me happy. Thank you very much, so far one of my favorite posts.
Im now following you
http://happypajamaday.blogspot.mx/
This is the first post I have read. A friend sent it to me because I am going through the difficult thoughts of what do I do with my life now. I am currently teaching and not really thinking it is for me anymore. I also have a blog and enjoy writing. Thank you for your wise words, it lightens my burden a bit. I really resonated with the going with the flow of life and not going against it. Its nice to know that it will not always be this way. Thank you again for being vulnerable.
I am 56 years old and am still trying to “find myself.” I do believe that this is the most inspiring post I have ever read. God Bless you. So many need to hear this, including myself. So happy for you and your success, and that you now understand and embrace what it took to get you there.
This is so inspiring! Thank you for sharing!
Wonderful to read a true life story of the process of success. It’s not always pretty lol, I know mine certainly hasn’t been. I love the blog and the excitement that it brings to my day. Just started following about 6 months ago, but I am hooked! Seriously, I get excited to get online in the morning to see what you guys have come up with. You ladies are great and give me inspiration 🙂
Emma, thank you so much for sharing this! I just had to move back home too, and have been feeling like you were, and playing back all the what if’s in my mind. Everyday I just embrace what life brings, but I do need to give each opportunity the benefit of the doubt. This was really inspirational and exactly what I needed, Thank you!
Thanks a lot for this Emma!!!
I Love every singe word you havewrittem in this post.
Thanks a Lot!!!!
xoxo
Camile
I really enjoyed and connected with this post. I’ve changed my dream so often and it still feels like I’ll be changing a bit more down the road. It’s incredibly inspiring to witness your success over the years and now hear about your beginnings. Refreshing!
Wow! I really needed to read this after battling with some life issues last night. Somehow this post is like an answered prayer. Thanks Emma for sharing!
Your opening paragraphs are so inspiring! To own your happiness is a huge thing and to read of someone doing it makes me smile all over. Congratulations, how marvelous to held onto your true self and succeeded. I haven’t read much of your blog but that is going to change.
And thanks for the words about failure. Hard not to feel that way when you write and write but don’t get paid or amass kajillions of users. I used to be a corporate person w a paycheck and benefits but am now in these foreign waters. Your words help.
A beautiful reminder that all of our paths are different. This was just the ephifany I’ve been looking for, thank you for sharing Emma. Good to know our creative career struggles are worth it and we all will find a career that satisfies an artists soul!
this is SO inspiring to me. thanks for sharing your story. it is so beautiful to see how all out bits and journeys and adventures fit together! and how dreams change 🙂
Hello, from the Philippines!
My daughter is going to college next year and has been in a dilemma on what course she wants to take up. Your post is so timely and can’t wait to share this with her.
So happy to discover your site. We started a mother & daughter blog in 2013, and you and Elsie are such an inspiration. Thank you.
Have you been reading my diary?? Geez. Thank you SO much for writing this. Sometimes hearing that someone else has been in the same situation is exactly what makes getting through that situation a bit easier. It’s so important to share our experiences with each other because we really never know who we are helping.
thank you for sharing.you inspire me…
Thanks for sharing this inspiring and honest story. I completely underline your 4 ‘lessons’. Beautiful!
A very thoughtful and helpful post, thank you very much for sharing your personal story. I’ve had a number of careers, times when I felt successful as well as times when I felt a failure. During the down times, it’s great to have someone remind you of the endless possibilities that life throws our way.
So inspiring! Feeling so lucky that I found this post today,as I’m starting pursuing one of the most belated and postponed dreams of my life! 🙂
Congratulations on your wonderful successes, Emma. I’ve been following this blog for years, and your story really inspires me. I also blindly majored in Philosophy, simply for the brain-teasing fun of it, with no intention of using it as a career. Yes, I “have an education”, but now I’m bouncing around from city to city trying to figure myself out. It’s good to see someone who was once in the same situation come out on top! All the best to you. <3
Great post, I’m amazed Thank You 🙂
Beautiful post, I’m amazed
Thank You
thanks for this piece – I love the part about not always knowing if what you are doing at the time is a success …. I think we all have days like this.
I love reading your blog and enjoy your ever growing team,,,, need someone else to work for you from South Africa 😉
I had to try 🙂 hehehehe
I will keep blogging – this was a great article to read
keep up the good work
Betty Bake
thanks for this piece – I love the part about not always knowing if what you are doing at the time is a success …. I think we all have days like this.
I love reading your blog and enjoy your ever growing team,,,, need someone else to work for you from South Africa 😉
I had to try 🙂 hehehehe
I will keep blogging – this was a great article to read
keep up the good work
Betty Bake
A friend sent me this link after I posted about having no clue what the right life is for me, so I’m sure you can imagine how much I can relate! I think your first piece of advice to move with the flow and not against it is a hugely important one for me to take note from – I spend so much time analysing and re-analysing every situation to the point where I manage to talk myself out of a LOT of things. And I also compare myself to other people way more than is healthy. So thank you. It’s nice to know I’m not alone! Time to start rolling with the punches…
Jess
I HOPE I CAN BE BRAVE LIKE YOU….
That was lovely, Emma! So well-said, inspirational, heartwarming. Thanks for sharing! x
HI Emma,
Thank you so much for sharing this entry. It takes guts to be able to share this! I’m “lost” at the moment as i’m in the midst of moving to another country. (Singapore – Germany) and I’m sure I’m bound to have some failures/mishaps along the way. I’ve only been reading this blog for about 3 years, but i’ve been greatly inspired by it. Thank you for your honesty and sincerity!
-Jasmine
This story is really inspiring. I feel kind a lost now too. I have one plan after another inside my head how to express myself and make money from something that I love to do, but with so many ideas I do not know where to turn..Probably need time 🙂
However, amazing post 🙂 good luck with your business 🙂 kisses
wow! thank you for sharing your true story! you gave me strength not to stop in a way to my dream! you`re really a great personality and I`m in love with your blog <3
mary2be.blogspot.com
Any chance you can change the order of comments to newest at the top???
Thank you so much for sharing! Life is often difficult to navigate and we hold ourselves to strange measures and standards of ‘success’. ‘Move with the flow of life, not against it’ resonated with me – I think making the right decision is often more a case of ‘following your gut’ and knowing yourself, then weighing up the pros and cons and making a rational choice. Life is amazing and surprising!
Thank you…. You made my day 😉
Wow! Thank you for this. As someone who is currently everywhere and nowhere, maybe not doing great at anything in particular, this was exactly what I needed. Very inspiring. I feel ready to take on the world now! 🙂
This was a great read. I’m going through something similar myself and have been feeling so down and dejected lately. This was the kick in the pants that I needed. I really want to print out your rules and post them on my bulletin board! Thank you for the encouragement and the honesty in this article. You’re amazing and your story of success and time will stick with me!
What a beautiful post, Emma. I can relate so much and I’m glad it reached and touched so many people. I’m still trying to figure it all out and this gives me hope that one day I’ll get there, wherever that is. Thank you.
Oh my god, this is the most inspiring post I’ve read in a while.
Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you for sharing! Very inspiring! And, congratulations on an awesome blog.
XOXOXO…thanks for being so genuine and sharing so much of yourselves with all of us. I have found that I have made similar changes in my life recently…former Engineer turned Jewelry Maker, and once I embraced that change and stopped focusing on the “should of’s” and began embracing the “can do’s” my business began to thrive in ways not even imaginable! And yes you have to maintain enough flexibility to change with the path deviates a bit and willingness to make a hard decisions at times.
This really hit home for me, thank you for sharing. I think it can take creative types awhile to figure out their path, since it’s not linear the way attending law school and then becoming a lawyer is. Often we feel like we can’t imagine pursuing any other life, so we keep at it, making mistakes, failing, until we finally land on something that works. This is what I tell myself anyway, as a blogger and nonfiction writer. Someday, we’ll all get there. Great post.
I don’t normally comment on posts for any site, choosing instead to be a constant but silent reader, but I felt the need to send out a big thank you for this one. Your story is beautifully written and heartfelt. I have a feeling I’m gonna be coming back to re-read this post over and over.
WOW! This was awesome! Thank you, Emma, for sharing this. Big cheers from Brazil!
It’s so nice to hear from people on beautifully curated blogs like yours about the “real life” stuff. I think it can be hard to remember sometimes that everything is not beautifully styled kitchen posts and gallery walls! Thanks for opening up and sharing something so personal – I know this resonates with me!
I’ve been reading A Beautiful Mess for probably a year now and never commented. Thank you so much for this Emma! I am often envious of how great your life looks and wonder how I could possibly go about the same success. But it’s not always easy to get there. Congratulations on your success 🙂 You deserve it. I always enjoy hearing your funny voice through your blog posts.
Thank you for sharing, Emma. It is such an important step to erase “failure” from our vocabulary… No matter what sort of steps we take, we will learn from all of them. And, as the line of the movie goes, we are the sum of our experiences.
I read your post as soon as it was posted, and I felt the urge to write about my own experiences. It definitely is uncalled for, but I will surely do me some good to let it out, too, and as I do not comment much, this may cover for following you guys for quite some time now 🙂
All I’ve ever wanted to do for a living is writing and drawing. Bearing in mind that I live in Spain and that there is no such thing as a creative writing major here, or anything of the sort, I struggled to decide whether to study art or translation (I love languages and translating literature sounded like half the dream come true!).
Translation won, and I do not regret a minute of the career. But… I did not like the prospects of being a translator, once I tried. And literature translation turned out to be a playground reserved for a couple the “big guys”…
I did not despair, but was sort of lost. I started a PhD, working on young adult fiction translation, but it was not at all fun or interesting. Anyway, doing that allowed me to teach at the Faculty and that did yield some interesting maturity and perspective.
I decided that books were definitely back in the picture, and I enrolled on a Masters on Literary Publishing, for which I had to move to Madrid from where I had studied and lived for quite some time. This also meant quite a monetary stretch for my parents and leaving my boyfriend behind. It did not work out. None of it. The masters was not at all worth what it cost, my relationship ended due to distance and the world seemed to come crashing down on me.
All that I could take from the experience was the hope of getting stronger and all the doodling and writing that I did in class when it wasn’t interesting (a LOT!).
I came back to Vigo, where I had studied, and had just a short time to find something to live off, or I would have to go back to my parents’ (reaaaally small town, lack of friends in the area guaranteed). I took some translating jobs, which where too much work, hardly any bucks. My Mom still thought that a good job is the one where someone hires you and you have some financial security. Not my idea of a happy life, but at the time only a few people blogged, there was no prospect of it ever yielding any money, and no one seemed to live off arts & crafts via web. I was told that all my studies had been erratic and too eclectic (I’ve always thought that my goal was clear, but no one seemed to share that thought).
So I applied for some jobs and got one: since 2008 I’ve been working as an international projects manager at a university. It is not the worst job in the world, but it has become quite a burden, to be honest. There is one good thing about it, though: I work from 8 to 3. So afternoons and evenings are mine. I took some writing workshops and they were great. I learned and my work even got praised. I took my idea of a book out a drawer and worked, and worked, and worked.
And, as you so wisely put it, work pays off. I got published. My second book is on the way. My contract covers a third one, too.
It definitely is hard balancing both things right now, but I have proof that if I keep working at it, I WILL be able to make my dream come true. I am drawing a lot more. Even for a magazine. I am confident. I am happy. And I have a plan that is feasible and that makes me smile. The future ahead is only what we make of it. And I know that success is possible.
Again, thank you for sharing. And sorry for this “eyeful” 🙂
Your thoughts and experiences help even those who already passed what you have. It reassures and inspires people. And if inspiring people doesn’t make one happy, I don’t know what does.
xo
Thank you for sharing this, after years of having a six figure salary then losing it in middle age, i too have felt like a failure on many days. I fought so hard to keep many THINGS but found once I let go and moved back to be where my family is a huge weight was lifted and it is allowing me to explore my options and be with the people that love and support me most. Thank you so much for the inspiration. I have always loved fashion and keep playing with the idea of doing a blog it would be great if you guys would post helpful tips about getting started. Sorry I wrote a book but you really got my juices flowing today, THANKS!!!!
What a lovely post, Emma. I loved reading about your journey – bumps, bruises, and all. I think it’s easy to look at what a blessed life you have now and be jealous (LOL!) but it’s clearly meant to be. You deserve it. Bravo to you for never giving up and finally finding your true path.
Thank you for this real/inspiring/honest/encouraging post. I am also an art student, and to think about the future can be so overwhelming to me and make me question my path entirely. Thank you for reminding me to follow what I love, work hard and just see where it takes me 🙂
wow, your story is incredible !! Thank you 🙂
One of your best posts. I think one secret to ABM’s success is how down-to-earth and accessible you all seem, and this drove that feeling home!
Thank you for sharing your story, Emma. Even though things in LA didn’t turn out how you hoped, I’m sure it was still a wonderful experience.
How amazing that you are living your dream while staying (and working!) so close to your family!
~Grey
http://lovewishfully.com
I LOVE your story 🙂 For the last three years i have been working with my sister in with our small jewerelly business. And my biggest dream is to make it “all the way” like you Guys! You are so cool and inspirering. Thankyou for that 🙂 Best wishes from Denmark 🙂
I had a really awful week last week – breakdown sobbing on my bedroom floor kind of a week. I hit a breaking point with nearly everything in my life I felt was wrong or like I hadn’t managed to fix yet – a lot of the same things you wrote about here.
So the timing of reading this couldn’t be more perfect. I’m still picking myself up from last week and figuring out where I go from here…but I just wanted to say thanks for being a voice of encouragement for a girl you’ll never meet. I needed that.
-Miranda
This is first post which I read on your blog. I really loved it! I also sent a link to my friend, who has some doubts about moving to different city for studies. Hope that after reading it she’ll believe that at least it’s worth trying (even if she fail and will come back to home city). Thanks!
Want to hear something even more embarrassing then moving in with your parents? How about being 56 years old and having no idea where your life is heading? A mid-life crisis? Hardly. I’ve sadly felt this way for years. Oddly enough I’ve always been that woman that other women kind of envy – creative, a good mom, great cook, nice house etc. But I have little to show for my talents. In short…I’m a wheel spinner!
My GF sent me a link to this article for inspiration, having never visited your blog before. Thanks for the advice and support. I needed this today. And thanks Leslie!
– Valerie
Oh! I’m one of those early readers, i used to loooove your own blog, the way you express, your writing, your sense of humour. I remember those times, we witnessed that all happening, despite not knowing the details, i felt it, and i am so so happy for you, Emma!
As many, i am dazed and confused from time to time, because, as you said, life is never figured out, my mom told me so when i was about 13, but i anyways decided who i wanted to be, or to be more accurate: how i wanted to feel deep inside. Though i have no million dollar business (but, i’m not sure that’s what success means to me, so i guess it’s fine) and i have to struggle every month to get my bills paid and everything, i’m feeling awesome. I’m in love (and for the first time in my life i truly understand what “marrying your best friend” might mean), i’ve got projects, i’m starting to do artistic stuff i always wanted but i was too scared to, i feel talented and beloved, i don’t feel ugly anymore, and i figured out how to get up when i fall. And that’s just how i wanted to feel! That’s the woman i wanted to grow up to!
I guess that’s what matters, being proud of your growth, your learning through failure, because everybody, everybody, does fail, in businees, in finding your career, in finding your best partner, the love of your life, etc. We all make mistakes, we all have to fall, we all have to learn that may be what we WANT is not exactly what we NEED, and let life help. I’m sure it does 😉
Thanx for sharing and letting us share with you, and responding every comment. You rock out, i always say so.
Thank you for sharing. It means a lot and it is encouraging
Dear Emma,
Thank you so much for this.
I am right on the stage of ‘moving back home’ after studying a Master’s Degree in Journalism and no one is hiring. I have felt like quite the failure for the past 4 months while my other friends have all been hired.
But I started blogging more (writing which is really what I’ve always wanted to do), doing what I love and taking pictures of my travels and stories and I have slowly found myself.
I have looked up to you guys for inspiration all along and this post couldn’t have come at a better time.
I am happy for you and all your success and congratulations for all your hard work!
I hope you get to read this. But if not, thank you anyway 🙂
Maria
Hi Emma! Honestly just want to say that this post was extremely inspiring and definitely filled my heart with a lot more hope 🙂 I’ve been a little lost with some things going on in my life but I’m only 20 lol honestly this read was what I need on my lunch break. I started my own blog with my best friend a little ago and I love it …my hopes are for it to grow and inspire people like you have done! Thanks for this ..!
I have been reading this blog for years and can’t help but feel like I know you guys! Even though I don’t I am so proud of you and so glad that you are happy. I have so much respect for you both sharing your successes AND your failures. It is so sincere and motivational. I’m also a 3L in lawschool and have to say you’re much better off not having gone because (1) it’s kind of hell on earth and (2) if you aren’t sure you want to do it, you shouldn’t. So, well done. I love this blog and your app! I also totally miss Food Coma.
It’s been so great getting to hear more of your story, Emma. 🙂 Thank you for sharing your strengths, weaknesses, and experiences. It’s always inspiring!
Thank you so much for sharing this Emma, it is so useful to remember that successful people don’t just wake up one day, click their fingers and they are super-successful (at least I don’t think it happens that way!), but the journey getting there always seems such a secret. But I think the most important thing is to try something before you move on to something else, rather than being too scared to start. So thank you. Plus you are awesome!
Thank you Emma. I am also the younger sister and in a difficult time right now. Your words help raise my spirits so much and hearing your story is inspiring. THIS is why you are successful – because you deserve great things.
I am reading this post a few days later but I’ve got to say. You spoke right with me now… I even say that i got a tear in my eye, bcs it is exactly how this past year was for me. A completely failure, and now i am picking up the pieces and trying to go forward again. Thank you so much for sharing. You just gave me a big push that I was in need.
Thank you so much for sharing Emma. I needed to read this post. Hopefully i can see the beauty in my somewhat messy life. Congratulations to you and your sister!
Great post! I’m 29 and only just starting to feel that I’m heading in the right direction in parts of my life. The others I haven’t figured out yet, but I will get there.
Hi Emma!
I’m a 23 years old girl, almost finishing my degree in nursing and trying to understand my place in this world. I’m doing this degree because of a promise I did to my dad, university (in Portugal) it’s the place where we go after finish high school, we are so young to decide what we want with our life. I feel lost you know? I’m afraid to be a failure , like you said, if I don’t find myself. I know what I would like to do, But I’m trying to find my courage for that, I’m scared for the big next step.
This is my first time reading your blog, but I loved!
Thank you for sharing this with us, it’s good to know that we are not alone.
Kiss kiss Margarida
Thank you for sharing. Sometimes we don’t realize how much “our story” can truly inspire and encourage someone else. Thank you again for sharing such an intimate part of your life. xo
Wow. I had no clue! I started following this blog a couple years ago and I just assumed you two had always done this blog together (as well as the store and etsy shop). I had no clue you lived in LA or wanted to go to Law School! I always love when bloggers post things like this and we get to know you all over again and realize we all have more in common than one might think.
You guys were just normal girls with a dream and now you’ve got a million dollar company. That is CRAZY! I loved this post. Thanks for sharing.
xo Denise
lovelybohemian.blogspot.com
Thank you. Today was a good day for me to read your story.
Such an incredible post!
it’s been wonderful to watch the way this blog & your business has evolved!
also good to know that everyone else seems to go through this phase too!
i quit my job last year to help my family out & decided to spend this year trying to grow my business. it’s been rough & has already tested me in more ways than i could have ever imagined, but this is the encouragement i need to keep the faith & just keep on trying.
thanks so much for sharing & congrats on all the success that has come your way. you deserve it!
Cheray Natalie
x
Thank you Emma. This story is so honest. I’m kind of glad to hear that the most successful people struggled with this. I hope i can find out what my strengths exactly are…
Your story and your honesty is inspiring. Not at all embarrassing.
I also needed this today. I always wanted to become an architect and now I am one and I’m struggling so hard to combine it with my family (I have a 17 month old son). And maybe, just maybe, it wouldn’t be so bad to change my dreams… I never thought that I would find being a mum much more important…
Emma thank you for the bravery for writing such a post! This is so near to my heart as I too have traveled / lived far from home (Phoenix, Chicago & Milwaukee) yet when the decision was made to move home (Northern Wisconsin) there was a part of me that really struggled with it (in the terms of seeing myself as someone who my have failed at life for doing so). BUT it was the best thing my Husband & I did for ourselves, livelihoods and business. It’s amazing how life works sometimes!
This is absolutely beautiful! I’m currently going through my quarter-life crisis and constantly wondering about so many things in terms of where my life is going and what kind of life I want to make for myself, and reading this helped to affirm that I need to keep going in my quest – all roads might not lead directly where I would like them to, but if I keep going, I’ll get where I want to be eventually and will appreciate it even more because of the hard work that it took to get there.
Thanks for re-inspiring me!
Thank you for sharing! Reading these kinds of stories definitely helps keep me going when I’m at this low point in my life.
As a former actress, I can completely relate to this post and the need to be open to the unexpected twists and turns that life puts in our path. Thanks for the inspiration to continue fearlessly seizing new opportunities!
I’ve been an avid follower of ABM since it was 2005 and I was a freshman in college and I felt certain my calling in life was to a progressional scrapbooker. I was 18 then and am almost 27 now and have watched what seemed to be an outlet for Elsie turn into a business and passion and career for the both of you. So may I first say, what a joy to watch. I am in my last semester of graduate school, pursuing a degree in documentary film making and photography and am 2 1/2 months shy of graduating. And in the past week, I found the courage to ask if I can take another year with my documentary. (fortunately I’m in a degree program that gives that option). It has been one of the hardest things to do, being so close to the end. But I work 40 hours a week, am engaged and just don’t seem to have time to catch my breath and make something I’m proud of. Ive struggled with being ok with taking more time to make something I’m proud of and I just wanted to say thank you for your words. I have absolutely felt like a failure that i haven’t been able to do this in 2 years. Its as if Ive succumbed to admitting, no, I’m actually not Super woman as much as I wish I was and could balance all things. You ladies continue to be an inspiration that its ok to make time for the things I love. I don’t have to move so fast. Thanks again!
Wow a friend sent me this while I was down in the dumps about where my blog is going. I have no idea the blog had grown this much! I come in a peek all the time but this is awesome. I’m really happy to see a blog/website do well! I can only hope that I can turn my passion into something as big! Thanks for sharing your story it’s seriously motivating for someone like me.
This blog post really hit the spot. Ah – so good to get it from someone else, not just a friend that says: youll be okay.
Thank you!
I think it’s lovely that you shared your story. It’s huge to see honesty in blogs and in other women, and it’s hugely inspiring. Thank you.
Hi there,
I have followed you ladies for a long time and have had some fun with some your alls projects. Today and this post was my all time favorite. I often joke with my friends and fam that if my 18yr old self say me today at 28 almost 29 he would be sad, mad and disappointed in us. I am no where near where I thought I would be at this age, granted I make ok money and have a stable job, and that our dreams fell wayside. But reading this has def made me just say that “do it” and stop procrastinating or waiting till tomorrow and just do what I can today. Thank you so much for sharing this part of your story.
Oh my goodness…thank you so much for the practical nature of your shared lessons. This hit me at just the right time.
Thank you. Just thanks. This is what I’ve been needing recently! Keep writing.
thanks from Venezuela, I found you like a really inspiring girl. Here in my country things are very hard, and just reading your post makes me want a brighter future.
“Don’t set your heart on achieving one thing, only one specific way, in order to feel happy and accomplished. An amazing opportunity disguised as a mundane option may come your way tomorrow; don’t miss it.” Words to live by; in my book. Thank you,
Amazing post, Emma!
I feel like my story is a lot like where you were at my age (24!) Thanks for helping me get excited for the future 🙂
Love Leah (Reading since 2010)
Hi Emma,
I just wanted to say thank you for your brave and inspiring post!
I’m still trying to figure out what to do with my life and I really liked what you had to say about taking any opportunity, even if it isn’t one you would normally pick for yourself. I’m really scared of trying new things, but reading your post gives me a little more courage to try. Thanks!
This post really made my day. I moved from LA to Tokyo a year and half ago to get into the entertainment business here and it’s not always going the way I planned to. My goals and aspirations have changed somewhat too. Your experiences and success are truly inspiring, thank you so much for sharing!
http://www.lettersimpromptu.blogspot.com
Thanks for sharing this and for being so open and honest. Sometimes it’s easy to feel lost and without purpose. It’s inspiring to know that you found your way and have a wonderful business that you can feel proud of.
Thank you for this, Emma. It has come at a very trying time for me and I’m grateful for your inspirational message.
Hi Emma,
(all the way from Uganda -where we don’t have a lot to be proud of at the moment (you must have seen us in the news a lot lately) 🙁 )
I have been reading your (you and Elsie) blog for… cant even remember how long and I love it. Every single bit of it. I can’t try everything out here because I can’t always get all the materials/ingredients I need, but I do try to be innovative and you have definitely made me be more creative in my home…
I am turning 30 this year (am I your oldest reader?? goodness everyone seems so young…) and I am STILL trying figure myself out (does it ever end!!?). Your blog helps. I always felt my creative outlet is under utilized, and your blog just makes me want to use it more.
Thanks for sharing your success story. not to sound mean, but it feels good to know that you weren’t always this happy! 😉
Its definitely encouraging to me, and you have most definitely touched me deeply with it!
Cheers to both of you!
Thanks so much for sharing. This truly was inspirational!
This is a fantastic post. I feel like I need to have “Success is a process, not an event or state of being” written on a post-it note somewhere in nearby view! I know my life has turned out much differently than I pictured it would, but hanging on for the ride and letting the road take me where it will has been the best decision I could’ve made. Thanks for sharing!
Great post! Very inspiring!:)
I definitely needed to read this today. It almost brought me to tears as I sit here wondering what the hell I’m doing trying to be an author. Keep moving forward. 🙂
thank you emma for sharing all this! This makes me think about me my dreams and about what I want from my life and I really hope to achieve! Best words I read: Keep going. Work hard. Play to your strengths. Take opportunities as they come. Be brave. Believe in yourself! Real true! Hard but true! Thank you for sharing!
Im a brasilian girl. Sorry for my english. 🙂 I love so much your post. It so helpfull to me right now! Thank you so much!
Thanks for sharing Emma – it’s wonderful to read ABM and see all your successes, but it is also heartening and inspiring to read honest posts like this.
This has been ‘one of those weeks’ for me and I have truly appreciated your story xx
Thanks for the post, Emma! Also, I love your new cut! Can I ask who does your hair? (I’m a fellow Springfieldian.)
I loved reading your story! Thanks for sharing :). Very encouraging!
i totally feel the same way! i’m 24 as well and i think what’s tough for me (besides feeling lost and not knowing what to do), is that when i get a vague idea of what i can do (mine are usually very BIG vague ideas), it’s more of a “where do you start?’ sort of problem. idk, i think it’s very hard to find some sort of direction when there are so many things that i want to do and can’t pick one to focus on. because when i do, whenever i get discouraged, i just switch to another one. and the cycle continues and i end up not going anywhere. idk, this is so tough, but it’s great to see that i’m not the only one who’s going through (or who’s went through) this same thing! such a great post Emma!
I LOVE this post. It touches on so many of my own experiences with so much confidence and resolve in your words. Thank you so much for sharing!
This is the awesomest thing I’ve read in awhile and it couldn’t have come at a better time! I’ve been in LA for a little over 2 years pursuing the same dream you had and just decided to move back home. The past few weeks have been filled with the mixed emotions of excitement and worry that I’m making a mistake, but your story has really helped me see the light! Thank you thank you.
Thank you Emma for sharing your life with us. This post was definitely encouraging and I am so happy for you! Continue moving forward. You are awesome!!
xoxo. Brooke
Thank you for sharing your story with us Emma. You truly are an inspiration and reading your post gives me hope that I’ll be able to achieve the goals in life I would like. xx
This is…incredible. I feel like you just picked me up off the ground and gave me the gentle push I needed. I’d be crying if I wasn’t sitting in my dingy cubicle at work. Thank you isn’t enough, but–thank you 🙂
I’m so glad I can read stories of people that managed through difficulties to find their way to success (and much more) and encourage other people to go after what they want in life. I must confess, your post came into my life in a very difficult time. I’m standing in a crossroad, hubby and I have to make decisions about our life, in financial issues we are facing the last 2 years. I hope we make the right one and everything will go well. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing your story! I am 23, post-college with a useless major, and I struggle every day thinking about the direction of my life. (I can also relate to the little sister issues.) I’ve been trying to gain the confidence to start selling handmade, but I feel like I’ve been in a rut. This post is something I really needed right now! Thanks again for your honesty and inspiration. 🙂
This somehow made me smile. I’ve through a lot this year and yesterday I was crying because I felt everything I was doing was just wrong in any sense!
You’re an inspirational woman, Emma. Thanks you so much for those words because they made me feel that I can still fight for what I want, it’s just that and not there yet and there’s always a way to get it.
P.S: your haircut is beyond lovely!
xo
http://teaandmint.blogspot.com/
Thanks for sharing, Emma! I am currently going thru a life transition and know that many of my friends are as well. Being in our early to mid-twenties, we think we have to have it all figured out. It’s nice to hear that we don’t. I love the #1 tip: don’t refuse an opportunity. Can’t wait to see where else your business takes you!
This was wonderful! I feel like my life has been a continuing evolution of changing dreams. The girl I was 5 years ago, 10 years ago, would not have recognized the girl I am today. But I love her! Congratulations on all your success- you deserve it! xo
I really needed to read this at this moment! Still trying to figure it out all! I know that the path I have followed will lead me where I want, I just need to open my eyes well! thanks again for your post! 🙂
Kassi
http://www.makeupartistas.com
this was amazing. thank you for sharing. ive followed you ladies the last 2 years and you always give me so much hope, thank you <3
Lindsay xo
Such a great motivational story. I definitely needed this after the week I had. Thanks for sharing
You got me- I am totally inspired!!! I’m new out here in blog world. Surprised at myself; somehow figured out how to make a logo, learning about codes…making story boards..I’m doing something I LOVE!!! Writing, capturing moments through the camera and words…I love it. I don’t have a lot of followers on here..yet..but I got 12 like’s on my post “dating 101- after baby” and I think that’s motivation enough to keep going with this. And if no one liked it, I think I would still be hooked and do it anyway! Anyways, I went on about myself and didn’t intend to- I LOVED this post! Thanks for sharing- it inspired me 🙂
-GN
Such a wonderful and honest post. Thank you for sharing. Definitely something I needed to hear. Pursuing my dreams, figuring out what works and what doesn’t, accepting failures, struggling on little sleep and little money, has been an emotional roller coaster. I haven’t cried in my whole life as much as I have in these past few months. I truly appreciate hearing your struggles and successes! So happy for you, so thankful you had the courage to share with us!
Thank you for telling your story.
I am feeling a bit lost now and your story really moved me.
I hope I will find my way as well.
Wow thanks.. I recently moved back with my family. I left La -15 days ago. And I’m back in Houston,Tx where a weeks feels like a month. I’m Leaning a lot about my self I do feel defeated in a way. But reading Your story is really motivating… THANKS
ALEJANDRO
I NEVER comment on blogs. Mostly because I read them on reader such as Feedly, so I never have the chance (and honestly, don’t ever feel like commenting).
But this post… wow, you’re such an inspiration to me. Hopefully one day I’ll have a similar story to share, and you showing and embracing your past failures, embracing the fact nobody’s perfect (while so many out there keep trying to convince us they are), it’s absolutely inspiring. Can’t thank you enough for opening up your heart with us.
Wish you all the best. =)
Emma, Thank you so much for sharing this post. I wish I had found it sooner! I’ve been struggling for a while now, especially lately and this post has totally given me the encouragement I’ve been desperately needing. I feel like it’s so easy to self-criticize and label ourselves as failures if we’re not demonstrating or experiencing conventional ideas of success. I know I do it to myself a lot, and yet I would never consider viewing someone else’s experiences in that way. Thank you so much for posting, especially reminding that success is a process. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank you for sharing, Emma – posts like these are the reason that readers like me keep coming back for years on end. Your readers appreciate your honesty and candor about your lives, your business, your feelings…we love you!!!
thanks for this absolutly inspiring post ..
you’re just great and a real heroine for me 🙂
wish you all the best .
I think “A Beautiful Mess” is a great way to sum this post up. Love it!
I needed this today, I’m a graduate with a history and philosophy BA degree and although my heart is in history and museums and archives at the moment (due to alot of reasons) things aren’t going where I wanted them too. After a period of long term illness I’ve realised I don’t need to be in my dream career at 30. Life is for living and experiencing, and it’s ok if I want to try something a bit different (I’ve been eyeing up veterinary nursing but feel like I’m betraying all the hard work I put in to my degree). I’ve always been someone who was good or ok at things but never really talented at anything, I always (and honestly still do) feel like a failure when I see people I went to uni with thriving in the place I want to be. Early adulthood is definitely not easy! But things are changing, I’m moving to a new part of the country with my partner and I’m ready to try and embrace all the new opportunities that may arise. It helps to know other people are feeling the same and I admire your honesty, thankyou. 🙂
wow, so empowering. I’ve been told by family that I kinda am indecisive. I change my mind a lot I never looked at it as a negative until they pointed it out. well I worked in customer service clerical jobs than nursing and now a want to be an boutique owner. what I’m trying to say is they were all customer service. so lately I’ve been trying to choose always what makes me happy hoping that I can make money doing that. so that’s what led me to boutique, I love playing dress up I literally have outfits planned for many outings that I don’t know of yet, LOL! so thanks I’m still trying to find my happy place! I’m married with kids house and a dog, I should be content right! anything but! well we will see! I have a fashion blog coming soon, candiedgirl.com. maybe you can check it out one day.
Thank you so much for sharing this.
Gosh, thank you so much for sharing this, Emma. It is so refreshing when people are so honest on the internet. My big dream actually is to be an actress and a filmmaker. There are many others things that hold my interest, of course. I have no idea where that will take me or if it will work out, but you have put a new perspective in place for me. Sometimes I feel so blindsided to other creative endeavors and opportunities. I often feel like I have no one to relate to. I’m very young still, but it’s nice to read someone else’s experience. You and Elsie are amazing ladies!
Thank you for posting this. Right now, I am in the process of starting my first food blog. I know it’s what I want to do – food is what I obsess over, to the point that I get so immersed in it that I lose track of time. Nevertheless, I have struggled with some lingering, nagging feelings of guilt that if I commit myself fully to my blog, I’ll throw myself into it completely and leave behind some other longstanding ambitions I have had in the past, ones that I have been passionate about for a really long time. I find it really reassuring to hear someone as successful as you saying that it’s okay to change your dreams and reevaluate what you want!
I agree that dreams do change. I remember dreaming of becoming a media practitioner when I was a kid. I took up broadcasting course and worked for a major network here in the Philippines as a segment producer.
It was a challenging job, but literally demands ALL MY TIME. I switched-off my social life and all in exchanged for this job.
After many years, I’ve realized that this is not the life that I really wanted to do. I want a life that gives me space and time to enjoy life and breathe.
So I quit… found a job that gives me balance and be able to do what I love like blogging. 🙂
Your post is very inspiring!
Thank you for this 🙂 I’m now 23 and I feel like I’m not where I’d be supposed to be ..but that actually gave me a lot of hope! Congratulations for your success..you blog is my forever favorite!
This post is an inspiration for me. I feel strong now, after read it. Thank you very much.
Kisses from Spain.
Thank you for this post, Emma! I have spent most of my twenties experimenting with doing different things, going with the flow, travelling and doing creative things whenever possible. I’m now a teacher and freelance writer but have no idea what I’ll be doing in five years. It bothers me a lot less now than it did at 23 or 24 (I’ll be 30 next month). I definitely agree with the idea that your dreams can change and you should be on the lookout for opportunities that don’t necessarily fit in with your plans. Thank you for sharing your story!
Hi, I’ve just accidentally come across this blog and what I found here was the greatest post ever. Long time since I’ve been feeling somehow lost, giving up on my dreams just because I, again, SOMEHOW stuck in this uncomfortable place of mine. Thanks to you and this post I’m gaining hope and my motivation back… trying to open myself for all the opportunities ahead. And I know I will have a better tomorrow. Thank you, Emma!
A brave and beautiful post! And very inspiring for someone who’s teetering on the edge of making new choices or sticking out the old ones. I think I know which way I’m going to jump. Thanks Emma.
Thank you for this.
This is so great, Emma. I’m currently in that process myself (I quit my job a a mechanical engineer to become a writer and yoga teacher). So worth it, but definitely scary and a terrifying process!
Inspirational!!! I love this story! You worked hard, got lucky and found your way in life and became so huge!!!
I love your pure honesty. I’m in the depths of a personal storm and your inspiration is a gleam of light that I need to keep moving forward. We all experience trials and tribulations that provide us with lessons on the path to our dreams. It’s all part of the journey, it’s just so hard to see that when you’re in it, when your dream seems to get further and further away. But, it all comes back to: everything happens for a reason.
Hi, Emma.
This post was such an inspiration to me! I’ve been blogging for awhile, and for way too long now I’ve been feeling kinda blah about it. I love what you guys have done here and was motivated enough to completely overhaul my entire blog (which was a lot more work than I ever thought it would be). This blog was a constant source of inspiration for me because it showed me what is possible. Thank you so much! I look forward to reading and seeing more in the future!
-Jessica
This is exactly what I need right now. Thank you so much Emma 🙂
Thank you for posting! This is so encouraging. You guys are such an inspiration.
xoxo
You have no idea how thankful I am for this post <3 I struggle with choosing a right direction in my life and want to finally do something with my it that will make me feel better. Although I'm only 20 I think I wasted a lot of time. Now you became my inspiration!
Thank you so much for sharing! Your wise, humble and authentic words were touching and encouraging.
I’ve been feeling lost and confused about what I want to do with my career, so thanks for this, thanks for sharing 🙂
Dear Emma,
Our class read your article and loved it.
It was extremly inspirational.
we liked the way you had the courage to tell us your past failures and triumphs with the world.
we hope people in the future will realise that life will not always go the way they want.
From kapunda primary school South Australia
(Zac, Justin, Sam and Macy)
( Year 6/7)
Thank you for sharing! I feel like I am still figuring out what I want to do with my life. It is nice to hear that others didn’t always have it figured it out. I think you found your calling!
I’ve finally figured out what I really want to do with my life recently, at 35 years old.
I’ve tried, and failed at, several things already–mainly because my heart wasn’t in them, and I couldn’t “make” myself stick with anything I wasn’t passionate about. I felt like such an undisciplined failure because of that, like I couldn’t make myself stick it out.
But in retrospect I am so thankful for those failures. They sent my head to some pretty dark places at the time (try living with your parents, however briefly, in your thirties!), but I was able to clear out the residue of what other people had convinced me were “worthy” pursuits, and finally hear my heart’s calling.
Success feels not only more possible with the pkans I have now, but also more enticing–not just something to check off a box. Life’s taken a big upswing. And I agree, you don’t figure everything out in your twenties. Trying out a bunch of things is huge, and so is giving yourself permission to call it quits on things that aren’t working out. I’ve never been happier than I am now, and I owe it to the failures I allowed myself to have.
What wisdom you have to share-a beautiful and inspiring story. I have sent it off to my son and niece who are both in college. I am following where my life is leading me which is a new direction at 59. Something I never thought I would be doing- I hope to incorporate my art & illustration background as I move into drug and alcohol rehab counseling.
Very inspiring–thank you! I also majored in philosophy just because I loved it 🙂 Kudos to following your dream!
Such a great post!
Thank you so much for sharing this. I wish I was as young as you again so that I could have those kinds of opportunities to recreate myself. I wish it wouldn’t have taken me so long to finally read this post. You deserve every happiness. I’m so glad that you share all of your strengths with us.
Hey Emma, big thanks from Brazil – this was just what I needed today. 🙂 x
Emma, You dont have know idea how much inspiration this post is to me. At this moment in my life, I’m right now where you have been after moving back from L.A. . I also moved back to my parents place, after I have failed in job, University and much more…..It’s good to know, that this happens to so many people who still dont give up. Thank you, thousand times….
A lovely reader from Germany
So inspiring. Thank you for this…it was much needed.
Emma – thanks for sharing. Not that it matters, but it was YOU that brought me to this blog in the first place (I used to follow your food blog). I think both you and Elsie are inspiring creatures, but you definitely shine on your own. I think it’s an added bonus that you both complement each other so well. 🙂
Thanks so much for being brave enough to share this, I have that feeling at the moment where I don’t think I am really going anywhere. I am stuck in limbo not quite sure where I want to go with my life and this has made me realise sometimes you need those episodes and they aren’t anything to be ashamed of its just a process of life. Thanks again! xxx
Oh My Goodness!
It is wonderful to hear others share the challenges and struggles that they are going through. It also feels good to NOT be alone in this world of discovery as we go through these changes.
I got everything ready to go last year and set up my new website, going with Word Press from the beginning. I had done months of reading other’s sites and taking notes on what works for some and doesn’t work for others. I got it up and going and then it fell flat on its face taking me with it. I kept trying to go back to it and it just hasn’t felt right, YET! I just received an email from my webhosting asking if I wanted to renew it for this year. I said yes, even though I am still not sure what I’m going to do with it, yet.
This post has been an INSPIRATION for me. Thank you doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel right now, but I will say it anyways.
Thank You,
Kat
I just stumbled upon this post tonight and wanted to say thank you. I am finally feeling like I am hitting my stride with a few things in life but am still worried about others. So this was really encouraging. And many blessings to you and your sister!
It’s not embarrassing at all! It is so moving I cried (in a good way) I’m 20 and I know in still so young to think that I’m a failure but sometimes I feel so just because I didn’t get that dream job. It’s so shallow I know! But I also know that everybody starts from the bottom and I have high hopes that there’s no way to go but up. I am so inspired by this post. I may not comment a lot here (because your website is blocked at my work. :/) but I’m an avid reader. I’ve never been this encouraged! Thank you for this post!
Hi Emma!
Thank you so much for your words and encouragements!!! Just the thing I wanted to hear today as my professional path is getting unknown…
ABM is so inspiring!
Greetings from Canada!
Claudine :o)
Thanks for your article, it’s very inspiring and it feels so good to see that we’re not the only one in that case! Most of the people don’t talk about that part of their life where they struggle, or some are just lucky, so when you’re working hard and see the others showing their success, you wonder why not me… Hopefully I had parents that always reminded me that success would come if I was working hard and dreaming strong, and reading articles like yours that had those moments in their life makes me realize that they are right! Thanks so much 🙂
I’ve never read anything that had more relevance for my life right now; thank you for being so brave and beautifully honest.
Meg
What an awesome read, truly inspiring 🙂
I’m really happy that I came across this post. I am going through a similar situation as you were when you decided to move out of L.A. I’ve been living in L.A. for almost 6 six years now and I am nowhere close to achieving my dream as a sound designer. I’ve finally decided late last week that it was time for me to open myself up to new opportunities. I’ve decided to expand my search further than L.A. county and to move in with family if any new opportunities come my way. After reading this post it makes me even more certain that I am making the right choice for me. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for sharing your every changing process!! Seeing how far you ladies have come is inspiring! Looking back it all makes sense, but when you’re in the midst of an uphill battle, it sure doesn’t seem like you’ll ever make it. Again, thank you so much for sharing!
Thank you so much for sharing your every changing process!! Seeing how far you ladies have come is inspiring! Looking back it all makes sense, but when you’re in the midst of an uphill battle, it sure doesn’t seem like you’ll ever make it. Again, thank you so much for sharing!
Wow.
I can’t thank you enough for sharing this with us, Emma! I can only imagin how much hope you must’ve gave you readers — including myself!
I have heard nothing but good things about this article, I even bookmarked it earlier in the week and finally got around to reading it tonight.
Amazing & so inspiring. I am so happy for you and all your success! And I am hopeful, too. Thank you for giving so much wonderful insight… so encouraging!
I will be sharing this on my blog tomorrow. 🙂 Others need to read this!
This is, without a doubt, of the most inspiring things I’ve ever read. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I kind of have a refreshed outlook on life now – xx
Such a great post. Thanks so much Emma. (Also this is totally unrelated but I totally gauge how old I feel in blog years. I remember reading in the early days of Red Velvet Art and it’s crazy how much you all have grown and expanded the brand.)
THIS is exactly what I needed right now. I don’t know exactly how I found my way to this post (FROM 2014) but it totally speaks to me in my current stage of my life. Thanks Emma! I would love more posts like this.
Deanna
Oh Emma, 🙂
You and Elsie are my heroes. I love you guies soo much. Thank you so much for sharing your life story which is so raw and similar. I too have a loving younger sister just like you. We share an amazing friendship and bond.Your story gives strength to others to keep climbing. God Bless U. And i feel so fortunate to have found you guies and your amazing blog. Keep shining!! Lots of love from Vini and Amber.
Regards,
Vini
Your story is so inspiring! Thanks for being so honest and encouraging–posts like these are some of my favorites!
hey Emma,
Thank you for sharing such a personal story. It’s inspiring & reassuring. Keep your spirit burning the way it has & you will go miles, taking others ahead with you! Stay tough, stay happy 🙂
good luck,
Bipasha
This was so inspiring! Thanks for sharing!
I was re-reading this post today… and years later it just feels right for me at this point of my life… Thank you for share this with us Emma! Love from Brazil! 🙂
A wonderful article and so well written. I have two daughters and I will be sending them links so they read this! A wealth of inspiration for young women.